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Ok, I've had enough now - want this baby out.

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Hangingbellyofbabylon Mon 24-Aug-09 00:00:11

I'm nearly 37 weeks and I am bloody pissed off. Everything hurts, my lower back aches, my bump drags and the braxton hicks are so strong. I feel like I'm gonna wet myself or poo myself all the time. I'm too hot, I have permanent indigestion so never get more than an hour sleep. I am massive and everywhere I go people stare at me. My 3 year old and 5 year old are getting harder to handle every day. And... my dh won't have sex as he reckons it might bring on labour and he 'needs' another week at work. I need this baby to arrive as I have officially had enough. sad.

It's not like a first baby where you can treasure that last bit of time before the baby comes, I just want to get this over and done with so I can meet my little girl. dd1 - 39 weeks and dd2 - 35 weeks so was kind of hoping this one might show up a bit early too.

bibbitybobbityhat Mon 24-Aug-09 00:03:38

Surely you want to hang on for 1st September or beyond now you've come this far?

Chin up duck. She'll be here when she's ready smile (+ other very annoying platitudes).

Deeeja Mon 24-Aug-09 01:22:21

Right there with you. I am 36 weeks and have had enough!
Plus I am bored with feeling tired, frustrated at not being able to do things myself, and having to rely on dh. It was nice at first, but am bored of it now.
I just want to be ble to go for a walk, do a little gardening, bend down....

Hangingbellyofbabylon Mon 24-Aug-09 08:55:37

I hate relying on dh for so much, especially when he doesn't do it or huffs and puffs. I've been asking him for weeks to get the massive parasol out of the garage and he hasn't. Also had to ask him to clear out pooey litter tray so many times yesterday and the smell was making me puke. We had a long conversation last night as he has not been very sympathetic these last few weeks and I've told him it won't last forever and I really do need some support at the moment. He's normally great but I think he just doesn't get how it feels to have this massive lump attached to your front making you feel like a weeble shock.

Anyway, the rant last night helped, I slept much better last night smile

ZippysMum Mon 24-Aug-09 09:26:09

Hey there hanging belly (love the name!)

I am so with you on this one. I'm 34 weeks with twins (my first DCs) and struggling somewhat with the last few weeks. At 30 weeks my bump was measuring 40 weeks so I guess that makes me 44 weeks pregnant-sized now! Have a c/s booked for 23rd Sept at 38 weeks (pleeeease let them arrive before that!) - but have set myself a target of 1st September at least.

Can't sleep at night - tired in the daytime, though, nasty heartburn and SPD too. Also I have put on heaps of weight (looks like mainly in my face, but think the belly will reveal itself as a blubbery mass once the bubs come out - 5 stone has to go somewhere, right) and feel a bit grim having to wear the same 3 pairs of huge trousers and 3 tops day after day. Oh, and I also feel guilty for feeling like this because I am so desperate to have these two babies and they are much wished and hoped for - so I feel ungrateful for moaning about feeling pants!

So I feel your pain! Thanks for the ranting opportunity - feels good to let it all out.

puffylovett Mon 24-Aug-09 09:44:06

Right there with you girls.

37 weeks today and counting... reluctant to have this baby arrive early because I have lots to do. But fed up with the exhaustion ! My bump is neat but I am shattered all the time, iron levels low and not rising - poor DS has spent most of the last few weeks in front of the telly and this weekend acid indigestion has started with a vengeance sad

Poor DH has spent all weekend renovating and neatening our bathroom and I couldn't even cook my little family a decent meal by way of thank you sad

Oh and I was nearly in tears in morrisons for heavens sake !!!

You're not alone hangingbelly smile

mogend77 Mon 24-Aug-09 10:49:08

Tis bloody tough being heavily pregnant. Am 34 weeks and very very sore indeed with every niggle going. I am sick of having to ask for so much help and feeling so incapable, I am sick of being a rubbish mummy to my toddler but I am also just sick of the pain. Whilst I neither want (nor expect) a particularly early baby (DD1 was 42 weeks and only 6lb12 & I don't want the worry of a really tiny baby) I would give anything for a fast forward button!

SpawnChorus Mon 24-Aug-09 10:59:54

I'll join in with the whinge-fest. I'm also 37 or 38 weeks pg (bit of uncertainty about due date).

I'm feeling v torn about wanting the baby out and wanting to treasure the last few weeks/days of being pg (this is definitely last the time!). I also hate the uncertainty...it could come tomorrow or in five weeks time...gah!

Just to add to my woes we're desperately trying to find another house to move to as our landlords have given us notice. And I've had diarrhoea for months now and I'm feeling v worried that it's bowel cancer hmm

I really miss the carefree days of being pg with DC1&2.

mogend77 Mon 24-Aug-09 11:05:54

spawnchorus you know diarrohea is incredibly common throughout pregnancy? I have had it throughout both of my pregnancies.

sleepingcat Mon 24-Aug-09 11:19:20

Ditto everything!
I'm now 38wks and feeling it everywhere. I'm measuring very small for dates but the baby is massive (according to scan) so my skin feels sooo tight.
I want this baby out before school goes back, just so I get a few days to recover before doing the school run! DD (age 4.5) has refused to watch any TV this summer holiday, I would love for her to just sit for an hour but nope!
Labour vibes to all over 38wks!

SpawnChorus Mon 24-Aug-09 11:38:14

mogend- Thank you for your reassurance. It really means a lot! grin In fact it's hearing from people like you that's keeping me sane! I've been googling away, and I have seen cases of other women with diarrhoea in pregnancy, but the GP, Midwife and consultant I've seen have all categorically told me that you "only" get constipation in pregnancy hmm.

None of them can actually tell me what else might be causing it. I've been put on medication for Crohn's disease as I was diagnosed with it over 10 years ago. Apparently the diagnosis was never conclusive though. I never had a flare up since then and the meds aren't improving it at all, and besides the symptoms are completely different to that original episode.

Sorry for the rant...it's good to get it off my chest grin Not really the sort of thing that's easy to bring up in RL conversation grin

SpawnChorus Mon 24-Aug-09 11:40:51

And on another note, I am SO FED UP with beding over. I cannot BEAR it any more...putting on shoes/socks, picking up toys, wiping up whatever gunk the kids have managed to get on the floor...I feel like screaming.

memoo Mon 24-Aug-09 12:07:56

I feel your pain!!!

I'm 35 weeks with number 3 and I'm so fedup that I spent the whole day in bed yesterday sobbing, fortunately I have a very good DH.

I have SPD, GD and everytime the baby kicks I feel like I am going to wee myself.

My body seems to have taken to tormenting me too, I keep having these big contractions and think something is going to happen but it never does!

Spawnchorus, I've have diarrhoea for months now too. The urge to go comes over me so suddenly I have to go to the loo right away. Have been assured my doc, midwife and my gyne nurse sister that its very normal.

kathyis6incheshigh Mon 24-Aug-09 12:10:25

May I join the club?
I'm 33 weeks and still being sick and now I appear to be getting SPD as well.

I don't mind the baby borrowing my tummy for a while but I don't see why it has to take over my legs, groin and lungs as well.

arolf Mon 24-Aug-09 12:20:44

can i join too? 36 weeks, and have not slept at all folr the past 4 nights (and only sporadically for the past 2 months). plus have started getting nosebleeds in the middle of the night, appear to be getting SPD, am overheating all the time, braxton hicks have started to hurt (which according to everyone they should not do!) over the past few days, and my DP has just been told his massive work deadline - which was this week - has been extended to 17th september - so he has asked me to keep baby in until at least the 18th (due on 20th). which was helpful of him. Plus baby is breech, has been since at least 20 weeks, so midwife is deciding this week whether i need a scan or not - it's just another little thing to worry about. thank god this is my first though, can't even begin to imagine how all of you who already have kids are coping!

oh, and spawnchorus - i've had a gippy tummy on and off since day 1 of this pregnancy, which i'm told is totally normal. even with family history of crohns, they are not worried at all

SpawnChorus Mon 24-Aug-09 12:20:58

Kathy - I didn't know you were pg! Congratulations

<<hugs Memoo in gratitude>> Why are my MW/docs conspiring to inflame my hypochondria??!!

mogend77 Mon 24-Aug-09 12:34:44

Spawnchorus - honestly there are so many benign things that can cause persistent diarrohea other than Crohn's disease & bowel cancer, which are admittedly the scary ones but also probably the least likely! Pregnancy really is one of them, whatever your GP & mw might say - it's not just me, I know plenty of people who have complained of exactly the same thing.

It can also be caused by stress (which it sounds like you are!) and also by food intolerances, which can get worse during pregnancy (though for some people they get better) - you could even have a food intolerance you didn't know about which has just been made more noticable in the last few months due to the pregnancy.

But you really really are not alone in this particular niggle!

Can you get a 2nd opinion on the Crohns meds? I don't think I'd want to be on Crohns meds unecessarily - aren't they very strong?

kathyis6incheshigh Mon 24-Aug-09 12:47:21

Thanks Spawnchorus smile

Third pregnancies really just suck don't they.

neolara Mon 24-Aug-09 12:56:20

Me too! I'm 38 weeks and my other two arrived at 37 weeks, so am feeling as if I've already done my time and now this baby should be OUT. I'm a grumpy old bag. My current whinges are:
No one is contacting us to come out to play because they all assume I've had the baby. So I am BORED. (Yes, I know I could contact them, but I haven't got the energy - whinge, whinge - yes, I know this is irrational, but surely I'm allowed to be at this point in the pregnancy.)
I can't go anywhere far from home in case I this baby arrives in 30 mins start to finish (very fast previous labours).
I'm vast and everything hurts. It's uncomfortable to sit / stand / lie on my back / drive a car / exist.
I've loads and loads of horrible BH. Lots of back ache and period type pains and keep thinking "tonight's the night". But then it never is. AAAAAGHHHHH.
My dh has promised me a mercy shag tonight to try to get everything going, but I feel like a hippo and I've a sneaky feeling he might see me as one at the mo too.

Bring on the curry and pineapple.

memoo Mon 24-Aug-09 15:30:02

Thanks for the hug spawnchorus, I needed one today grin

Sparkler Mon 24-Aug-09 15:34:22

Awww ladies, I sympathise with you all I really do. I'm not expecting and there are no plans for me to have anymore ever again - my two dds are now 10 and 7 and I've had my share. Just couldn't help reading through and smile at you all. I remember being right where you all are now and thinking and feeling the same way - just wanted to remind you that give it a few months and you'll all be saying I miss being pregnant etc etc. smile
Good luck with all the births btw! smile

puffylovett Mon 24-Aug-09 16:09:23

I've had diarrhoea too spawnchorus ! Actually I've been quite glad of it because usually i suffer from constipation grin

well we have spent ALL of today in front of the telly. I'm typing this sat in my dressing gown hmm. Tons of washing up to be done in the kitchen, DS wet the bed last night and I haven't washed any of it yet and my house is just going on the market and I should be cleaning not dossing !

somebody please kick me up the bum....

I've actually been sat today thinking God, if this is how I feel pregnant, how the hell am I going to cope with 2 DC's and sleep deprivation ? am worried for sanity and the level of care ds is going to get from me sad

Hangingbellyofbabylon Mon 24-Aug-09 16:15:41

Love you all! smile - it's nice to know I'm not alone. I've had a couple of those nights with back ache and period type pain when you really do feel like it's all starting, then you wake up in morning and find everything is asc usual. Keep em coming, makes me feel better!

mogend77 Mon 24-Aug-09 16:26:11

puffylovett

I REALLY don't think dealing with a newborn is as bad as being heavily pregnant. For a start you have a lovely baby as compensation, but secondly your body is suddenly getting stronger by the day instead of deteriorating!

kathyis6incheshigh Mon 24-Aug-09 17:05:29

newborn way easier than pregnancy IME. Even one that doesn't sleep.

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