Hi
My partner and I have been together two years and initially there were a few attempts at sex, I prefer saying making love, but after the first few attempts it was apparent he was having problems . My bloke was devastated as he'd been a very virile male, lots of previous partners and a very macho man. He'd given up smoking and gained weight by the time I'd met him, he was divorced but the ladies still chased him.
As weeks turned into months and now 2 years, I really don't know how to broach this subject as my partner has acknowledged all his manhood desires have died,he says he finds me attractive and hates me hiding my body when I get changed but he has lost all sexual desire .
He's had blood tests, all ok, no reason at all for no sex. He was given the blue pills over a year ago and now I'm scared to even suggest trying them.
He is a lovely man, he holds me all night long when I stay at his house but he avoids any conversation about S.E.X. And I avoid touching him any where near his privates in case he panicked .
We are 53 and 55, I'm too young to not be passionate with the man I Love, no I don't expect Rampant Sex but I'd love to share the amazing feelings making love to someone you love can stir.
Please help me to find a way to help my partner open the door to some thing that's a natural desire to share , other wise I'll spend my life just accepting our situation and wondering why I can't get my partner to even want to try to address this ,,,,
Why doesn't he have any desire at all?
I feel old and ugly when I'm told often I look a lot younger than I am ,
How can I mend this?
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AmINeedy · 13/05/2015 17:44
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