Dd2 is 8 (9 in June). She's always been difficult, had counseling sessions at school for over a year due to low self esteem/anxiety. But she is just so stubborn. She refuses to brush her teeth, has now not brushed them for 3/4 days (I've lost count). Other than to pin her down there's no way to make her. I tell her what will happen to her teeth if she doesn't look after them, she doesn't care. I tell her she's not allowed sweet things if she's not brushing them... Doesn't care.
I find it hard to punish her when she is naughty. I cannot send her to her room as she shares with dd3. She doesn't care about toys etc. The only thing she is bothered about is the pc and the Roblox game. But if i ban her from it, she just follows me around saying "i bored" "there's nothing to do" etc driving me crazy. I suggest things but she says no to everything.
She won't brush her hair most days so goes to school looking a right mess (which isn't good for her self esteem)
I'm just lost on what to do. She's not interested in spending time with me. I offer to play board games etc but she says no, and the few times we do it ends up with her crying because she's not winning. When i tell her off for stuff she cries and says "no-one loves me etc" "you like dd3 better than me"
Just tonight i told her to do her teeth, she said no so i said well no sweets or pc tomorrow and she swore at me! We are a non swearing house so that's pretty bad. So now she's not allowed on the pc for a week, so I've got 1 week of her moaning she's bored. She would refuse to do chores (again i can't physically force her) just nothing seems to get through to her.
I make her sound awful, but she's such a loving, intelligent girl when she's​ not in one of her moods, which are getting more and more often.
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DontOpenDeadInside · 27/04/2017 21:29
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