I'm pregnant AGAIN......help!(35 Posts)
Oh what a night I had last night! 8 days late and thinking "oh s%*t".sent dh2b to asda, and after a LARGE glass of wine, I took the test only to have a BIG BLUE LINE APPEAR. My ds is 6 1/2 months old and my first.....any advice and support welcome, I am all at once!!!
wow! - that's the support
Advice - get a double buggy.....
What a shock hamster! Congratulations, it will be hard at first with the possible morning sickness and the tiredness and then having two babies will be incredibly difficult (not going to lie!) but people have multiples all the time, it can be done and you can do it and in a little time they'll play together and hopefully be very close, that's usually the case ... best of luck and don't be afraid to ask for help!!
it can be really good having 2 close together. my first 2 are 17 months apart, my choice, and I liked that gap. yes it's hard in the first few months, but isn't it always with a new baby, and this time you will know so much better what to do. advantages of a short gap:
You'll have less jealousy problems than with a bigger gap, 1 year olds tend to accept a new baby easily.
the two will be very compatible eg both able to go to toddler groups together, playgroups, parties, school, etc
my 2 are 4 and 3 now, at school together and very good friends. they play together (and fight too) a lot at home and are rarely bored.
don't panic it won't be too bad when you get over the shock..
My two are 15 months apart and yes it is Hard, Tough, stressfull nightmare some days even. But also i wouldnt have it anyother way. They play together lovely. Its very rewarding. Good luck and enjoy. Its well worth it in the end especially by the time they are toddling
Thanks Tommy, the thought of pushing round a double buggy fills me with dread, I am forever knocking shop displays and nipping peoples ankles as it is! Fennel..it's good to realsise the pro's of the situation...I think! Anyone else on here been through the same? its good hearing other people's accounts
congratulations on the pg
agree with the others there is 18 months between my ds2+3 it is tough but they are very close and get on brilliantly they are now 8 and 7 and have always got on as they went to playgroup and mother and toddlers together,hard work for me but great fun for them.
best advice is tommys get a double buggy
Hi hamster, congratulations!!
You sound just like me a few years ago - My DD1 was 9mths old when I fell pg with DD2, to say I was shocked was an understatement!!! I do agree with Fastasleep, it's not gonna be easy as your ds will still be very much a baby - I remember still having to carry dd1 upstairs when struggling with a bump. But it was never anything I couldn't cope with.
A double buggy was the best buy we made! And I must say since we past the nappy stage the small age gap is fantastic!!! In fact if I'd known how it would turn out I'd have planned it that way! My kids are soooo close, yes they argue, but it's occasional and they are each others best friends, they are never lonely and are really good company for each other (morning lie ins at the wkend ).
I am now pg with no.3 and even thinking that maybe we should have another after this one with the same gap cos it'll be a shame for baby not to have the kind of relationship the other two have! (yep must be mad!!) DD1 is now 5yrs old and DD2 is 4 this month - dd2 starts school in sept, year below dd1 and is very excited .
At all works out for the best honest, just try not to worry about it - I really didn't enjoy my second pregnancy cos I spent the whole time panicing. Relax and enjoy your children.
Best of luck xx
17mths between my first two dds and 15mths between second two dds. It is honestly not as horrendous and daunting as it may initially seem. As others have said, they grow up as good friends, taking the pressure off you to provide continuous entertainment! And the other good thing is that the older child is generally too young to be jealous about the new arrival - they just accept it! My advice - get a tandem buggy. No problems then getting it through small spaces! All the best xx.
Congratulations! I'm a twin mum so all I can say is have fun, you'll really enjoy having the 2 once you are over the initial exhaustion. Rest where you can and don't get DH2b into bad habits. Have him help as much as you can with all aspects of the childcare. You'll need his experienced hands when number 2 comes along.
Just echoing what everyone else has said really - my two are 20 months apart. The first 6 months were tough but it gets better all the time. They seem to like each other and even now (ds is only 10 months) enjoy playing together. The funny thing is IME I really didn't have a clue second time around - I'd forgotten how to bf, couldn't get to grips with ds's plumbing (after dd) IYKWIM, couldn't remember how to introduce solids and had much less patience than I had with dd. Wish I'd done an ante-natal refresher course! Congrats and good luck
Good to hear all this you know. Am hoping is another boy, cheaper clothes wise . I can't help but think I am jumping the gun a little, but I suppose it pays to be prepared!
I havn't, but my next door neighbour has 2 boys that have 15 months between them. DS1 was 8 weeks early, then she had a miscariage at 12 weeks and got pregnant straight away and had DS2. They are now 4 and 5 and get on like a house on fire most of the time! If she can do it and cope with the miscarage and both both boys being prem without a very supportive DP then I;m sure that you can. Good luck with everything
I had 15 months between number 2 and number 3. I loved the age gap. DS2 slepy morning and afternoon so I had time with new baby when DS1 was at nursery.
I didn't actually get a double buggy. When we went into town I was with DH and one of us had DS3 in a sling, with DS2 in buggy and DS1 walking beside. I had a silver cross pram and had a pram seat on that which is probably hardly done theses days (14 years ago)
Congratulations hamster! I've got two dds who are 17 months apart and I would say the same as the others here - very tough during pg and the first year after no. 2 is born - but oh how great it is after that! My dds play together, do things together all the time - they are chalk and cheese in personality yet get on so well. They are 6 and 7 now and I've not had a minute's regret having had them so close.
Some practical advice - if you're always knocking things over, why not go for one of those double buggies where they sit one behind the other?
hamster - Congratulations! My ds and dd are 15 months apart in age and it's great. Ds accepted her immediately and was never jealous. I had a neighbour (who was a Mum, a granny, an ex foster mother and ex childminder) to help me for a few hours a day and that really helped. She used to take ds out to do the things he liked i.e. splashing in puddles and eating scones! As for prams, I hired a tandem for a few months but it was too heavy and bulky (and I'm not little!) so I had a Waki Rider once dd was old enough to go in the seat and ds on the ride along bit. It was brilliant. Anyway...good luck!
P.S. They're now aged 11 and 10 yrs and it still works out well.
I might do Miaou. I'll be a disaster with one of either. My dh2b refuses to let me push when we're out in town because I always run is toes over, so I don't think I'll win either way! LOL Might consider the sling idea too
my two are 13 months apart and are now 10 months and 23 months. it is really hard but not as difficult as i thought. i bf dd1 and thought that feeding dd2 whether bf or bottle would be impossible when i was alone and bought a travel cot to use as a playpen for dd1 when feeding. never needed it. the girls have started to occupy each other now and although i never planned it this way, i think this was the best way.
I agree double buggies are a PITA. we had a 3-wheeler (side by side) but if I was buying one now I'd go for one of those E3 explorer ones (very neat )
also double buggies are easy to find second hand in very good condition as many people just use them for a few months - so if you can't afford a posh new one you can probably get a good one easily, even on mumsnet perhaps.
I'd have loved that gap (ds is 10 months are we are trying now-onwardish) but dp put his foot down
Once you get used to it, I'm sure you'll love it
Congratulations ! My brother and I are exactly 13 months apart. My mum said she got all the baby stuff out of the way in one go, I was never jealous of the baby and we largely enjoyed the same activities (as much as a boy and girl can !) for the first few years. Were both in the same schools except for the odd year.
Hamster by the way do you think you're due in Oct/Nov? Because I'm from the the due in October board, they're great if you fancy a really big moan about anything you like
Congrats! - I got pregnant with ds2 at the same time as you. There are 15 months between them. I love the gap. The two boys are now 18 months and 33 months. They are just starting to play together and seem best of buddies. (!) I am pg with #3 now and am a great advocate of small age gaps. Hard work - but rewarding. Good luck.
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