I seem to be going round in circles here so anyone with experience of this pleeeeease share your wisdom!
The situation is;
Dp and I have agreed to split after almost 7 years (ok, he hasn't technically agreed but hey).
We currently are still under the same roof - this house is owned by his parents.
I am SAHM.
Our finances have always been controlled by him (by mutual consent)and i dont have any savings/assets at all.
OK, so now i need to know what to do next.
I realise i will need to take some sort of benefits at first until i get things sorted and can then return to work, but which ones?
Im not sure what to do re somewhere to live, is it just the case that i find somewhere to rent, that will accept housing benefit? But do i need to apply for the HB first? Would i even be entitled to it?
AAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH..........
I'm giving myself a headache even trying to work out which things i might need to think about
I just dont know where to start, I have not been in this situation before and the longer this goes on (partly due to me dragging my feet as im in some kind of mental fug about becoming a single parent)the harder i think its going to be as DP/XDP (?) is using the proximity to make me question myself and my motives for leaving (fair enough as all he wants is for us to remain a family), its already starting to get to me a bit, the guilt is kicking in but i do still know that this is the right thing for me and DS, its also the best thing for him in the end too (he just doesn't realise yet).
The bottom line is, i need to get this sorted but right now i cant see the wood for the trees.
Any advice/inspiration would so gratefully received.
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Please advise a soon-to-be-single-parent You Lovely Wise MNers.....
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