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I want a boob job.

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WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 10:36:57

I'm not some air head who wants to get her giant tits out, ala Jordan.

I'm a mum whos had 4 children and whos boobs have gone completely south.

Its not something I could just get done, its something I would have to save, long and hard for. And I'd also feel very selfish as there are other things we could save for that would benefit our family rather than just me.

My husband would rather I didn't. But I wouldn't be doing it for him, or anyone else, it would be for me.

I'm over weight by a stone or two, I know I can sort that, but I cannot sort my boobs out,

The more weight I loose the thinner and saggier they become.

It makes me want to cry when I catch a glimpse of myself.

I have no confidence when being intimate with DH if he wants to take my bra off, which of course he does!

I spend the whole time try to hold, or cover or pull my top back over them, I dread certain positions as my breasts hang down and I can't stop thinking about them during sex and can't get into it.

The whole thing from start to finish is 'how can I hide my boobs or make them look more pert / stop them from hanging low.

I never wear low cut clothing, I'd never start wearing low cut clothing.

I just want to feel normal again and good about myself. And have sex with the man I love and who loves me unconditionally without these thoughts.

sad

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 10:43:33

Sorry, the point was, has anyone felt like this? Did you get one? How do you feel now?

x

chipsandmushypeas Mon 29-Oct-12 10:48:38

Yes i know how you feel and its pretty shitty sad I've had an augmentation for 5 years now. Not regretted it once. I too wanted to just feel normal so got small implants to suit my frame.
I love that I can wear normal tops/dresses/bikinis and feel confident without wearing heavily padded bras. No one has ever been able to tell and they feel very soft and natural. If you're around south east/London I can recommend an excellent surgeon who is BAAPS registered (v important) who specialises in the natural look and uses very good implants that are cohesive - never leak x

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 10:52:15

I'm in the north west chips, but thanks you,

Can I ask, if its not too personal, was it just a size issue or a sag issue?

My boobs aren't small but they are very saggy, I don't know if they would even offer just implants, I'm thinking maybe they would suggest a lift too, but I'm not sure I'd want that?

OhThisIsJustGrape Mon 29-Oct-12 10:58:09

I want a boob job too, after bf'ing 4 children I have no boobs left. They've always been small but now they're empty. I don't want big boobs, I'd just like what I have to be full again.

Luckily DH is ok with the idea of me having them done but what concerns him is that implants don't last forever. I could well find myself needing them replaced/removed in my 60's in which case I'd be putting myself through the risks of an anaesthetic when I could potentially be in poor health due to age.

Tbh that's the only thing stopping me though, I'm so unhappy with how my body looks and think I may well worry about all that later... Live for the now iykwim.

If its affecting you to such a degree then go for it.

OpheliaPayneAgain Mon 29-Oct-12 11:00:31

All surgery caries risks. I suppose it depends whether the risk is worth possibly leaving your children without a mother. "sexiness" and self confidence comes from within; you'll get your boobs done, then you'll be thinking your aarse is fat or your nose crooked. You won't ever find what you are looking for at the end of surgeons knife.

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 11:11:57

I have no other body issues.

The weight im working on.

Of course its not worth leaving my kids without a mum ... neither is the loaf i need for lunch which requires me to cross a massively busy road. which could also kill me.

hmm

Helltotheno Mon 29-Oct-12 11:14:55

Ophelia it's not strictly true that once a person gets one thing done, they're a slave to the surgeon's table. Boobs are the one thing it's impossible to do anything about naturally (unlike arses, thighs, tummies etc) and I think if a woman wants to restore the shape of her boobs after bringing children into the world and bf'ing them, that's a very reasonable expectation. Plenty of women do that and nothing else!

Good luck with it OP smile

TheHairyDieter Mon 29-Oct-12 11:17:17

I could well find myself needing them replaced/removed in my 60's in which case I'd be putting myself through the risks of an anaesthetic when I could potentially be in poor health due to age.

I just wanted to point out that it is possible to have a boob job under a local anaesthetic, as I did this. You don't need a general.

Oh, and OP, you are not being selfish. Could you take on a bit of part-time work and save? Like a small eBay business, or something?

chipsandmushypeas Mon 29-Oct-12 11:24:29

I haven't wanted anything done since my ba. That is a very narrow minded view a lot of people have of others who consider plastic surgery.

wilting no it was just a size issue. I was part a forum (breast buddies, who also have surgeons you can post to) who understood with lots of support and advice. Wrt sagging, an amateur surgeon would say you don't need a lift, just bigger implants to lift it but this is a short term solution and eventually the weight of the implant will make the breast sag more. An uplift would be a much better option in the long run, the scarring is very minimal and after a couple of years you can't see them anymore

chipsandmushypeas Mon 29-Oct-12 11:30:20

If you go to the baaps website you can search for registered surgeons near you or go to that forum and ask for recommendations near you. If you are going to go through with it, choosing a qualified and registered surgeon is the most important thing

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 11:36:30

Thankyou,

its the money thats the main issue, I'd have to try and work that out first.

chipsandmushypeas Mon 29-Oct-12 11:38:24

It took me a while to save, then I got a low rate loan on the remaining with tescos. While you're saving, it's good to start researching as you may find out you don't want it after all, good luck! smile

OhEmGee25 Mon 29-Oct-12 11:38:35

Totally know what you mean. I've only had one dd, only breastfed for a month but my already small boobs are empty. I went for a consultation with a surgeon last year, he agreed I'm "lacking volume". I'm gonna wait til I've finished having kids, dp thinks I'm perfect the way I am, but it's for me not him.

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 12:11:49

I couldn't get a loan unfortunatly, so it would be through 100% saving which may take a long while.

SorrelForbes Mon 29-Oct-12 12:15:00

As an interim step and to boost your confidence while you're saving, why not go and have a proper fitting at somewhere like Bravissimo or a good independent lingerie shop? A really great fitting bra will make such a difference, especially if you're currently wearing the wrong size (as so many are).

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 12:17:31

I've never been fitted apart from at mothercare when PG <disaster>

I really wouldn't want to get em out in front of anyone, i'd be as red as a tomato and probably weep when left to try bras on blush

SorrelForbes Mon 29-Oct-12 12:24:40

Mothercare are bloody awful at bra fitting (as are M&S!!). Ok, why not have a go at measuring yourself and then heading down to Debenhams or John Lewis for a trying on session?

Bra Bore alert

OK, here goes. Measure under your bust (hold the tape tight) to get your band measurement. Do not add on any inches to this measurement. Then measure across the fullest part of your bust. Each 1" of difference between the two measurements equals a cup size.

So, lets says you measure 30" underneath and 35" across? That would give you a starting point of 30DD.

The best way I've found to test the band size is to put the bra (in your case a 30 back) on back to front. If you can breathe but if feels tight and you can only fit two fingers underneath the wire at the front, then that's the correct back size for you. If it's so tight it's unbearable then go up a size.

Once you've got the back sorted, it's time to get the cup right. The cup will differ much more between brands and styles than the back (IMHO). Turn the bra round the correct way, lean forward and using your hands, scoop all your breast tissue into the cups (make sure you get all the flesh from round your back and under your arms in). The put the shoulder straps up and adjust as necessary (not too tight as it's the back that should be doing most of the supporting work). If for example, you've started with a 30DD, you will probably find that after scooping, you have some bulging over the cup and quadraboob going on! This means you need to go up one or more cup sizes. Keep going up through the cup sizes until all your breast tissue is firmly in place.

Boobs that are fuller at the top usually suit plunge and those that are fuller at the bottom (like mine) usually suit balcony shapes.

EdsRedeemingQualities Mon 29-Oct-12 12:24:54

I'm sorry you feel this way. I've been lucky with the boobs, especially having bf ds2 till he was 4 and a half - but my stomach bothers me instead.

What you have to remember though is that they are just boobs, and in my case it's just my stomach.

These things don't detract from you as a person. They can only make you feel rubbish if you let them represent something else. Like how you see yourself.

I would hesitate to pay someone to dothings to my body - I don't like the thought that they are profiting from my insecurity, iyswim?

my problem comes under medical though so I may get it fixed...but for the time being, I just tell myself not to let it bother me - life is about much more than our bodies. You have someone who loves you the way you are and that's far more important imo x

Phacelia Mon 29-Oct-12 12:36:37

My friend had this done and has talked with me about it when she was trying to make the decision (she was also concerned about the money). I am usually anti most plastic surgery, however it has made a massive difference to how she feels about herself and despite not being happy with the rest of her body she wouldn't have any other work done. It was just her breasts which made her feel utterly worthless. So who am I to judge her for having them done?

I haven't seen them grin but she says they are much more pert (she didn't have implants, just an uplift) and she has no issues with how they look/the scars. I think for her she didn't have children/a partner at the time so she didn't have to worry so much about the money, but it was definitely an issue.

Really, if you can afford it and know it would make you feel drastically better, I'd say go for it. You deserve to feel good about yourself. However I'd equally say to any woman who had drooping breasts but didn't want to change a thing about them that that's great too. They are kind of a badge of honour in some small way, aren't they? Life's too short to be miserable and it's just money.

Reginaphalangey Mon 29-Oct-12 12:39:09

I'm a theatre nurse...... I would have to say that the op you would be recommended in my experience would likely be an augmentation mastopexy.....
That would involve more than just getting implants, but also to remove the "saggy" breast tissue, in order to give your breasts a better shape, as most implants are inserted by creating a capsule behind the breast tissue underneath the muscle, to give them better shape......

You would obviously be aware that with with surgery you have a scar, and that from the augmentation mastopexy op, the scarring is more than just implants, it's a cut around the nipple, straight down and across the underneath of you breast......

What I would ask yourself is, if you are unhappy with your present body image, would you be more comfortable having permanent significant scarring (that will fade with time) versus your current image????

If the answer is yes, do your research, look at pics on the net, and speak only to REPUTABLE RECOMMENDED plastic surgeons in your area, who specialist in augmentation surgery........

DO NOT go to Thailand or other places and do it on the cheap, save your money and get the best possible results you will be happy with....... For you get what you pay for and aftercare is as important as the initial operation....

Learn to love your body, and love yourself, I wish you all the best whatever you decide

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 12:39:32

Thanks sorrel, will do that today x

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 12:42:25

I would never go abroad.

I wouldn't want them to go near my nipples tbh, I suppose I'd need to see a surgeon in RL to get a proper idea of whats needed.

WiltingRoses Mon 29-Oct-12 12:45:09

I just googled and my boobs dont seem to be anywhere near as 'droopy' as any of the 'breast lift' before photos, so maybe implants would be sufficient?

FunBagFreddie Mon 29-Oct-12 12:51:39

I've had it done and I'm not an air head either. I had very small boobs, but they were completely empty and looked like they belonged to an OAP.

All surgery carries risks, but tbh I've had a lot of surgery and generals for medical reasons and if you're youngish and fairly healthy, there's more chance of dying in a road traffic accident.

I do get pissed off if I tell people and they get all judgey (always other women). It's not like I did anything to their tits ffs, some people are just strange in that way.

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