Hi. I'm not sure if I will get any help or support, this is after all supposed to be a happy site about becoming a parent :( But I feel so poorly and nervous and sick, I don't know where else to go. My 16 year old daughter is booked in to have a medical abortion today. We discovered she was pregnant 2 weeks ago. She was using contraceptive and was in a relationship for 18 months albeit a one-sided one where she was constantly being cheated on. Being the sweetest, forgiving and wonderful girl, she always took him back. Now he's dumped her. She is trying to be brave and strong but this is huge for her. She made the decision to have the abortion and I promised I'd support her either way. So did her dad. But I've read all the horror stories about it and I keep looking at her thinking 'you are so young to go through this'. We went to the clinic on Tuesday and she had all the tests and checks. She's no longer anaemic but has low blood pressure and her BMI is below average. She's tiny. Always has been. She had a scan (a vaginal one) and the baby was measured and dated - 6 weeks, 4 days. I sat the other side of the curtain and neither of us saw the screen but knowing it was official and the scanner could see her child, my grandchild, broke my heart right there and then. I briefly saw the photo and went to pieces. I remembered the occasions I was scanned and I saw my girls for the first time and it was a joyous time. After receiving lots of information, we left with the appointment booked in for today at 2.30. I haven't slept since. She seems to be coping ok. I am so frightened about her going through pain, bleeding heavily, feeling ill. I keep imagining the worst case scenario that something will go wrong. I've been assured it's safe but there's always the 'what if's at the back of my mind. I'm worrying myself stupid and literally counting down the minutes until we have to go. I love my daughter so much, I can't bear the thought of her hurting. I'm sorry for waffling. I just need some advice. Has anyone else been through this? How can we all cope, not just through the process of aborting the baby but afterwards? Please help. Thank you ever so much xxx
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mamala1970 · 09/07/2015 07:36
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