I am due to be my friend's bridesmaid at her wedding next year. My husband is to be groomsman at the same wedding.
My friend has just told me that it looks like they are about to finally lock down a date for the wedding after a number of changes for various reasons.
The problem is, I am 7 weeks pregnant and the date chosen is 16 days before my due date (though I will likely have a Caesarean two weeks early). The wedding will be in Spain. So I won't be able to travel to the wedding, and there must be a real chance of my DH being unable to go either if baby arrives early (I arrived early) or Caesarean is recommended for just before or the day of the wedding.
We have both been quite clear that we don't want to tell anyone at all until after the 12-week scan - ie we have not even told our parents. I hate the thought of people knowing about a miscarriage or termination for medical reasons, and feel more relaxed without the additional expectation/potential disappointment of others being attached to the pregnancy.
But I'm thinking our friends might be cross if we tell them too late that neither of us can go? I think the couple would probably go ahead if only I couldn't go, but might well want to switch if neither of us could go, my DH being the groom's oldest friend.
Should we tell them?
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Heregoeseverything · 19/11/2017 17:23
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