Sorry if this is long, Need advice please. From my description of a man I have started dating someone warned me about Love Bombing.
Google it and its not good, possible psychopath or controlling person.
The man I have been dating I knew from online dating but never met for a date, by chance we ended up at a bar and instantly recognised each other. Didn't talk at bar but he chased me down online and the flattery began. Quickly set up dates and he is constantly texting, offered to help me with some problems I had going on. He tells me constantly that I'm beautiful, all he wants in a women. He text that he's missing me, wants to be with me.
We DTD on fourth date and all went well, he asked me to be his girlfriend. He has been suggesting it from early on but I told him it was too soon to really know each other.
He says he already feels very close to me already, I have not been able to buy all he says.
I grew up with verbal abuse and was made to feel worthless and unwanted up until I left home. Due to this I have built my own self confidence and don't let other people's criticism get into my head.
I was worried I was being too hard on the man in question because of my lack of being able to except or need compliments. Its only how I see myself that matters to me.
I have challenged him quite a bit on his ott comments, he said I was photogenic, perfect and could be a model. I told him I was not happy with comments like that. He apologised, I told him early on I thought he was a player and just flattering me to keep me hooked. He said he's just a nice man and thinks the world of me, wants to be with me and get to know me.
My family think he's just very nice and for once I should except such attention.
He works and I know where, he has access to his children regular, if he was a controlling bad man would two ex partners allow him access.
He's calm around me, acts like a gentleman opening doors, kissed my hand and is very touchy feely person. Compliments my clothes and tells me I'm beautiful when were together.
I do sometimes think someone will jump out with a camera and its all been a wind up.
What Red Flags do I need to take notice of?
Anyone had a man act like this and actually turn out to be a genuine man and relationship material?
All advice welcome.
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Love Bombing...Is it a reason to worry, Red Flags ?
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