10 things I love about my husband...

[LaTristesse]

Just seeing if I can get to 10 really... We're struggling at the mo and rather than bitch and moan about all the shitty things he does I thought I'd try and see the positives. So here goes...

1. He's good at imaginative play with the children
   
2. He's generous
   
3. He's good in bed
   
4. He smells nice
   
5. He gets very passionate about stuff
   

So those took me about 10 minutes and I really can't think of 5 more. That's not good, is it?

[ClippedPhoenix]

Thats the "for" list OP, what about the "against" list?

[Kayano]

It's still a pretty negative post in all honesty (shitty/ not good)

I'm afraid your feelings towards him are coming through loud and clear.

Are you ok?

[Salbertina]

Are we to add our own or comment on yrs?! Well may be only 5, but yours are major ones

My Dh

1. Good dad
2. V determined
3. Clever
4. V masculine
5. Kind
6. Unconventional
7. Downtoearth
8. Good provider
9. Umm?? V positive

10. V sporty when he plays

Phew...

[Salbertina]

Didn't think op was that negative..more tongue in cheek, think I've read it wrong then
Well, generous & good in bed are biggies as is good play w kids..sorry you're struggling to find more.

[nilbyname]

Kind
Funny
Strong
Ambitious
Pragmatic
Loves his kids and is a real family man
Clever
Gets me
Resourceful
Silly
Great kisser

[JollyJumper]

A good match (in terms of personalities)
Makes you feel secure
Practical or hands-on
a loving father

[Kayano]

I read it as really bad. 10 minutes and the negative wording of the posts. I'd be pretty down if I only had 5 tbf

[ButternutSquish]

He's not quite my husband yet, but will be in 6 months so I hope mine count

1. He's kind
   
2. He's gentle
   
3. He's loyal
   
4. He's very very clever
   
5. He's got a lovely body
   
6. He's very good in bed
   
7. He's great at hugs & cuddles with no strings attached
   
8. He tells me he loves me at least 5 times every day
   
9. He funny & silly
   

10. He puts up with my messiness
11. He's very affectionate
12. He doesn't talk down to me (see point 4)
13. He's honest
14. He's sensitive
15. He makes me feel like I'm the most beautiful woman in the world

Is that enough?

[EvenBetter]

Aww OP, maybe write a list of what the issues are and how you both/him could change them?
It's hard to see good stuff when things are difficult, so work on whatever's bad at the minute and the good things will still be there.

[foolingwithmisskitty]

1. Great Dad.
   
2. Supportive.
   
3. Works Hard.
   
4. Funny.
   
5. Intelligent.
   
6. Great lover.
   
7. Handsome.
   
8. Loving.
   
9. Makes effort to get on with my friends/family.
   

10. Happy for me to do things with my friends as well as with him.

[hihohiho]

1. He is kind, I fell in love with his kindness before I even knew I loved him
   
2. He is gentle, he is the most gentle man I have ever met
   
3. He is the most amazing and loving father to all our DCs
   
4. His absolute loyalty
   
5. His complete honesty - he has stood up for the truth at a huge cost to himself
   
6. He is a selfless and sensitive lover
   
7. He is funny and makes me laugh
   
8. He has learned to cook as DCs won't leave me alone to do it
   
9. He makes the best GnT in the world - I don't know how but he has perfected it
   

10. He puts me and the DCs first - way over and above anything he wants for himself

You said 10 - so I'm stopping but I adore dh - and could sing his praises all night.

[Inertia]

1. He's a great dad
   
2. He's gentle and kind
   
3. He is sociable and easily gets along with people
   
4. He appreciates that what I do in my low-paid job and for the family / household is as valid and valuable as his higher-paid job
   

5.He's very talented at what he does

1. He's full of enthusiasm and always optimistic
   
2. He becomes more attractive the older he gets
   
3. He's patient and understanding
   
4. He likes driving (I don't!)
   

10. He's a good cook

[Lueji]

OP

I'd only really accept:
2 - generous (if with you too)
3 - good in bed
5 - passionate (if about you too)

[LaTristesse]

Ok mine is honest, I can add that too. So I'm up to 6....

Glad lots of you have lovely men.

[chipsandbeans]

blimey I struggle to find 2 good things.. maybe time to rethink my life judging by the lovely men some of you have :(

[arthurfowlersallotment]

Some days I could fill 20 pages, and other days is struggle with one.
OP are you generally happy with him?

[Fairyjen]

Im not married but will post anyway am pushing 30 but have been with my dp since was a teenager!

Funny
Clever
Kind
Generous
Strong
Supportive
Great in bed
Brilliant dad
Tells me he loves me every day
Still finds me sexy post cs and 2 dc's
Encourages me to be the best I can be
Saved me when I needed saving
Very protective
He is my best friend
He prefers my company and me his to anyone else's
Always puts me first
Still gives me butterflies
Yorkshire accent ala Sean bean (yum!)
Gave me two gorgeous children!
Devoted
Hard working
Loyal

God I could keep going all day! He is my soul mate and better half in every sense of the word. Would be completely lost without him!

[NoillyPrat]

He is very intelligent. I love when we watch quizzes on tv or go to the pub quiz that he knows almost every question.
He's beautiful
His hugs make everything in the world okay
He's very hard working
Very loyal
His hairy arms and chest
He's great in bed
He gives me butterflies and makes my stomach flip
Always there for me
So caring and loving
Not selfish and very giving
He makes me laugh all the time, real proper belly laughs
He always compliments my cooking and says I'm the best cook in the world and even better than real chefs
He makes me feel so happy and alive
Hes my best friend
He never shouts even when I'm horrid (pmt) or he knows he's right
He's a great singer and guitarist
He's very passionate about things

I could go on and on but I won't

[SlinkyPebbles]

A handful of important ones surely have to mean more than ten less meaningful ones? Which ones on that list are 'big' to you?

As important perhaps is whether there is something big missing from the list? If so, is it something that used to be there but has since disappeared? Or something that was never really there, but perhaps you hoped it might appear at some point?

[hairytale]

Strong
Kind
Handsome
Fabulous dad
Practical
Uncomplicated
Emotional
Talks about his feelings
Pulls together with me

I wrote those in about 20 seconds

OP no, yours isn't a good situation I fear.

[TapirBackRider]

Wise
Practical
Kind
Supports me unconditionally
Recognises that my work is physically more demanding than his
Helps others
Does more than his fair share of housework
Honest
Generous
Great listener
Fab sense of humour
Gentleness
Great Cook
Brilliant ironer
Has helped me to become the person I am today.

[cynner]

My darling husband is not warm and fuzzy but he is: my best friend, my biggest supporter, a good daddy and step daddy, intelligent, calm, stoic, a saver to my spender, funny, kinky, loves cats, decent to my mother,...and excellent to his own mum.

[CheerfulYank]

DH is

1. A rather big man, but so very gentle
   
2. An amazing father, he adores DS so much
   
3. So shy (it's endearing) but has long talks with me and it makes me feel special
   4)Fabulous in the sack :o
   
4. A man of deep faith
   
5. The cleverest person I (or most people) know
   7)Doesn't wake me til noon on Saturdays and always has the coffee going when he does
   
6. Lets me read my favorite books aloud to him even though he doesn't have the same taste
   
7. Strokes my hair when I'm falling asleep and tells me it's his favorite part of the day
   
8. He is really the steadiest person I've ever met. Sometimes it's hard because I want him to get really excited about something, but I wouldn't trade it for his stability. His calm nature is unshakable.
   
   OP, how long has your "rough patch" been going on?

[LaTristesse]

Cheerful I love your list! Worsening for a couple of years. But I fear the signs were there before we married.

You know, I'm reading down your lists discarding all of the reasons, no mine doesn't do that, no he's not like that... I keep finding negatives, and still only 6 good things...