As DP was unable to come in to the 12 week scan as he was asked to wait outside with DS2 so we decided to book a gender scan for 16+1, which was last night.
No heart beat, measurements suggesting baby died between 13+3 and 14+1 (although crl was only 12+2 - it was tightly curled up in a ball and the sonographer has put in the report that measurement isn't reliable due to positioning).
I am in turns numb, grief stricken, disbelieving but the common theme running through all these emotions is utter terror. I'm so scared that this 'missed' miscarriage is going to start naturally before I get the chance to be helped by the hospital (I have an apointment at 11.15am tomorrow with the EPU - I'm guessing they will confirm the baby has died and talk me throuh my options - as much as I think I want things managed right away, I don't suppose it's going to happen tomorrow?)
I know beyond a doubt that I do want to, can't let this run its natural course - the thought of passing the baby and then...what? It goes down the toilet? I throw it in the bin? I think even the thought of seeing it. I can't get the oh-so-still image of it out of my head from the scan last night, it's haunting me. The 'real thing' might just finish me off.
Also, I'm still full on breastfeeding DS2 who turned one two weeks ago. So I assume in some way it's going to affect what I can take, especially when it comes to pain relief. If, for instance, I chose a local for an ERPC do I get earplugs? Being awake is one thing, hearing it would be another.
Oh god, I'm a mess. I know I'll hopefully be better informed tomorrow but as of right now it all feels so alien and surreal. So surreal. I think I need information from real, been there women so I'm not flailing around, feeling like I'm drowning. Forewarned is forearmed, isn't it? I hope so.
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Please help if you can. 12 week scan, fine...
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MandaHugNKiss · 30/03/2011 20:16
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