I'm pregnant AGAIN......help!

[hamster]

Oh what a night I had last night! 8 days late and thinking "oh s%*t".sent dh2b to asda, and after a LARGE glass of wine, I took the test only to have a BIG BLUE LINE APPEAR. My ds is 6 1/2 months old and my first.....any advice and support welcome, I am all at once!!!

[hamster]

thanks handlemecarefully, I'll bear that one in mind

[debs26]

congrats hamster, my eldest 2 are 18 months apart and very close now. i personally hated doubled buggies as ds1 is huge for his age - i used single buggy for ds1 and baby sling then backcarrier for ds 2 until ds1 was old enough to walk or use buggy board. good luck, is hard but very worth it

[handlemecarefully]

Check out the picture bottom right to see how the two tandem seats work

[handlemecarefully]

do not waste your time on any other pushchair

[hamster]

my dh2b keeps saying after this one he's going for the snip...he's only 26!
Still, I hope, as everyone keeps saying; that after the first few months it gets better, i hope so. Tunise, god knows how you coped with 2 that young. Well done!

[tunise]

Congrats! I know it's a bit of a shock. Ds1 was only 3 months when i fell for Ds2, so there is exactly one year and 5 days between them. March is a very expensive month!
It was hard at times but the nice stuff so outweighs that and if i had to do it again i wouldn't change the gap at all.
Advice? Prepare yourself for the smart alec nudge nudge wink wink comments "have you worked out what causes it yet?" or if your friends are very common(like mine) "can't you keep your legs crossed!"

[huggybear]

CONGRATULATIONS

My two are 18 months apart and now they are 2 and very very nearly 1 they are starting to play together although they do fight over toys and god help me if ds2 knocks over a tower that ds1 has built

advice on double buggy- i've got 3. terrible i know! a front and back one which i find really heavy and dont use. A side by side one which regually gets stuck on buses! and a buggy type one that has wheels so small that it keeps getting stuck and is rubbish. Ive just bought a buggy board for ds2 which in theory is a great idea but in reality he keeps jumping off

[playnotwork]

i found out i was pregnant with my second child when my first was 6 1/2 months old too. they are 15 months apart in age. i found the first 4 months really tough, but after that it was fine, and love the gap now. they are so close, and play together brilliantly (most of the time!!!!) you'll find that they end up entertaining each other a lot of the time, which is lovely.

congratulations anyway, it will be great!

[beansprout]

Congratulations!

I suspect it's always daunting, no matter what the age gap?

I have exactly the same experience as lucysmum. I was born first and don't remember a time when my brother wasn't around.

Have a lovely pregnancy!!

[MommyD]

Congrats! - I got pregnant with ds2 at the same time as you. There are 15 months between them. I love the gap. The two boys are now 18 months and 33 months. They are just starting to play together and seem best of buddies. (!) I am pg with #3 now and am a great advocate of small age gaps. Hard work - but rewarding. Good luck.

[Fastasleep]

Hamster by the way do you think you're due in Oct/Nov? Because I'm from the the due in October board, they're great if you fancy a really big moan about anything you like

[lucysmum]

Congratulations ! My brother and I are exactly 13 months apart. My mum said she got all the baby stuff out of the way in one go, I was never jealous of the baby and we largely enjoyed the same activities (as much as a boy and girl can !) for the first few years. Were both in the same schools except for the odd year.

[lunavix]

Congratulations

I'd have loved that gap (ds is 10 months are we are trying now-onwardish) but dp put his foot down

Once you get used to it, I'm sure you'll love it

[Fennel]

I agree double buggies are a PITA. we had a 3-wheeler (side by side) but if I was buying one now I'd go for one of those E3 explorer ones (very neat )

also double buggies are easy to find second hand in very good condition as many people just use them for a few months - so if you can't afford a posh new one you can probably get a good one easily, even on mumsnet perhaps.

[mumofelise]

my two are 13 months apart and are now 10 months and 23 months. it is really hard but not as difficult as i thought. i bf dd1 and thought that feeding dd2 whether bf or bottle would be impossible when i was alone and bought a travel cot to use as a playpen for dd1 when feeding. never needed it. the girls have started to occupy each other now and although i never planned it this way, i think this was the best way.

[hamster]

what's a waki rider?(am I being silly?!)

[hamster]

I might do Miaou. I'll be a disaster with one of either. My dh2b refuses to let me push when we're out in town because I always run is toes over, so I don't think I'll win either way! LOL Might consider the sling idea too

[tiptop]

hamster - Congratulations! My ds and dd are 15 months apart in age and it's great. Ds accepted her immediately and was never jealous. I had a neighbour (who was a Mum, a granny, an ex foster mother and ex childminder) to help me for a few hours a day and that really helped. She used to take ds out to do the things he liked i.e. splashing in puddles and eating scones! As for prams, I hired a tandem for a few months but it was too heavy and bulky (and I'm not little!) so I had a Waki Rider once dd was old enough to go in the seat and ds on the ride along bit. It was brilliant. Anyway...good luck!
P.S. They're now aged 11 and 10 yrs and it still works out well.

[Miaou]

Congratulations hamster! I've got two dds who are 17 months apart and I would say the same as the others here - very tough during pg and the first year after no. 2 is born - but oh how great it is after that! My dds play together, do things together all the time - they are chalk and cheese in personality yet get on so well. They are 6 and 7 now and I've not had a minute's regret having had them so close.

Some practical advice - if you're always knocking things over, why not go for one of those double buggies where they sit one behind the other?

[mears]

I had 15 months between number 2 and number 3. I loved the age gap. DS2 slepy morning and afternoon so I had time with new baby when DS1 was at nursery.
I didn't actually get a double buggy. When we went into town I was with DH and one of us had DS3 in a sling, with DS2 in buggy and DS1 walking beside. I had a silver cross pram and had a pram seat on that which is probably hardly done theses days (14 years ago)

[sacha3taylor]

I havn't, but my next door neighbour has 2 boys that have 15 months between them. DS1 was 8 weeks early, then she had a miscariage at 12 weeks and got pregnant straight away and had DS2. They are now 4 and 5 and get on like a house on fire most of the time! If she can do it and cope with the miscarage and both both boys being prem without a very supportive DP then I;m sure that you can. Good luck with everything

[hamster]

Good to hear all this you know. Am hoping is another boy, cheaper clothes wise . I can't help but think I am jumping the gun a little, but I suppose it pays to be prepared!

[franke]

Just echoing what everyone else has said really - my two are 20 months apart. The first 6 months were tough but it gets better all the time. They seem to like each other and even now (ds is only 10 months) enjoy playing together. The funny thing is IME I really didn't have a clue second time around - I'd forgotten how to bf, couldn't get to grips with ds's plumbing (after dd) IYKWIM, couldn't remember how to introduce solids and had much less patience than I had with dd. Wish I'd done an ante-natal refresher course! Congrats and good luck

[MunchedTooManyMarsLady]

Congratulations! I'm a twin mum so all I can say is have fun, you'll really enjoy having the 2 once you are over the initial exhaustion. Rest where you can and don't get DH2b into bad habits. Have him help as much as you can with all aspects of the childcare. You'll need his experienced hands when number 2 comes along.