Hi I was hoping to gain some opinions from you about this issue I have with my DH.
I'm quite creative and like to paint, make things and have made a few things for my house, my DH isn't artistic and prefers to buy things for the house from a shop. He is also quite particular and likes things a certain way so when I have in the past created 2 paintings for the lounge he made it quite clear he didn't like them, suggested we replace them with paintings from a shop and in heated discussion about decorating said "I have to put up with these pieces of shit on the wall" now these paintings were A3 quite simple and modern and had a flower design on them nothing crazy or offensive. We then replaced them with similar paintings in colour and design from a shop, as much as it hurt me to do so.
Now this also happened when I wanted to decorate our DS's nursery, I had an idea of some things I wanted to do, bunting, lampshade, frame with different colours and photographs in it (again nothing crazy) and he was quite against it and wanted to just buy a set of room stuff from mamas and papas. I have explained that I have a creative job and that I would like to do some things creative in my home, again another argument with him saying "I will be embarrassed to show my friends of family my sons nursery"
He says afterwards that he says things in the heat of the moment, but the paintings were not to his taste and he actually liked the nursery in the end. We do have one painting that he doesn't mind in the study, a little cast of my DS hand and a little painting on the landing that I feel he has 'allowed' rather than 'liked'.
Now the thing that bothers me is when he takes on DIY such as boxing in a radiator or build things in the garage, does something in the garden he wants me to notice, praise him, reward his efforts and basically make a fuss (he denies this but he is itching to show me and wants my feedback and will mention it again several times the following week) I have said I think he is great at DIY, electrics etc who needs a carpenter when we have him that sort of thing.
We had a bit of a row last night when looking at one of his latest projects where I said if this was the other way around you would grunt at me and barely look at what I did or call it a piece of shit. He then again said I didn't like those paintings I'm allowed to have an opinion, you are self centred to just create something for a lounge we share without consulting with me first. But what he has just built he specifically wouldn't show me beforehand as he wanted to do it his way.
So not talking today.... Please I need your honest opinions. Am I in the wrong? What do I do now?
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Is this equal in our marriage? Need people I don't know to give their advice.
Millie3030 · 18/07/2015 10:05
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