..and I wish I could just forget it, but I can't seem to get it out of my head.
It was nearly a week ago, and we were having a jovial conversation about how 'active' we were in our single days before we met.
For the record, I wasn't exactly living the life of a nun, but neither was I exactly promiscuous.
It wasn't said in a nasty way, but I HATE that word. Apart from the fact that it's a horrible, horrible term, I was also in an abusive relationship many years ago, in which that term was shouted at me many times in a few abusive scenarios.
I have spoken to DP about how much it upset me, and he is also aware of the abuse situation above. He has promised to 'try' and never use that word again, but has said that he cannot categorically promise it won't happen, as it's just a banter word to him that he would use jokingly with males and females alike.
He also said that I was being 'oversensitive' by being so upset by it.
Generally our relationship is good. We have had ups & downs in the past, but the last couple of months have been great.
We've been together 4 years and have 1 child together.
..so, do I just forget it and accept that he will 'try' never to use that word again, in jest or otherwise..or do I take it as a big, fat red flag?
TIA.
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DP 'jokingly' called me a slag.
Baggypussy · 27/07/2011 11:15
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