NCing in case this outs me.
I was at a dinner party thing at a restaurant on Friday where there was a get together with our group from the athletics club from uni (from years ago, some of us haven't seen each other for many years so it was a sort of reunion).
I knew my ex would be there, history is we had a relationship that dragged out over about two years - were seeing each other, then were together officially for 9 months for a very highs-then-lows type relationship, he was cruel and subtly crushed my self confidence, we broke up (I was devastated), 6 months later I had moved on, this made him interested again, we got back together for another 6 months . It had a very different dynamic second time, I wasn't happy with him, didn't like the person he was at all, but stayed 6 months because I didn't want to have wasted 2 years of my life and have no relationship to show for it after all the pain, stupid I know. Eventually I came to my senses and we broke up for good. Minimal contact. I got a little part time job in a hotel during my degree. Bumped into him a year later, chit chat, said I was also working in a hotel, he asked me if I was the cleaner, I said no, thought to myself "weird thing to say", carried on with my day.
This was 8 years ago! A year later I met my wonderful partner, relationship is fantastic, happy, respectful, caring and supportive, all the things that it should be (and my last one wasn't).
Ex graduated and went back to uni for a second degree, I graduated and got a job with an energy company. Bumped into ex a few years later, did the pleasantries etc, he asked what I was up to with work I said I got a job with an energy company, he said "so you go for to door with a clipboard and try and sell people electricity" I was a bit but said no and explained my (very different) job, asked about his degree etc. All dandy.
So, went to this party on Friday, he was there again, not seen him for about 5 years. I have recently just got a job I'm thrilled about. I was sitting chatting to my friend, he came over to say hello, how's things etc. He's now finished uni and working, talked about that, then he said "so are you still working in that hotel then?".
I know this probably really stupid, but he has really, really annoyed me. I've actually struggled to think of anything else for the last few days. Is he being purposefully condescending and trying to put me down? Or does the fact that it has bothered me so much say more about me?
I know people have worse things to deal with on this board, but can sometime please tell me if I have lost all perspective on this?
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Bumped into ex at a party, he's bothered me.
SicVitaEst · 09/03/2014 18:56
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