So I'm 32 and 8 weeks pregnant with my first child. My husband of 11 years told me a couple of days back he doesn't love me any more and wants to leave. He says I should have an abortion as it is a simple procedure and would mean we could both move on with our lives without involving a child in a single parent household. He had often said he is not ready for kids but if it happens then it happens. Needless to say this want planned. I however am desperate for a child but was willing to wait. Initially he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to stay and I said I would be willing to have an abortion if he wanted to leave. This was however a lie. I just didn't want to bring up a child in a loveless marriage. Now he says he Def dosn't love me and wants to leave. But got upset that I then chucked him out that night. My thinking being if he wants to go then he should go. When he told mei drove out to the middle ofa field so I could think. Then drove toa friends to talk. He is now saying I made him homeless without even talking to him. When I was in the fieldi did call him but all he really wanted to talk about was me having an abortion. I am determined to keep this baby but am finding myself very low and second guessing the choices I have made. I am so lonely without him. Being together since we were 17 means he is all I've ever known. But I don't want a bad relationship having bad effects on our child. Sorry to ramble on.
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I don't know what to say except 
because you're in a horrible situation but you've done more or less everything right as far as I can see. It's totally natural to be lonely after you've spent so long with one person - now is the time to really lean on friends and family.
He can't force you to have a medical procedure you don't want, it just isn't within his rights. So there's nothing to discuss there.
As for being chucked out - what on earth did he think was going to happen after the "I don't love you and I want to leave" conversation?? If he really is determined to end this, obviously you will have to sell your place or end the rental contract, and then he'll be able to move on and no longer be "homeless" 
But no reasonable person would even want to carry on living with their pregnant wife they'd just dumped from a great height. If he tries to come back temporarily you probably legally can't stop him, but morally I think that part of his behaviour is awful. Would it really kill him to sleep in a spare room for a while while the legal destruction he started is completed?
In sum, you've taken the best options open to you and if you're determined to keep the baby even at this crisis point then I'd say you have a lot of determination and strength and you'll see it through. Wishing you luck and I hope some single parents will be along to give you specific advice about maintenance and so on.
So sorry you are going through this...
I was asked by my ds 's dad to have an abortion in order for us to carry on our relationship.. I chose to have my son. Knowing I would be a lone parent (although hoping the dad would come round to the idea).
He didn't!!
Fast forward ds is 19 months it has been tough at times, some days are real hard work but I am so glad I took the decision to have him, we have an amazing bond. & he is gorgeous, clever, cheeky & so loving, where as his dad was a crap boyfriend anyway!! 
You were right to kick him out.... If he wants to leave then he can go now.
If you abort to appease him, you will never forgive him and maybe never forgive yourself. You want the baby, then you will be alright.
Xoxo 
What a selfish twatoid, he is obviously no use to a goldfish let alone his pregnant partner
You both made this baby but he wants a get out clause and is convincing you into doing something that could ultimately destroy your life.
Having an abortion, i'm sure is never 'simple' how he puts it
I would discard him from your life and really think about what YOU want, whether that be abortion, adoption or keeping your baby. But make sure it is your choice as it is is ultimately you who will be going through either life changing experience, not him!!!
Have a on me
Poor you 
He's made his bed now I would make him lie in it (and never take the toad back).
Whatever you decide, you should plan your future without him. Surround yourself with kindness and you will manage.
Very best of luck in whatever you decide... 
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I cant believe he's left you now. You've know him for 17 years , all your adult life and he says this now when you most need him. Raising children is the hardest job I've done (still doing) but just coz he's left you doesn't mean you will be doing it alone. My dcousin (sorry horrible story) had an abortion to please a partner who left her. It went horribly wrong and she can't have children. He later had children with someone else. He could man up after the shock or if he doesn't - just aswell you found out now whilst you are still young enough for you to have lots of options. I hope it works out for you. I feel so for you alone in that field. Get your friends round.
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