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Readers' Wives type online porn & chat

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WitchWay · 13/09/2014 19:13

Anyone know of such a website or organisation with the initials MS?

Just gathering information.

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FelicityGubbins · 13/09/2014 19:46

I think there used to be an adult match doctor, not quite the same initials though

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WitchWay · 13/09/2014 20:04

So if I found a couple of sexy emails with home-made porn pics attached in a folder called "Other", how wrong would it be to relabel the folder "Porn"?

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SirRaymondClench · 13/09/2014 20:09

What exactly has happened OP?

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FelicityGubbins · 13/09/2014 20:09

Personally I would rename it "this is gonna cost you a fucking bomb in divorce fees, cunt" but you could rename it porn if you wanted Smile

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YellowTulips · 13/09/2014 20:16

What makes you think it's from a website as opposed to emails sent directly?

Having said that I don't see what difference it makes.

I'd simply confront him and not give him any time to think about an excuse.

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WitchWay · 13/09/2014 20:24

I was assuming it was from a website but agree it could just be emails. Couple of saved ones from May & June with pics attached.

He asked me to print out some stuff from his email he needed for a trip he's on this weekend. We used my laptop as it was up & running. I lost the messages as they weren't in the inbox but saved in a folder & opened the porn one by mistake. Just the two messages - no more, I've looked, but there will be more I expect on his own laptop.

I'm not bothered by porn per se & know that he accesses / has accessed it, it's the associated messages I don't like.

She has bigger tits than me but my arse is way better.

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WitchWay · 13/09/2014 22:46

Well I've renamed the folder. He'll be back on Tuesday (Monday is our 24th anniversary) - let's see if he's noticed by then.

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 12:06

From her email address it looks as is she was born in 1991, the year after we got married. I have replied to her mail to him & copied him in. He scoffs at his friend who only fancies very young women Hmm

We have had a pretty crap marriage for years, from my perspective - he thinks it fine. There has always been porn & he has tried to get me interested in swinging. I'm not bothered by anonymous stuff but this is a real person he's exchanging things with. I don't much fancy him anymore & we haven't had sex for months - these will be his excuses. We'd been getting on pretty well, for us, recently Confused

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RedRoom · 14/09/2014 12:23

If you are unhappy with this, which I know I would be, then just changing the folder name is very passive aggressive. What if he doesn't notice for a while, or notices and pretends not to: are you going to stay silent? Why do you not feel able to speak to him about it?

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 12:29

I have also emailed - see above. I'll discuss it when he gets back. He isn't easy to speak to about this sort of thing - always makes it my fault & my responsibility but denies this if challenged.

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handfulofcottonbuds · 14/09/2014 12:30

What did you email?

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 12:48

Nice tits love but you have a saggy arse

WWW
(Wicked Willy's Wife)

He calls himself Wicked Willy during their exchanges Blush

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handfulofcottonbuds · 14/09/2014 12:56

Oh dear. I understand you must be really angry right now but I think the best thing to do is take time and think about how to handle this. Think about what you want to happen.

One thing I would advise you is not to compare your body to hers, it will tear you apart to do that.

It's your H who is at fault here. Do you know that the OW know that he is with you?

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 13:01

She is 23 with big tits & a droopy bottom. I am 49 with small tits & a toned round bottom. I am not comparing myself unfavourably.

I think it's from some sort of chat room as his message to her said something like "Nice to see you back on MS, that dress is a favourite"

No idea if she knows he's married - not her fault really & not really up to me to be rude to her Sad

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 13:02

There was also a lot of stuff about what he'd like to do to her sexually - the sorts of messages he used to send me many years ago Sad Angry

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handfulofcottonbuds · 14/09/2014 13:10

He's a fool!!

How are you feeling witchway?

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Vivacia · 14/09/2014 15:18

Oh dear OP, this sounds such a shock.

What do you want to happen?

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 15:28

I'm feeling hurt & cross. I have been looking for a way out for a long time but haven't really had a reason. Now I have one I'm not sure what I want Sad

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handfulofcottonbuds · 14/09/2014 15:40

Did the OW reply?

She may have warned him so he has time to think about his response before he gets back on Tuesday. I think it's important that you take this time to work out what you want to happen and confront him.

It may be an idea to see a solicitor tomorrow so you know where you stand. I wouldn't tell him that you've seen a solicitor though, not yet.

Do you think he'll call you tomorrow, seeing as it is your anniversary?

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 15:48

No reply from either of them (I copied him in). He has texted me a few times today - nice, chatty, normal. He will at least text tomorrow & probably ring. He has left a card for me & flowers (usual for anniversary). He has been travelling since yesterday so will only be able to access wifi at the hotel for the first time this evening.

I have forwarded the messages to myself, including to an address I hardly ever use & deleted the trail (but not the messages) on his account.

I'm not sure I consider her an OW, more a sort of amateur prostitute - I expect she isn't the only one & I expect his iPad is heaving with saved messages that have been hidden.

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Vivacia · 14/09/2014 16:06

You could have kept your powder drier, but I understand why you've reacted.

You do need to figure out what you want to happen next, otherwise it won't be you making the decisions.

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mrsspagbol · 14/09/2014 16:20

I'm sorry OP that he has been a shitbag. Younsoind strong but I still think you must be hurt.

If it's any consolation a firm round ass at 49 is an incredible thing Flowers

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Fairenuff · 14/09/2014 16:25

Is there any particular reason why you're staying with him when you sound so very unhappy Sad

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WitchWay · 14/09/2014 17:03

I don't know why I stay. I don't seem to have the mental fortitude to deal with the fallout.

He can be extremely unpleasant & to be frank I'm frightened of the repercussions. I don't need Women's Aid or anything like that - it would be my stuff & my professional reputation that would be hurt, rather than my physical person.

As the years roll by there seems less & less point to leaving. At first it was pride, now it's the enormous mortgage & our son's schooling. There never seems to be a good time - I know there probably never is :-(

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