DH gets terribly excited and slightly hysterical about everyday stuff.
Example - DH: "I've just downloaded every single episode of "On the Buses"! <insert random title of any crap ancient sitcom>! EVERY SINGLE EPISODE!! Isn't that just amazing? That's incredible isn't it? How amazing is that?
MrsF: That's nice.
DH: We can watch them all tonight if you like!! Wouldn't you like that? We can have some tea and those biscuits we bought!!
MRsF: Errm, well, we'll see - I might have other things to do....
DH: Oh! I see! That's great isn't it! I just thought we might have a lovely evening cuddled up on the sofa together and you're not interested. Well thanks. I know where I stand then don't I?
I don't fake the same level of enthusiasm he goes into a terrible huffy sulk and can turn quite nasty. At best, I get accused of having so sense of humour/romance/sensitivity and at worst, of displaying hostility and contempt towards him. I confess I do find this behaviour needy, attention seeking and deeply irritating and sometimes find it hard to hide my annoyance. I just can't stand all the squealing like a girl and jumping up and down about the purchase of a packet of bourbon biscuits or watching bad 70's TV. Unfortunately his behaviour is now also being picked up on and criticised by my 15 year old DS, who has ASD and can be extremely blunt.
I passed my driving theory test today. I am, as you might imagine, rather pleased with myself, but it really wasn't very hard. Ever since I got home DH has been running into the room squealing, grabbing and squeezing me (very roughly) trying to pick me up (I am a 14 stone 6-footer ) and shouting "You've passed! You've passed! at the top of his voice. I had to ask him to chill our please, and now he is acting very offended and hurt.
Am I a total bitch? I feel guilty (again) for not matching his mood-swings. It's nice that he is so pleased for me, but honestly.
If he could send some of his enthusiasm the way of my dh I'd be ever so grateful. My dh is a grumpy sod and a packet of bourbons on the sofa sounds like a good deal to me. Are you sure he's not been sniffing the air fresheners when you've been out.
He does sound a bit bonkers. Medication? Mind you, you do sound a bit of a grump
Seriously, I was with him until the high pitched squealing and grabbing, as I'm often the one suggesting to my OH that we both sit down together to just chill out and watch something as all he wants to do is tinker in his effing shed most of the time.
Tethers, I have no idea! DH works in IT and 'tis all akin to Magic for me. I can ask him. But he will spend the rest of the day EXPLAINING it to me!
DH is not like this all the time. Or even a lot of the time. But after 10 years together I have not found a coping strategy. And now DS has started taking the piss too criticising him he feels really ganged up on and misunderstood.
I have tried ignoring said behaviour, extracting the urine, reacting with deadpan literalism, being even more over the top and hysterical than he is being, and just pretending I don't understand what he is going on about. Nothing seems to work.
I'm assuming you knew what he was like when you met him? In which case I would use the same tactics as one might for an over-excited puppy or get him to download back-to-back episodes of Columbo and the Midsommer Murders while I went off to get the duvet and make the tea to go with those biscuits.
Of course if this is new I'd take him down to the GP. He might have some sort of chemical imbalance or something <also watches a lot of medical dramas emoticon>
Ok, I thought people were lying when they said they almost choked on their drink when reading a comment, but I read Tethers comment while taking a mouthful of tea and although it didn't go actoss the laptop it was spurted back into the cup.
Medication - no. Illegal recreationals - no. Is complete lightweight in that regard. Manic episode? Well, he has had similar in the past. But that was REALLY scary and out-of-control stuff, and I keep a close eye out for similar behaviour.
His behaviour isn't quite as camp as it sounds -he is I suppose a naturally hyper person. Fits a lot of the symptoms of Adult ADHD. It is just wearing me down at the moment. Can't wait to go back to Uni next month!