Hi Barbie, so sorry you are going through this, I have been through it too, so will tell you waht i know, it might help.
I had a missed miscarriage, ie went for 12 week scan and was told it had died at about 7 weeks. Pretty hideous experience.
I, like you couldn't face the D & C option, and went for the 'assisted medication' route.
It was very strange going about for several days til I was given the first tablet, you almost can't quite believe that the baby is not alive anymore. It sounds like the process varies depending where you are in the country. For me, was given first tablet, then was booked to go in for the next one and to stay in the hospital for it all to happen if you know what i mean.
Anyway, several hours after 1st tablet, in the middle of the night, I woke up and knew it was happening already without the 2nd tablet. I had bad cramps and started to bleed a lot, had a bath, thought the water might help, then sat on the loo and some really big clots came out, which was v distressing for me and DH - you just dont know what it is. I didn't see the sac or foetus - I felt something heavy go down the loo, but couldn't see it, cos of the blood but I kind of knew somehow, that that was the main thing coming out and I started shaking and very nearly fainted.
I was told to go to the hospital when we rang them and they gave me the 2nd pill anyway, to make sure it was all coming out. It was a v v distressing time, and you will grieve, but that is a very necessary and natural process, so dont feel bad about tears, upset, it is part of the emotional healing.
One of the nurses said to me that it was nature's way of telling you that things weren't right, nobody's fault - I really think that is true, so tell yourself that again and again.
Sorry this is prob TMI but I thought it might be good to tell you - I think its good to have lots of info and know what to expect.
obviously it is different for every woman, your experience might be completely different. Just be prepared that you might bleed a lot and have very big clots coming out, I found it very scary, but you do get through it, and call your hospital if you need to talk to them if you are struggling to cope.
My advice would be try not to look at what comes out, if you are at home on the loo. I know that is a bit graphic, but I am glad I didnt see it, if you do, you have to just think that it is nature's way.
I will be thinking of you - if you have anymore questions just ask, think that is enough details unless you want more.
Sorry this is a bit of a ramble.
Feeling a bit worried might alarm you with my post, but wish I had known about big clots then wouldn't have panicked so much, so hope this has helped rather than made things worse.
Sending you lots of hugs and support x