Does anyone want to be my friend?

[DalmationStripe]

Pre DC I had loads of friends. I moved away when DC1 was born, which was nearly 3 years ago. I'm so lonely and would love a friend. I feel so pathetic writing that but sometimes i go days without speaking to anyone, (not counting DP) it's upsets me knowing I don't have anyone.

[SapSuma]

Hello, i can be a friendly voice whle you are waiting for others...how about telling us where you live (roughly). It usually works best if you can actually meet up and chat over coffee etc so conversation isnt forced but just develops.
Do you have any interests (I know its hard to when you have a 3 year old), if nit what did you used ti be interested in?
Have you discovered the 'local' part of the site?

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Where do you live OP?

[SapSuma]

Ok, more questions...
Do you work? If not, are you getting out of the house much?
Can you reach out to your 'old' friends or do you think you've all moved on too much?
Lots of my friends live too far away from me to visit regularly, but i do make sure I organise a couple of weekend a year to their houses and drag poor dd (4) along. Actually she loves it, but i always feel a bit bad that she's had to spend a while in the car or that she's missed out on a couple of hours sleep . But its important to me - I give her so much and i have to top myself up with some adult company to keep going. I also phone them up every couple of weeks to keep in touch with current issues and use the dreaded facebook to try to keep up with their growing children.
My oiunt is, can you do this? Travel a bit more? Facebook? Start reaching out to people, inviting people over?
Apologies if thats not helping.

[SapSuma]

And you're not pathetic. I have gone through periods of loneliness myself and its truly horrible. But what always gets me out of it is putting massive effort into sorting it (not saying you're not).

[SapSuma]

Right, I've promised myself i'd work on something this morning, so I'm off for a bit, but I'll be back to check on you. I'm bumping for you, if nothing else!

[OurMiracle1106]

I could do with a wider range of friends. Since I moved back to London I haven't got very many

[littlebluedog12]

Me too. We recently moved areas. DH has been working away for the last few days, I realised yesterday I hadn't spoken to anyone all week, apart from the usual chit chat at the school gate It's hard to make new friends, or at least to move a new acquaintance to that next level of actually being a friend. I miss my old friends.

[LEMmingaround]

Me! I am nice . And marking place as I am in hospital waiting room.

[CheesyBadger]

Where do you live?

[CheesyBadger]

I am in Bedfordshire if anyone wants to meet for coffee!

[EvenFlo]

I would love some new friends!

[Batmansunderpants]

Hi, I can't meet for coffee but I'm always up to make friends.

[myroomisatip]

Same here. Although before I split with Ex I slept alone for years, just lately I wake up in the morning and I just wish I had someone to chat with, or someone to phone, or get a message or an email from. It would be nice to have someone to ask me how I am occasionally, and actually be interested in my reply.

I am lucky that I work but I find it hard coming back to an empty house.

[SauceForTheGander]

Do not underestimate how important friends are to our well being. I feel lonely so often as new to my area.

Have you looked at local mumsnet pages - I'm going for a meet up soon via my one.

[pinkbear82]

Ah op, and others, you aren't alone. I have just returned to my parents for a few days with my baby dd. DP encouraged me to move away from them, and not driving I have realised how isolated I have been, and how much I've given up.
There's a lot of other stuff going on, and I decided time apart is probably needed.
Happy to be another ear, or if any one local to me pops up, meet for coffee.

For all.

[DalmationStripe]

Thank you both for replying. I live in Northumberland. I've checked the local site a few times but it's dead.

It's a whole days travelling to see any of my old friends as they are all living/at uni in the south. They are all Childress and single too. Tbh I think too much time as passes to count them as friends anymore. We just live completely different lives. It's a shame.

I can't work because of childcare. I try tp get out as much as possible but there's not alot to do here. I've tried getting to know the mums at the toddler groups but although we are on 'hi how are you?' terms, it's never really developed from there. It doesn't help that I'm at least 15 years younger than most of them and they all grew up together.

[DalmationStripe]

Sorry x post with lots of you!

LEM, hope you're okay at te hospital?

It seems like there are alot of us moving to new areas. It's so hard to make friends once you're an adult. I thought having children would open up loads of friendships. How wrong I was.

[Koothrapanties]

Im nowhere near you :( I would have been your friend!

[Koothrapanties]

Im in Essex if anyone near me needs a friend. I have a baby dd and due to having her quite young I feel a bit out of the loop with old friends now. I'm nice I promise!

[DalmationStripe]

Myroomisatip, that does sound hard. Do you have any DC?

[juneybean]

Where in Northumberland are you? :/ There's a few of us in Durham that meet up regularly and sometimes in Washington.

I'm pretty sure there's a Newcastle group as well that meets often.

[DalmationStripe]

I live near the top of Northumberland. Newcastle is about 35 miles from me, Durham even further, and I don't drive. Hopeless aren't I?

[myroomisatip]

Hi Dalmation :)

My kids are adults now, although my daughter lives with me she is often out with her friends or at work, which is as it should be.

I am a bit that you live in Northumberland, it is a beautiful place. The beaches are amazing and all the castles! I was born in Durham but moved south for work. I would love to move back up north but I dont want to leave the kids. :(

[crazykat]

I'm lonely a lot of the time. I've always found it hard to make friends. I lost touch with school friends when I went to college and didn't really make any friends there as I wasn't into going out at the weekend.

Now I have DCs I've made a couple of friends but their DCs are at school full time, whereas I have dd2 in nursery and ds2 is 17months so I always have ds2 with me and only have 2 hours to go anywhere before I have to pick dd2 up.

It's been really tough since I lost my mum last year as I could call in and see her or we'd speak on the phone every day.

I'm just useless at making friends. It doesn't help that the only things I have to talk about are my DCs and my OU degree.

[DalmationStripe]

Myroomisatip, yes Northumberland is a beautiful place. I love it at this time of year when the lambs start appearing. I have to confess that I've never been to any of the beaches here though! I think I will have your problem too one day. I know one day I'll want to move back down south but my DC would have grown up here.

CrazyKat, sorry to hear about your mum. Sounds like you were and your mum were close. I'd love to hear about your OU course, I'm thinking about doing one next year. How are you finding it?