Boyfriend says he wasts space...already!!

[superstarheartbreaker]

Been with bf for 5 weeks only. It's very passionate in the bedroom but also quite fiery out.
We have had a few lovely dates where I have felt that I'm falling for him and I have not said I loved him but I have said that I car etc, etc. In bed I said teasingly that I have been more mushy than him recently and he relied that he had deliberately not been so mushy back as 'he dosn't want to get hurt.' A phrase that he repeats frequently. He has been through a very difficult seperation with lost babies etc and had a few very intense relationships since. For some reason that fact that he has put a barrier up to my affection really upset me.
It was eating away at me as I feel that I am gving him my love but hewon't return the favour for 'fear of getting hurt.' We had a row about it today and he said that I was hard work and that I am trating him like shit and that he wants two weeks space. He says that he cares for me, dosn't want to keep me hanging on but can't cope with rows.
We don't see each other all the time, I don't call or text him all the time...I just feel that he has sensed that I'm falling for him and now wants out. Shoul I let go. He was lovely on the phone tonight and that the space might make us stronger but my head is all over the place. At this stage it should be all shagging 24 /7 and it is; we cannot keep out hands off each other but emotionally he dosn't want to invest it seems. He keeps going on about how beautiful I am but I have told him that it is the inside that counts. I want somene to love who I am. Pants.

[superstarheartbreaker]

sorry for typos...keyboard dodgy.

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

5 weeks? Seriously?

[Twinklestein]

You've been dating 5 weeks and he wants out, so that's that.

Look for someone who a)wants to be with you & b) isn't afraid of getting hurt.

[EdithWeston]

Was the typo in the title a Freudian slip? Your post is about how he wants space, but actually the title more or less reads that he wastes space.

I think you got it right in the title.

5 weeks is far to early to be thinking of love. It's a pity to get shot of someone who you lust after. But you're worth far more than being strung along. Tell him "bye" and got with your mates, date ther men, live your life. He might or might ntoniaA realise his error and crawl back. But of course, you might come to realise that you don't want him or anyone else who treats you so badly badly.

[Lweji]

My first thought was to let him go, although it is a good idea to let it go slowly, and you should respect it. However, a 2 week break is not going slowly.

What do you mean about rows? How much do you row and how badly? What do you mean by fiery out of the bedroom?

[mammadiggingdeep]

Too much aggro for 5 weeks....seriously.

[Pooka]

Definitely too much aggro, too soon.

At 5 weeks in, what are you rowing about? Isn't this the stage where everything should be awesome and it shouldn't all be such a struggle and a drama?

[ArgyMargy]

Is this one of those teenage threads people were discussing earlier? What's the big deal? At 5 weeks you are not invested - move on to someone more emotionally mature.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Definitely let go. Also learn a lesson from this and avoid 'fiery' relationships. Disagreement are normal in a relationship but you should never tolerate rowing and verbal abuse for anyone.

[SweetSeraphim]

Far too much drama! Let it go, 5 weeks in, you should be mooning around all misty-eyed, not arguing and second-guessing everything.

[DownstairsMixUp]

5 weeks and already it's like this? I'd be out.

[NoAddedSuga]

This sounds all very hard work to be honest.

Move on, find someone else

[mammadiggingdeep]

In just thinking about this. I have a genuine question: what are you rowing about after 5 weeks?

[superstarheartbreaker]

Trouble is...I was getting all misty eyed. He didn't like so yes will move on. bugger. I don't want to be waiting for him to decide he likes me enough to make a go of it.

[superstarheartbreaker]

The reason why we have had a row is mostly to do with our baggage and seetting boundaries with regards to said baggage.

[Lweji]

So, the two week break followed up the row?
What baggage? Previous relationships?

[SweetSeraphim]

super, you really don't want to be hanging around for someone's apathy, matey. You're worth more.

[superstarheartbreaker]

Yes..previous relationships on both sides. He's still grieving his marriage breakdown. I had a controlling ex and was looking out for similar signs. I found some. Yes, followed the row. I do care about him. bugger bugger.

[Mymumsfurcoat]

Move on. Bigger and better ahead.

[sparklysilversequins]

"Fiery" = tedious drama.

[superstarheartbreaker]

Im going withvthe tedious srama analogy. ' I have to protect myself' is the phrase he's been using a lot...and the excuse hes been using not to return my affections. Well I have to protect myself too.

[Zucker]

Give him all the space in the world and don't look back!

[Mrspebble]

Five weeks in, I wouldn't sleep with someone, let alone have this drama. Totally don't think there is anything wrong with sleeping with him but my point is.. If you want to know where you stand, give him space... Plenty of it!!!!

[Lweji]

In particular if he's still grieving his marriage breakdown.

Stay clear.

[kaatieexox]

I fell in love with my OH quite quickly but 5 weeks is a bit to soon. Especially to be having rows.