Apologies if I ramble a bit...my dh really dislikes my parents and finds them very awkward to be around. They have made some mistakes over the years (like the family feud with my sister and brother and not telling me about my half sister from my Dad) and they can do tend to off load on me which can be hard...but they're my family and I love them. We live in Bristol and they live about 180 miles away so we always have to see them overnight and it always causes a row with my dh either before, during or after the visit. The latest is that I arranged to go see them in September, we are going in November as well to go to one of my sister's (the new one!) 40th and mum and dad are having our twins for us so when dh asked me if my mum had mentioned Christmas he flipped! I had forgotten that she'd asked us to go up then - not for Christmas day because dh won't have that and my mum knows it - but before or just after so they can see the kids. Since they were born my parents have always come to us - but not Christmas day because that's just for our little family fo dh's sake - and it's getting too much to do in a couple of days because my dad is 72 now. So my dh flipped and said 3 times in a row isn't happening and they're selfish and why can't they come to us etc. and then it all started again with "they don't treat you properly and they're selfish and why don't they bother more" and this stuff really hurts me (partly because I know some of it is true but still...) We've been married for 10 years and this is the only thing we argue about and it always gets really nasty with me saying he doesn't care about me and him saying I always put my parents first. I don't know what to do but the kids are going to suffer if we don't sort it out and I can't stand the arguing but how much do I have to give up to please him?
Sorry again about the long post.
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My dh can't stand my parents :-(
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