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Come to head tonight! He said its over

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Mini05 · 24/10/2014 20:23

so tonight he's getting ready to go out! Again no mention off this just him having shower/shave.
So I ask where you off too tonigh, usual place was his answer. I said so where's that then, it's nothing to do with you I don't have to tell you everywhere I'm going! I thought that's what people in relationships do communicate to each other. Few more things said, he not giving me any answers just trying to tie me in knots with his words and twisting things round onto me.
I asked why he's so secretive with his phone, and I said if you've nothing to hide so me to which he says I don't have to show you anything! He said something I can't remember now and something snapped in me! I put the tea in the fucking bin! To which he went ballistic calling me names Like cunt,bitch,bastard etc etc .
He then makes himself beans on toast (cause nothing puts him off his food nothing) so I start to tell him how he as been over last few months rejecting me(physically) to which he says "well your to dry" I fucking flipped and slapped his face(which I'm not proud off) and it just escalated from there!
He telling me that's it you've over stepped it no fucker hits me screaming it at me to which I say how dare you say that to me and not have the balls to tell me and abuse me mentally by rejecting me both mentally and physically.

He's gone on and on to say if I touch anything of his what he will do to me(police,solicitors) and how I will not get away with anything, at this point balling at me and if I come back and you have to my things you will be sorry!!

If he thinks I am just going to carry on living in this house with him till it's sold he can fuck off. He said I'm mental and because I hit him God knows what I'm capable off. But it's ok for him to ignore me and just come and go when he like(think that's ok to do, he's worked 40 years so can do what he likes)
He's gone back to when I was depressed really badly, and wanted him to stay and be with me and threw it back in my face how he could do anything. And how I didn't want him(physically).
Loads of shit as been thrown at me, also about my son(who as never said a bad word to him ever) 25, how he will never do anything for him again, and now we will be plotting together know!! Son keeps himself to himself never ever said anything about me to him ever.

I'm so upset off what he as been thinking(to himself) and not discussing with me! He also said he was depressed(wether he is??) to many things to site down. I just feel I've lived with somebody I don't really know and who thinks he knows what I AM THINKIN WHICH IS FUCKING FRUSTRATING

I want to chuck his fucking things on the doorstep, but the the other side of me comes in I can't .
Some stupid side off me tells me I still have feeling for him.

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Stuckinastorm · 24/10/2014 20:30

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Stuckinastorm · 24/10/2014 20:33

Of course you still have feelings for him, don't beat yourself up for it... But... From what you've said he really isn't worth keeping. Can you sleep in a different bedroom, label the food you buy with your name... You're not taking what's his, are proving a point that you won't put up with it, & feel good knowing he hasn't got the house to himself while it sells.
Chin up :)