To protect, that?s why I?ve changed my name. Doesn?t feel right to do this with people knowing who I am, for my family?s sake, so sorry for the name change.
My uncle has just been on trial for sexually assaulting his daughter and his granddaughter.
The jury found him guilty today and the judge has given him 3 weeks to get his affairs in order before sentencing him.
He is about 76 years old and will probably die in prison.
So, me and my family, my parents, his wife, his other kids, his brothers and sisters, his other family, his friends are all sitting there tonight feeling all sorts of emotions, and the big question did he or didn?t he?
His daughter, the accuser, through a difficult phase she sent her DD to stay with him, and her mother, even though he allegedly abused her as a child. The granddaughter then blossomed and came out of her shell while in the care of this alleged abuser. Would you send your DD to live with the man that abused you as a child?
The mother, the wife, is saying there?s no way it happened. There are times and incidents that she says are impossible.
My uncle is/was an alcoholic, admits to being a bad father, but has been impotent since his drinking problems began.
Don?t know what to think really.
From my cousin?s POV, why say it happened and go through that if it didn?t. I know she?s angry, very angry with her father for his terrible parenting and I know she hates him basically. I also know her DH has been the instigator in all this. I know my cousin is an angry, pretty fucked up person.
I know my uncle admits to being a bad father but he swears, to our faces that he didn?t do what she is accusing him of.
If he did do it, why has she waited until he is 76 and will die in prison?
If he didn?t do it, could she lie like this, I can?t imagine she could but then again I can?t believe he could do what she?s accusing him of.
There was an incident where my cousin says as a young child she stole money from his wallet and he beat her really badly. My aunt says that she would have seen the marks and she knows it didn?t happen.
There was also a time when my cousin was doing some sort of course and had to submit some papers actually on child abuse. She asked her mother, my aunt, advise on a question and my aunt said to her DD ? well actually you don?t know this but I was abused as a child by my step-father?. Why didn?t my cousin choose then to disclose her story of abuse.
There was another time when my aunt, full of despair at my uncles drinking, drove him to a rehab clinic and left him there and was ready to leave him for good, my cousin was well aware of this. Why then as her mother was about to leave her father did she not speak out.
I want to, and mainly, perhaps wrongly, do believe and still love my uncle.
But why would my cousin do this if it weren?t true?
It?s so hard.
I don?t know what to think. Only 2 people know the truth and they both have very different stories. It?s so awful.
I don?t know why I?m pouring this out here, but it seems like a good place to let off.
All I ask is that if you post, and you think my uncle is guilty, please spare mine and my families feelings, just a bit.
We?re hurting and love my uncle very much, so please, please, I?m asking you to not condemn him. I don?t expect you all to believe he is innocent, I just don?t want you to lash out with anger at someone that is accused of such awful crimes. We?re all mothers, or fathers, here, we all feel strongly about this subject, but right now I?m, we?re hurting and we?re seeing it from the side of a 76 year old man who will die in prison and we don?t know if he did or if he didn?t. I?m trusting this with you. I know I?ve changed my name but you must understand why. Be honest, be yourself but please don?t be cruel.
I hope I don?t regret sharing this, but couldn?t not.
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ToProtectTheInnocent · 12/04/2005 23:14
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