My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Parenting

How soon after newborn did you go out?

56 replies

KimchiLaLa · 10/10/2017 22:45

Just that really. Today I popped out for 2 hours while she was with her grandma sleeping. I can't take her out yet; in our culture she has to stay at home and her first trip will be to the temple. I felt so bad but at the same time got home refreshed and feeling like I'd had a break. How soon did you go out? What do you think is appropriate?

OP posts:
Report
KingIrving · 11/10/2017 00:28

Immediately.
Whatever makes the mum feel good is what is right. If you feel like spending the day in bed with the baby and not move for weeks, excellent. If you feel crushed by the walls and desperately need to get out even if only to the shop at the corner for a newspaper, do it.

Why would you feel bad about being outside. So next time, grab a blanket, go to the temple and from there the world is your and your DD's to explore.
And if you are lucky enough to have family around to look after her, go for it. Any time!

Report
SleepingStandingUp · 11/10/2017 00:37

We got discharged at 12 1/2 weeks. I did a shop at Morrison's whikat he was home with Daddy a few days later

Report
Ohwell14 · 11/10/2017 00:43

Two days after I had her I did my food shopping. I felt fine despite the many looks from nosy people who wanted to know how old baby was and then got annoyed that I was out so early. My body, my choice and despite the pain from my stitches I felt great

Report
BendingSpoons · 11/10/2017 08:04

We came home on day 2, day 3 went for a walk to the park (with DD), day 4 or 5 went for lunch with DH and DD (although it was about 4pm when we got there). For me, staying in the house would have been bad for my mental health and I was physically well enough to go short distances. I didn't go out without DD for ages though, apart from to the local shop, as she wanted to feed all the time and I was anxious about not being there. With hindsight I'm sure she could have coped for 30 mins!

Report
Shirelassy · 11/10/2017 09:13

With my daughter we didn't leave home for about 2weeks! We were very paranoid first time parents Blush

With my son we went to supermarket and Homebase in way home from hospital and were out and about in the days that followed. Although I was sore and we were all shattered it felt good to get out in the fresh air with him Smile

Report
Ecureuil · 11/10/2017 09:16

I took DD1 to a cafe for lunch at less than 24 hours old (we were discharged same day). Not sure when I went out on my own, I think I went and did some Christmas shopping alone when she was a couple of weeks old.

Report
Ecureuil · 11/10/2017 09:17

I don’t think there’s an ‘appropriate’ time though is there? Whenever you want to and are happy to. DH went to Tesco as soon as we got home from the hospital and no one would consider that inappropriate. If you want to go out, and someone is looking after your baby then what’s the problem?

Report
mindutopia · 11/10/2017 13:04

Do you mean with baby or without? I suspect we might have taken her with us to do the food shopping after about a week or so (before that, we ordered online). In terms of one my own, we went out to lunch at the pub down the road, literally about a minute's walk from our house, when grandparents were visiting at 6 weeks. Honestly, everything was hard enough early on and she had a lot of feeding issues so it wasn't really a priority to do much for myself alone early on, but if you are feeling up for it, there's no reason not.

Report
PotteringAlong · 11/10/2017 13:06

Without the baby? Probably about 5 months for the first 2 - the third I left at 3 months as my eldest needed an operation. Out as in out of the house? Within 24 hours of being at home.

Report
Natsku · 11/10/2017 13:08

With baby - a couple days after getting home to take her to the midwife appointment.
Can't remember when I first went out without her (but ex was a cunt who wouldn't do any actual parenting)

Report
Anatidae · 11/10/2017 13:08

Without the baby?

Ten months. 😱

Report
Natsku · 11/10/2017 13:09

Actually wait, I do remember, after a weekish when I had to go to the hospital because of pains and didn't want to take a newborn to a germ-ridden A&E.

Report
NerrSnerr · 11/10/2017 13:11

We got discharged on Saturday and we took her to drop and pick my eldest at nursery on the Monday and we went out for a meal with her on the Wednesday.

Report
confused123456 · 11/10/2017 13:11

Our ds was in hospital for 12 days. I think we took him out for a short walk the day after he came home. So be would have been nearly 2 weeks old.

Report
AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 11/10/2017 13:16

We came home when DS was 3 days old, we went to DH's ex's wedding two days later with DS.

Report
notangelinajolie · 11/10/2017 13:25

For me, it depended on how I was feeling. With 2nd baby we called at Tesco's for nappies on the way home from hospital and then called at my mum's to introduce her to baby. Baby was less than 24 hours old. I was totally buzzing after that birth!

First baby however, was a whole different thing as it was a difficult forceps birth which left me quite traumatised and very, very battered and bruised. It took a week before I could walk so it was a while before I felt ready to go out with baby. I think our first outing was to my mum's that time also.

Report
peppapigearworm · 11/10/2017 13:29

With her, about 3 hours. Without her, about 2 months.

Report
LaContessaDiPlump · 11/10/2017 13:36

I went to the shops on my own around 5 days postpartum (ds1). He was taken out for his first walk at 1 week. We were so paranoid and forgot our own coats so had to shelter in a hedge. He was fine sleeping under the raincover Grin

With DS2 we went to a picnic in the park less than 36h later. People did give me funny looks, I'll admit!! I think I was out on my own at around 12 days after he was born (trip to town after being told he needed formula - I reasoned that he didn't need me any more so why stay?). Looking back that wasn't a healthy way to think, was it Confused

Report
Blueskyrain · 11/10/2017 15:04

With my child, day 4 (after section), without her, 2-3 weeks to go to a party, baby stayed with in with dad.

Report
ineedwine99 · 11/10/2017 15:07

2 days old, released from hospital at 9pm, next morning we were all out shopping for new baby clothes as she was too small for what we had at home, plus i wanted to get out

Report
BrawneLamia · 11/10/2017 15:09

With my first, we were in hospital for a week, then we stayed in the house for about a week after that. She was premature and it was mid winter and snowing.

I had Dc2 at home and took him out at two days old for his newborn check at the hospital.

Report
Luckystar1 · 11/10/2017 15:12

With baby, straight away, was discharged same day with both and we went to the shops immediate.

Without baby.... err, 12 months for 1st, can't remember with 2nd. We have no help locally so leaving them isn't easy.

Report

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

Mulch · 11/10/2017 15:13

I was walking the dogs next day. My friend didn't leave the house in a month, she was perfectly happy to let hubby do errands. Everyone's different

Report
SpinDry · 11/10/2017 15:23

Dd2 went shopping with us at 1 day old, and to the park with her big sister at 2 days. Shes also been coming to work with me since she was 2 weeks old as I run my own business.

Report
Needalifeoverhaul · 11/10/2017 15:29

In six months have only been out once without the baby and that was when he was about 6 weeks....with him it took me two weeks to be brave enough and energetic enough to take him anywhere! Now I'd go doolally if I didn't go somewhere with him every day! If you can OP, take some more time for yourself by going out....it'll do you the world of good Smile

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.