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Ghoulette1740 Wed 30-Oct-19 14:42:30

Welcome to the November Flylady thread Fledglings! All are welcome here. A few of us have been around a while but everyone, newbie and lurking, is welcome to join in.

This is my first time running the thread so I hope other fledglings will alert me when I’ve got things confused or if I’ve left something out!! A busy month for us all with the holiday season looming next month…

Very simply Flylady is a zone-based cleaning system which we loosely follow. Everyone is different and has different rooms and life demands. There are five zones and at the beginning and the end of the month we usually straddle Zone 1 and zone 5.
(amend rooms to suit your house – I do the living and dining room together as it’s all one room in my house)
November
Zone 1 Hall, entrance/dining room (Fri 1 – Sat 2)
Zone 2 Kitchen (Sun 3- Sat 9)
Zone 3 Bathroom and another room (Sun 10- Sat 16)
Zone 4 Master bedroom/closet (Sun 17 – sat 23)
Zone 5 Living room (Sun 24 – Sat 30)

Pop onto the Flylady website to have a closer look but signing up for emails will probably lead to very many landing in your inbox. Also there has been some concern about securely downloading pdfs from the site. here

Flylady has an introductory scheme for newbies called Babysteps which is a light 31 day introduction to the system – dressing to shoes, shining your sink etc. What I like about Flylady is her emphasis on self care, her abhorrence of perfectionism and her adage that you’re never being behind in the system - just jump in. No need to completely clean your house before you start – phew! here

There is a morning routine and an evening routine to keep things ticking over and a weekly home cleaning hour to change bed sheets, mop, hoover, take out rubbish etc. The system isn’t brilliant for major decluttering so you might want to supplement with Kondo or another decluttering system. Flylady doesn’t want us cleaning all day so she is very keen on using a timer. Clean then stop!
In addition each day has a purpose: see the daily focus here

Monday: Weekly home cleaning hour (can be split into ten minute sections and spread over week) here
Tuesday: Plan and play (Menu planning, family event planning)
Wednesday: Anti-procrastination day
Thursday: Errand day
Friday: Clear out bags, fill car with petrol, date night
Saturday: Family fun
Sunday: Lift your spirit

Launch pad for guidance every day! launch pad

Habit of the month of November is meal planning. This is my Achilles heel! here

We have a lovely virtual naughty corner where we can all retreat – there are all manner of lovely things left there by thread members including fluffy pillows, warm blankets, tea, coffee, wine, delicious foods. This month there are plenty of candles to brighten the darker days.
There may be mention of Ned who started life as an autocorrection on the thread but who has now morphed into a virtual helper with a specialism in putting away laundry. Ned is borrowed by thread members from time to time when the going gets tough on Mount Washmore.
Most days we pop on to post our ta da list of what we’ve managed to do and have a bit of a natter.

Stilllivinginazoo Mon 11-Nov-19 13:05:55

queen welcome aboard
You aren't only one here that gets overwhelmed,nor only one with MH that wobbles.be kind to yourself and remember the positives-you have laundry under control.thats no mean feat for many of us!

I got dragged out on 4hrs sleep for a bracing walk at local reservoir.i only have canvas shoes they got wet and muddy(D's and "d"p have walking boots and thick coats) I am still half frozen an hour home...he's in a not listening/talk over me stressed mood so try not murder him before works pricing increasingly difficult.i.must.resist...

Another load wash done,dry and put away
More in wash
Where is the breeding spot?that's what I'd like to know so I can stamp on those copulating clothes
DS fed,I'm too irritable to enjoy lunch,so will wait til he clears off to work(just before 2)
So far no calls from school for lil zoo,but with each hour I grow more fretful as to how she's coping.mum guilt never gets easier<sighs>

Tidyhomewannabe Mon 11-Nov-19 13:14:41

Chic good luck with the shopping and great idea with the photo mugs ! You are very organised , I'm starting to stress at the amount of things needed for Christmas!!

Zoo do you need an alibi, or has 'd'p redeemed himself? Love ikea, luckily our store is a 40 minute drive so I don't venture there too often or my bank balance would be grumpy!

Tada
Kids ready and off to school
Dishwasher emptied
Beds made
Bathroom tidied
Wash on
Dryer on
15 mins in my bedroom aka dumping ground
Tidied living room
Kallax boxes in unit apart from the cupboard and drawers, oh will hopefully do them tonight
Picked dd2 up from nursery - tantrum all the way home and stood screaming in the doorway for about 15 mins, I wouldn't normally allow a nap in the afternoon, however she obviously isn't feeling great and is now snoring on the sofa! I will deal with the consequences tonight confused
Sent Christmas wish lists to mil and my mum

I have nothing in for tea because this afternoons task was to go shopping, I'm going to have to see if dd2 will wake up in 15 mins and assess her mood - wish me luck !!

Bowerbird5 Mon 11-Nov-19 13:27:11

Welcome Queen We understand about feeling overwhelmed. I have found (a year on ) that it is starting to work. We also made up the Power Of Three. Do three things then post then chose another. We are talking small things. Declutter a handbag, put a wash on, wipe kitchen worksurfaces. etc.

Had a really bad nights sleep where I woke up after dreaming someone was stealing stuff out of the car. Now there isn't much in the car (for once) but I did clean it yesterday with the new vacuum. It was really vivid and someone they nknew came along on a bicycle and chatted to them while they were ratching through my boot. Anyway then I couldn't get back to sleep.I have had my car stolen twice. Once here and an estate up in Scotland that they threw the baby's carrycot out of and left on the beach with all his blankets.He was three weeks old and the police wanted to know why I hadn't heard it go. It was stolen to order as it was used for a robbery. I was under suspicion as I knew the people who had the robbery. It was his business.
Anyway I then stayed awake for an hour and a half then slept fitfully so feel tired today.

TA DA
Sorted a pile of random crap, papers etc
Vacuumed hall. Wiped door.
made bed
Wash -load of towels.
S&S bathroom.

Bowerbird5 Mon 11-Nov-19 13:28:50

Zoo you want to see the kids at Christmas...don't do it!

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Mon 11-Nov-19 13:33:29

The essay is done 🥳

ChicCroissant Mon 11-Nov-19 14:34:40

Laundry under control? What sorcery is this?

star for IVE, well done on getting the essay done. I agree with Tidy about the timer too, amazing how well it works (also agree with the nap for tantrums too).

Bought a box of Christmas crackers today, they are very large crackers compared to the 'gifts' inside but look impressive. They were on offer at the Garden Centre and the staff said that they'd sold loads! Must all be eco-unfriendly around here.

Also got a free coffee while I was out, so win-win there smile

The mugs were on offer, and I just had an idea when I saw it. It's not planning at all, but there was a minimum amount of postage so I thought I'd order a few more while I was at it. Good for stocking fillers, DD's has a message on it about a present that she already knows she is getting (concert tickets) but won't physically have at Christmas.

Nearly school pick up time, haven't done much flying today tbh.

QueenOfOversharing Mon 11-Nov-19 14:38:44

Thank you all for the welcome!

I've kind of done 3 things!

Filled the sink with bleach (no mean feat as DS had filled it with pans & it was clogged with lentils & chickpeas)

Sorted all my jeans (huge amount) into those way too small & those which might fit now or soon) and put small ones into vacuum bag.

Emptied bag of tops & sorted into too small / too summery and "now" ones - then put away into vacuum bag.

Oh & I put clean sheets on bed.

I now have more of a mess on my bed, but I feel good for having started.

Am out now & going to buy cleaning bits - bleach, rubber gloves, sink & toilet unblocker - and get some food shopping.

KTCluck Mon 11-Nov-19 14:50:18

Tidy in those circumstances a nap has to be allowed. Hope it doesn’t cause problems tonight. DD is still a bit tired but otherwise absolutely fine (and has categorically refused to nap). Childcare for tomorrow is sorted thankfully.

Queen that sounds like a brilliant start star

Well done on getting the essay finished Ive, that must be a weight off your mind.

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Mon 11-Nov-19 14:50:29

Ta da

School run and shit
Pots washed
Bottles washed and sterilised
Delivery of parcels taken
Essay written and sent
Wash on x3
Dryer on x3
Dry washing sorted

Welcome new people

zoo you can hide the body in my cellar flowers

LivingInLaputa Mon 11-Nov-19 15:26:03

Welcome queen sorry about the poor mental health, empathy hugs from me! ❤️

Cagletini’s 2 year check done, all good, they’ll phone me in six months to see how her speech is and refer if necessary. It’s just for pronunciation as language wise she’s fine, I stopped counting words a few weeks back at 135 😂

I feel super tearful now though as they asked quite a lot about my (mostly mental) health which I really didn’t expect and they were perfectly lovely but I feel a bit exposed now I guess.

I’ve retired to bed to write my therapy notes and maybe do some drawing or something.

QueenOfOversharing Mon 11-Nov-19 15:33:21

Thank you Living

Sending hugs back - sounds like a tough day. My DS was under SALT for delayed speech & then stammering. I don't know if this resonates, but I felt very judged & somewhat lacking. All this, despite a MA in Linguistics!

Hope you have a restful evening. thanks

foxessocks Mon 11-Nov-19 17:23:31

Hi everyone, welcome new people (sorry once again can't scroll back!)

Well done on finishing the essay I've that's great news!

Ta das
Dusted
Polished mirrors
Laundry
Dishwasher
Work AM
School run / nursery run
Tidied crafty cupboard
Tidied ds bedroom
Sorted a gazillion socks
Put some stuff into charity bag
Put lots of laundry away
Tidied living room
Took a load of rubbish out to bins
Ordered dd school photos
Did online food shop
Packaged up parcel

Dh has made pizzas and we're going to watch junior bake off, hope you all have nice (restful??) evenings!

Times10 Mon 11-Nov-19 18:10:21

A quiet day for flying, but once again the DCs wanted an impromptu play date and I could say yes. Last year, I had to say no every time they wanted a last minute play, so this is a massive positive!

Stilllivinginazoo Mon 11-Nov-19 19:52:25

I'vestaryou are a legend lovely doing course and newborns and dc and life!!
I couldn't put him in your cellar.hes tall lad.i couldn't add enough cat litter to control the stench his rotting corpse<I watch too many CSI type programmes,can you tell>grin

Laputa🍫 you sound like you need the rest lovelyflowers

Made a banana cake that failed miserably-it was g.f and ended up like glue...

Dd2 vegan tea tonight is a happy pear recipe.i sub out winter greens/kale for cavelo Nero as was reduced at Aldi in the winter green pesto(has cashews,garlic,chilli in it) roasting veg for my tea so will add few peas to the pasta and some roast mushrooms and green beans

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Mon 11-Nov-19 19:56:41

I hadnt thought about the stench, i only seem to watch kids tv and it doesnt tend to cover rotting corpses blush

Tidyhomewannabe Mon 11-Nov-19 20:27:15

Ive you are amazing!

I don't really know what I've done with the rest of the day , it's kind of disappeared but I haven't achieved a great deal .... everyone's clean, fed and happy so that's good enough ! Dd2's mammoth tantrum and general grumpiness has made my brain mushy , I love all my dc but I am ready for everyone to go to bed so I can have 10 minutes of peace grin

TooStressyTooMessy Mon 11-Nov-19 20:31:09

I have somehow got sucked into a thread and now feel annoyed about both the thread and the time I have wasted. Plus inadequate as people apparently find all of this organising shit easy hmm. Think I’ll come back and hang out here grin.

Welcome Queen smile.

Work today was ok actually which is great. Only just got back from gymnastics with the girls now and both of them are grumpy though hmm.

QueenOfOversharing Mon 11-Nov-19 20:41:38

Ive and Still handy hint to cover stench... which I have discovered this evening, after joining this thread - put some sink unblocker over anything you wish to dispose of (cough) and then add bleach.

It's a mistake I will not make again. I'm still recovering in the living room 😷

Ghoulette1740 Mon 11-Nov-19 20:56:07

Baby-step 12th November: here
Launch pad link:here

Ghoulette1740 Mon 11-Nov-19 21:07:52

<hoovers thread>

Queen you are very welcome and great user name. Justgivemewine just do what you can. I'm pottering away, chipping away bit by bit.

I've - very impressed you made the deadline. That's just great. smile

SC we have endless freezer mishaps here. DH never notices when the door is left open and he slams it so hard it bounces open iykwim. Lovely country scenery the way.

Laputa I just love the still life drawing.

Bower I thought that stolen car story was a nightmare until I read the post again. That must have been most stressful. I was interviewed by the police in Dublin once because someone I had bought a watch from had recorded that i collected it but he had pocketed the money secretly. Initially the cops thought I was in on the scam. Duly reassured that I wasn't, I then had to walk around the store and identify the sales assistant who sold me the watch. It was awful.
grin I lead a very quiet life now.

I think tidy mentioned using a timer. That's what I'm going to do tomorrow when off work. I want to exercise to improve stress. I have successfully controlled negative thoughts today and am doing mindfulness. Mindfulness is next to cleanliness wink

Have a fab night fledglings. Am very jealous of those who've got Christmas shopping done.

TooStressyTooMessy Mon 11-Nov-19 21:15:31

Brilliant news on essay Ive star

Ghoulette1740 Mon 11-Nov-19 21:24:43

Gosh expletive - your poor household!

And respite and dentist shouldn't be in the same sentence grin

Exp1etiveDeLighted Mon 11-Nov-19 23:23:01

Thanks Ghoulette - well it was DD's dentist appointment not mine grin. I frittered most of the spare hour away chatting with a friend on Messenger though blush.

I agree about cleanliness and mindfulness, definitely a link there, also exercise. I get spells of mild anxiety but I started running a few weeks ago, 20 minutes every morning round the block and it really is making me feel better, I get my thoughts for the day sorted out and feel energised when I get back. Hoping I can sustain it through winter.

Flying wise - very little but never mind.

HungryHazelEyes Tue 12-Nov-19 06:47:27

I had a day off work today and it was a holiday here. I actually got a lot accomplished, more than I thought I was going to this morning.

I did 5 loads of laundry, including ironing and putting away. Went grocery shopping. Raked the leaves and bagged them, dh took them to his work tonight so they are gone! I even got a cheeky nap in this afternoon.

Dinner was leftover broccoli cheddar soup served over roasted spaghetti squash. Enough leftovers for lunches and used all the soup up.

After dinner, kitchen got cleaned up, I disinfected all door knobs, wiped surfaces down to dust, cleaned washer and dryer, wiped down sink and toilet in bathroom.

Tomorrow kids should be vacuuming, mopping and washing the last load of laundry, unless dd washes her sheets, the only ones I didn't get to today. Not sure I'm ready to go back to work tomorrow, but it will be busy so will go by fast.

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 07:03:20

That's a productive day hungryhazeleyes!

You've got so much done.

I'm just waking up here.

Stilllivinginazoo Tue 12-Nov-19 07:11:17

Dd2 won't get up
I've retreated before I lose my temper
I will return with ice cold water at 730 and flick that at her.she then has 15 minutes to present lunchbox for filling,get dressed,poss eat then leave....

Lil zoo has doctors today for tummy

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Tue 12-Nov-19 07:16:29

zoo brew

I got up when the baby woke at 5ish with intentions of "doing a zoo" so far ive watched emmerdale, eaten some chocolate, fed the baby and had a brew....

Stilllivinginazoo Tue 12-Nov-19 07:28:55

Works for me I've.today I'm cold and CBA.ive sat on MN an hour and half,fed cats,wash on...
She's still not up
<Don's tinhat for fall out>
<Heads upstairs cup cold water ready flick her face with>
BRACE FOR ROAR OF ANGRY TEEN PLEASE PEOPLE

Tidyhomewannabe Tue 12-Nov-19 07:44:08

Good luck zoo! Nothing quite like the wrath of a teenage girl brewwinecake

Ive this is why I gave up getting up at 530 - I never actually achieved much and was a ratty mess by 5pm.

Ghoul the timer definitely works for me , especially on busy busy days !

Hungry that's a massive tada list star well done !

Tada
Everyone up, eaten, washed and neatly dressed (I'm sat with my coffee waiting to do everyone's hair)
Dishwasher emptied
Breakfast pots sorted
Lunches

Full day today, working while dd2 is at nursery, then taking my friend and mum to the hospital, popping to Tesco on the way back (apparently they have 2 for £60 on switch games) , I'm also picking my friends daughter up from school and keeping her till her dad gets home, dd1 & ds have football and dancing this evening so I'll be embracing the 5 minute timer today to get a few bits done in between the chaos. Decided on an easy jacket potato and beans for tea, at least I can cut out the time spent in the kitchen smile

Catch you all later !

Stilllivinginazoo Tue 12-Nov-19 08:21:17

tidy i feel tired just looking at you days plan!!

I survived.swine rolled over as I approached<creaky stairs dammit> and sat up hastily rubbing eyes and mumbling apologies.ruined all my fun...
Scrambled together lunch<same as yesterday,but with addition if banana to hemp and sunflower seeds at break as she's "starving" less junk food choices and it means probably get same amount energy etc from food just less volume
>
She left on time.just...
Wash nearly dry
Made zoo a slice of toast
Woke D's and gave some toast
Need get ready for doctor app for lil zoo.45 min walk we leaving early to allow lots time as it's painful walking too quickly for her and we never have funds for taxi etcsad

Onthebrink67 Tue 12-Nov-19 08:35:54

Been lurking but not flying. Had a bit of an anxiety meltdown last couple of weeks. I tried to talk to DH last night about how I was feeling and he just replied he was going to sleep now so feeling very alone. Decided today I will shine my sink and clear the top of my chest of drawers. It’s not much but I need to feel I have achieved something. I’m in aware by the amount you all get done.

Sistercharlie Tue 12-Nov-19 08:50:14

Must be something in the water as my teen was utterly foul to me this morning so you have my full and total sympathy Zoo. flowers DD was utterly foul all weekend if truth be told - even though we adapted our manoeuvres to her timetable - and I feel really drained and demotivated this morning. She is very stressed out by the prospect of exams in four weeks (which count towards all important end of June exams) and is taking it all of her angst out on me us. I'm trying to be patient and understanding but she has been impossible frankly. She is very bright too so her cutting remarks hit where it hurts sad

What upsets me most is that dh makes the situation worse by totally indulging the behaviour (he feels guilty because of travelling a lot so tries to make everything wonderful when he is here) so I end up battling both of them. He actually took her out to her favourite bookshop just after one incident, bought her books and a cappucino and a pastry confused. When I asked him what he thought he was doing he said he was "taking her out to give you some space". Which is all well and good but DD perceives it as "and Dad agrees with me!"

I'm exhausted and feel like putting all of their sodding clutter in the bin. All the clothes the pair of them have left on the bathroom floor next to the laundry panier confused. The shoes and books and papers they have left all over the sitting room. The sodding piles of loose change, receipts, etc DH has emptied out of his pockets on multiple surfaces. The mugs, plates, mixed clean and dirty laundry on the floordrobe on dd's floor. The weekend bags, coats, shoes, boots, just dropped in the hall along with a load of mud which will stay there, I know, until I take them up three flights of stairs and put them away.

Normally Dobby the f***ing house fairy (yes that's me) would clear it all up after a long weekend but I sodding well don't want to <stomps about angrily and flicks v signs at the world in immature fashion>

On top of everything, DH has undermined a load of very difficult and expensive training our dog trainer and I have been working on since the summer. Very experienced dog trainer said our "puppy" (very very immature 2 year old) was the most difficult nut to crack that she'd had in 20 years (anxious rescue; constantly barking, terrified of other dogs but v v intelligent ) and I was just starting to make progress with her. But to DH it doesn't matter and the rules are all "poppycock" and "over the top" because he doesn't walk her day in and day out and have her bark at other dogs three times her size in the park and nearly get herself eaten! angry

Aaargghhhhhhhhhhhhh

ChicCroissant Tue 12-Nov-19 08:51:02

Waves to Onthebrink, and great work with the instant playdates Times.

Need to get in the shower and get off to craft class today, thought it was Wednesday when I first woke up today - no chance!

Spoke to DD about another event for next year, calendar which I don't actually have yet is really filling up but it's one she's done before and it will be interesting.

Catch you later ladies!

Sistercharlie Tue 12-Nov-19 08:53:59

Sorry. That was epic. blush Didn't meant to write an essay!

Going to catch up with thread now!

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 09:58:56

SC it wasn't too long. You explained the situation very well and I can see why you feel stretched. To stretch the dog analogy you are at the end of your leash. I can recommend the Headspace app just to give yourself a few minutes of meditation. Obviously DD can't continue to lash out like that and it will calm down. Maybe you could nudge DH so you can have a more united front for future DD wobbles. I can't think of a worse age group for exams than teens. And let's face it the ed system where you live seems very stressful. But all the same you can't unload on folk because you've exam stress. flowers

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 10:01:39

DH is running an event and you would not believe the strops he's had from seemingly sane people who feel slighted that they weren't invited to hold court talk. It's been very revealing and a bit demoralising.

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 10:02:52

flowers to you too zoo

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 10:07:54

Onthebrink67 I'm trying meditation and exercise. I think someone up thread mentioned that they were running every day. I'm not there yet! I do understand what it's like to be anxious x

Stilllivinginazoo Tue 12-Nov-19 12:26:37

onthebrinkflowersa bit if me time,even 20 mins doing something you love,deep breathing when you get into bed and generally trying to be kind to yourself<would you talk to a friend the way we talk to ourselves?>help a bit

SC we should start a club/share a trench.i have 4 weeks til GCSE mock begin.dd2 is a rabbit in headlights and now has seen marks required for 6th form courses she's on the edge and utterly unbearable."d" p constantly undermines me with them all- letting D's take phone to local places where the distraction techniques are unnecessary,letting a of them do what they like as he's not here much..only difference is mine genuinely can bugger off home and leave me to it.huge sympathies on canine front too
If I was you I'd be having a day of doing me stuff and sod the lot of them!<immature emoticon>

Lil zoo has now got laxitives and anti spasmodics to add to peppermint oil capsules.2weeks we review on phone.gets worse go back.no school for a couple days as this protocol leads to uncertainty in the loo department.not good when school is 25 minutes walk,nor if you need go NOW in class....it has settled into a bit if predictability after that previously.will have to see...

Stilllivinginazoo Tue 12-Nov-19 12:27:17

ghoulette flowerssome people are beyond thoughtless.poor dh

Bowerbird5 Tue 12-Nov-19 12:34:16

We all do epic when we are stressed. It took me back to ourDD.The boys didnt stress as much over exams. DS1 because he was reasonably clever and thought he would pass them unfortunately he was very ill in hospital and didn't really recover enough to get a good pass. DS2 didn't bother much and then got a big shock when he opened them and has always worked hard since. DS3 didn't expect to pass any because he missed most of a year at school because of anxiety and bullying. He passed all on a low grade and we were thrilled. All three have never been out of work since they left school. DS 3 doesn't really like his job but he does it well apparently and he is even up for the early starts at 5am.
They are all different but I think girls are more cutting with words.
Explain to DH that positive reinforcement for the dog and DD will encourage theat behaviour soooo books, cappuchino and pastry will encourage rants but the idea of giving you space was good but maybe next time you get the treats and she stays at home!
I would be tempted to get two large black bags and put all their stuff in there and give it to them when they are going upstairs.

Ta Da
bed made.
wash on
attempting declutter hall.
Vacuum now on charge.
S&S
Going to make DH a coffee as he is outside cutting wood with his new toy. Will rug up and go to summer house.

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 13:05:13

I'm epic when stressed too Bower come to think of it blushconfused

Zoo Someone cancelled a social engagement with us because they thought (wrongly) that they'd been snubbed about the event. Poor DH had to go around to their house to placate them but at least they apologised. I was livid. Then yesterday someone else kicked off. A wide invite to participate went out just not everyone picked up on it. He'll be glad when it's over but he could do without the stress, obviously.

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 13:06:52

zoo hope those things work for Lilzoo, poor love.

LivingInLaputa Tue 12-Nov-19 13:30:00

Hugs onthebrink that was not fair of H to ignore you like that.

SC I would honestly lamp your H if I had the chance 😡😡😡

Zero flying here, it’s all about the headache 🙄 hoping this is just a short term thing (very common apparently) I’m in London all day with mum tomorrow

LivingInLaputa Tue 12-Nov-19 13:30:36

That sounds mega stressful zoo the anxiety about needing the loo won’t help 😰

Tidyhomewannabe Tue 12-Nov-19 14:47:36

Zoo I really hope the meds work quickly, keeping off school sounds like the best thing until everything settles - nothing more embarrassing than a toilet incident in front of friends !

Sc thanks I can completely understand where you are coming from - we have a few years yet until dd1 enters exam year, she doesn't test well so I'm absolutely dreading it ! I think girls are generally more vocal than boys and their words can cut deep!

Ta da
Wash in
Work
Picked dd2 up from nursery
Lunch
Drier on
Took friend and her mum to hospital
Popped into Tesco (no games that ds wanted in stock angry) so did food shop
Shopping away
Quick coffee and catch up with the thread

Off on the school run, will hopefully fit a bit off flying in afterwards!

Bowerbird5 Tue 12-Nov-19 14:53:20

Zoo ah poor Lil zoo. Have you tried liquorice. Lakeland have Australian Natural Liquorice which I try to keep in the house and try not to eat more than two pieces.It is very moreish but you really don't want to eat much. I have that because of the meds I am on. Also i can't remember whether I mentioned no dairy. I was much better when having no dairy. I'm sure you have one no dairy but can't remember which one.

DD on other side of the world has sent me a NT link to Vegan afternoon teas. I really miss tea and scones when out so will definitely be looking for nearest one on the weekend. grin

Stick Dyson 7 ...Suddenly remembered another reason for buying one was to be able to vacuum summer house.Up until now I have been used an old kitchen broom that i use for green house. Yeah to the Dyson the Summer house looks spick and span. I am thinking I will need to move all cushions in soon. I haven't been down for about 5 days. The view is fantastic as the leaves have turned. I then came in a gave a whizz around the downstairs areas and done before it ran out of battery. DH loved his coffee break cafetiere of South American coffee and a Scottish snowball. grin Off to Drs in an hour and might potter in town for half an hour. Need to check ingredients for last two Christmas Cakes.

Sistercharlie Tue 12-Nov-19 16:54:45

Hello everyone! Thanks very much for the support! Much appreciated! Had to dash off this morning because I forgot I had a "controle" booked at the dentist (mot in other words). Had a very nice older lady dentist this time and she was wonderfully calming!

I know I am horribly wicked but I feel a bit more chipper now that I have spent 68 Euros (without permission!) on a bucket of very expensive feed supplement for strengthening dhorse's hooves and charged it "accidentally" to dh's credit card grin hmm. I have heard very good things about its efficacy and had been meaning to try it for a while but the price had put me off! grin

I also feel a bit ashamed for saying I felt exhausted when I only have one teen and so many of you folk are struggling with broken nights and multiples and sn issues and babes and energetic toddlers and young 'uns etc so forgive me for that. blush

Thank you Ghoulette I like the "at the end of my leash" phrase! grin I'll use that! grin And that Headspace app! I am; seriously, going to try it because tbh I feel a bit overwhelmed with everything but in my heart I know it is the nationality dossier stress and uncertainty that is really getting to me. Can't really settle or focus on anything else until it is "put to bed", hopefully before December 12th! There is no point in worrying about it post submission because then it is down to the authorities ifyswim and it's out of my hands. But this is the point at which I am worrying about getting everything right.

DD's angst doesnt help but you are right; adolescence is quite the worst time (emotionally speaking) to be sitting exams even though apparently academically it is when they can assimilate the most amount of info. And I understand dd's stress completely, and sympathise, it is just the sharp words that get to me. I tell you that girl could be a great criminal barrister one day!

And I've given dh the united front speech until I am blue in the face. Difficult to explain but dh can rarely be tied down/won't conform to a set system somehow. (Put benevolently, he always knows best is an "independent thinker"). I give up on that one really ... .

So sorry to hear about the stress that your dh has encountered when organising his event. That must be the very last thing he needs right now when he is already feeling low. Some people can be so thoughtless; especially the "professionally offended" brigade! I hope he knows its them and definitely not him flowers

Bower very good to hear from someone who has been there and worn the t-shirt x 4, wrt teen exams! Your post is very reassuring! It's good to know everyone emerges more or less unscathed in the end! And YY it would have been nice if dh had invited me out for once! And I have tried to have the "on the same page" discussion about the puppy a thousand times. It doesn't do any good. He always knows better grrrrr! And annoyingly, the furries love him the most too because he is constantly feeding them treats! confused Tried the bags on the stairs thing ready to take up, but they just brush past me and run up empty handed saying "can't stop, in a rush!" which to be fair, they usually are! confused

Love the sound of your summer house, with the beautiful autumnal leafy view! What is a Scottish snowball? Hope you have not been adversely affected by the terrible floods! And hope life with yr newly retired dh is settling in to a good rhythm! Thank heavens there were no babies in your car when it was stolen shock Good luck at the docs.

Zoo yes we should definitely share a trench grin and a hip flask grin! <proffers matching tin hats> <and cake>

Oh poor Lil 'Zoo sad. DD had to have anti-spasmodics at one point and then gave them up because they were having too good an effect. Then she had to take lactulose. The loos at her school are Dickensian and pretty grim too. I tell you, there are so many teen girls with these issues atm. I am convinced it is a combination of stress and artificial sweeteners. I have banned the latter from the house (I imagine with your wonderful diet you don't have many either). Only "proper" sugar for us anyway! smile I hope Lil 'Zoo can continue with ballet because we find exercise really helps. Dd runs regularly since giving up dancing which seems to get everything going naturally ifyswim.

Onthebrink so sorry you are feeling stressed flowers. I totally, totally sympathise because my dh falls asleep in under 10 seconds flat at night. It really does make you feel as though you are at the bottom of the priority list sad. Could you try talking to him again? Or do you have anyone else you could talk to? And please don't be in awe. If you saw my house awe would be the last thing you would be feeling grin Seriously, it's a pit grin And you are doing exactly the right thing by just starting with a few small steps. Congrats on the shiny sink star

Hope the headache dissipates Laputa and you can enjoy London with your ma. Sorry Cagletini's 2 year assessment was upsetting for you flowers Please feel free re: dh grin

Good job with the decluttering KTCluck I also agree about the timer method! It is life-saving!

Wow Tidy that is a very full day! Good of you to act as hospital chauffeur with everything else you have going on! Hope your dd2 is fully recovered now!

Amazing ta da list Hungryhazeleyes! And well done to your dc too!

Expletive well done re: the running! And I hope your new job responsibilities are not too onerous and it's going well. Also that you have all recovered from the minor injuries in your household!

Toostressy I can take a guess at which thread you got hooked in to! I got hooked in to a similar one about some poor woman (no not me) who was living with messy adults who were driving her nuts, and many posters just came on to blame her shock

Time1O bloomin' well done for conquering CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome)! That's brilliant star

As is your essay writing while spinning multiple plates I've! star That's an amazing achievement, it really is! brew

A warm welcome to Queenofoversharing! Fascinated by your linguistics MA (we're living in a country with three official langs and where people - including dc - flip from one to another with ease). Well done re: seasonal clothes sorting!

Foxes I LOVE Junior Bake Off! smile Loved that little lad's chocolate climbing wall the other day smile

Chic that is a good idea about the mug acting as a clue for another Christmas present!

Ta da:
dentist
ordered horse feed supplement
ordered Christmas tree smile
ordered the presents for the office (phew) quite pleased about them
tidied for 40 mins x 2
washing loads x 4
emptied dw, shone sink, shone kitchen
hoovered sitting room ready for visitors passing through tomorrow

... and shamefully stress ate nearly a whole pkt of Lu Pim's chocolate and orange biscuits (a continental Jaffa cake) while sorting out some nationality dossier admin ... why oh why when I am trying to lose weight?????

Going to post this now before I scroll any further in case it disappears!

LivingInLaputa Tue 12-Nov-19 17:08:10

Managed a bit of drawing at last, thanks for the comments about the ones I uploaded btw thanks cagletini is sleeping so I escaped upstairs. DH is at his ESA assessment hmm

Can’t focus at all it’s annoying. Painkillers aren’t touching the headache now

Sistercharlie Tue 12-Nov-19 17:27:37

Meant to add (this thread is moving so fast!!)

Arf at chicken shoes Zoo grin

Hope your ds is now completely recovered Ghoulette and no puke bucket dashes required!

Great drawings Laputa bravo! [ Very Arcimboldo! wink ]

Hope your dd is feeling better KTCluck and all other tinies who are ailing bear

Well done for your dds parading yesterday Toostressy and Expletive

I am anticipating a visit from the military branch of the family tomorrow (cousins) who always pass through at this time of the year on their way back from Ypres. Meeting in a hotel for drinks this time so don't have to tidy up thank heavens! Having been in combat a number of times each, they attend the military parades but find some bits of the TV Remembrance coverage a bit too schmaltzy for their tastes. They always say there is absolutely nothing sentimental about war. And no service personnel worth their salt would ever in a million years term themselves "heros".

I must admit, living in a country that has been occupied, there is much more unease about the subject. Belgians hardly ever talk about it. Except my neighbour, before she was struck down with dementia, once took me down our street once and showed me which houses were occupied by "sympathisers" and which were not. That really brought it home.

Anyway dd is ignoring me back so I had better get cooking!
Have a good evening everyone!

Sistercharlie Tue 12-Nov-19 17:28:07

Waves to anyone I have missed and hope you feel better soon Laputa!

Bowerbird5 Tue 12-Nov-19 20:05:18

Lovely posts SC. Can hear Alan Titchmarsh calling me be back later.grin

Stilllivinginazoo Tue 12-Nov-19 20:42:48

Bit stressed tonight.i got distracted sorting recipes.little ones had tea 730!;I start rush round attempt make carrot falafel with sesame and as about blend mix I happen look at tahini and was out of date.fluff and botheration.emergrncy contingency as dd2 about eat non vegan stair carpet I threw broccoli,green beans,mushrooms,squash and a cauldron good falafel burger lurking in freezer in oven.ruce to accompany.annoyed at waste food,plus it would've been lunch tom too so I need think about what I can give her instead.bugger bugger bugger

SC I been telling "d"h for years I hate sweeteners.i was sure added to his IBS!sadly full sugar squash isn't easy to find that's not expensive round here and she won't drink plain water despite my best efforts.everything else I prefer real sugar too
Bower she loves dry apricots as our goto fix,but she does eat licorice.

thing is she hasn't had a day where hadn't been so I think docs just ticking all the boxes try ensure no "backlog"(apologies anyone eating at this point)

She's beg not have hot tea so had a dairy free cheese and red pesto roll.carrit and cucumber sticks and green grapes.normally would be chew the walls for more four,but she's fullsadD's on other hand added a slice cake,tub rice pud and an couple slices bread and butter to his portion..

I had quandary about wellbeing today as needed sort her meds and he needed be there.in end I bit bullet and left him there whilst went hot them/got lunch items with lil zoo.he had phone contact her(mine was charging) we were head back when he text how long now?(he manage 45mins) we are now "paying" for this as his minds now going over the change to routine/being left.add in we cannot visit fruend with kittens tomorrow now as lil zoo be home he's not a happy bunny.fun evening ahead I feel!!

Best go cook rice for DD dinner
Hope everyone else having a less eventful time tonight!!

KTCluck Tue 12-Nov-19 21:28:23

Just catching up on the thread.

flowers to those of you having a stressful time or feeling under the weather.

I thought toddlers were hard but it sounds like teenagers are a whole different ball game. I’m a bit scared. DD already has an attitude at 2.

Work day today, and in late due to bad traffic. Thankfully DD went straight to sleep (I got away with just two stories) while DH cooked a gorgeous fish curry. Dishwasher has been set off and I’ve straightened downstairs but now I’m having an early night and will fly properly tomorrow.

Hope you all have a peaceful night and a stress free day tomorrow.

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 21:30:33

Baby-step 13th November:here
Launch pad link:here

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 21:34:46

grin Mount washmore being tackled and put away. Kitchen just being tidied.Well done everyone on keeping going.

Getting away with just two stories is a skill KTCluck! I like the sound of the fish curry. We just had pasta tonight. Which reminds me that I need to take food out of the freezer for tomorrow.

Back in work tomorrow and soccer training tomorrow night. Sleep well Fledglings!

Ghoulette1740 Tue 12-Nov-19 21:37:42

zoo my tahini is ALWAYS out of date. Drives me distracted.

Exp1etiveDeLighted Tue 12-Nov-19 23:13:39

Evening all,

Well, I really am not getting much Flying done at the moment. However I am on top of Mt Washmore. I am going to be out every night till Sunday now so I am planning to try and fit in as many hotspots and other quick jobs as possible in between times.

Today was work, then straight off to DD's parents evening which took 2 hours (pity the teachers). She will be choosing GCSE options soon so a lot to think about, DS has his mocks soon so I am quite pre-occupied with school stuff ATM.

Sistercharlie Tue 12-Nov-19 23:23:08

You should be scared KTCluck grin grin

Zoo we are not big squash drinkers but dd likes Teisseire Le Sirop - it is available via Amazon I think - and most of them contain natural sugars I think. Bravo to ds for managing 45 mins!

I must admit Bower I am not particularly fond of the Titmouse but cor blimey his garden is lush (literally) as the yoof would say grin

Ta for links Ghoulette and waves to everyone else.

Promise my posts will be shorter tomorrow blush

Stilllivinginazoo Wed 13-Nov-19 06:10:30

ghoulettewhat marked me most was had I spotted it BEFORE I added it I could've sub with cashew butter<sighs>
Must go make something for her pack up as there's no leftovers of dinner.....

Exp1etiveDeLighted Wed 13-Nov-19 06:55:38

Morning all,

Woke up early so got up to feed cats and made a cuppa to take back to bed. Although I must get up properly in a minute.

I tried the Headspace app earlier in the year (you can do a trial of about ten sessions for free then it had a big discount in Jan/Feb). I was getting up about now, making a cuppa and going to sit in my potting shed with my phone for a bit of peace and quiet). I did find it helpful and am much less anxious ATM, I really ought to keep it up, the running has taken its place.

Need a to do list.

Litter trays
Washing on
Make packed lunch
Think about dinner - now I am working later Weds is tricky as I don't get home till 5.30 and DD has swimming at 6 so needs to feed herself after school, then I need to get DS fed before he goes out at 7 and tonight I have a meeting at 7 also.

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 07:59:41

Morning everyone brew

Ghoul fantastic that you got on top of mount washmore! starstar

Expletive seems like your days are super busy and evenings with the kids stuff. I really found a 5 minute timer helped yesterday just to keep things ticking over, i hope you don't mind me asking - is your dd in year 8 or 9 ?

I've got dd2 off nursery today, she coughed so much on the school run that she was sick 3 times outside school confused it wasn't proper sick thank goodness , but protocol is to keep them off . I'm at work this morning so it's Grandma to the childcare rescue !!

Tada
Erm.....coffee and breakfast?? I have no motivation this morning, broken sleep is starting to take its toll, I better stop procrastinating and jump in the shower.

KTCluck Wed 13-Nov-19 08:29:21

Morning all. I think I might struggle with my planned home blessing today, DD has kindly passed on her bug. She’s now right as rain, raring to go, while I’ve been up poorly all night and now struggling to do very much at all. I feel like a terrible mother as I palmed her off with my phone to keep her in bed for another half hour, and now I’m trying to convince her she wants to watch TV and not go to the park. Wednesday is usually our lovely day off together sad. I’m relieved as I have annual leave Thursday and friday - hate phoning in sick but I work for the NHS and they are strict about 48 hours symptom free. DH has gone to work as he hasn’t been sick, but was feeling unwell. He thinks it’s psychological but I’m expecting him back. Hoping he’ll still get paid if he at least makes it in for some of the day.

I think today will be one of those “everyone fed no one dead” days you all speak of! Although I’ll be happy if I can get a load of washing in and the house isn’t a disaster zone by the end of the day (optimistic- DD has already destroyed the living room).

Tidy hope your DD makes a rapid recovery. It’s so difficult finding alternative childcare isn’t it.

Stilllivinginazoo Wed 13-Nov-19 08:29:35

tidy I remember the cough til puke days..lil zoo used to retch If phlegm was in the back of her throat.she only threw up mucous so after 4th time it happened and she was absolutely fine all day I took her into reception and told the teacher shes deffo not sick but phlegm makes her gag and puke it out.she smiled and said "lil zoo if you can't make it to the toilet there's bins here,here,here and here<pointing to their positions>grin

Tada
Littertray cleaned
Realised binmen didn't empty bin monday.gah.must ring and sort that today.fed up of this.ive lived here 13years and up until 18 months ago I NEVER had a problem with assisted pick up<steps and bigger bin I can't move with my back and it's still too heavy for zoolets to do it>
Towels into wash
Make dd2 lunch(found small can chickpeas so she had what I'd planned- carrot falafel with shredded romaine lettuce,cucumber and cherry tomatoes,rice cakes with cashew butter,few vegan chocolate buttons.snack pack of nuts and beans)
Woke her with water flick on face,pacified with hazelnut milk hot chocolate..
She's gone to school
About give lil zoo dose number 2 of laxatives...

Stilllivinginazoo Wed 13-Nov-19 08:32:40

KT repeat after me I AM NOT A TERRIBLE MOTHER FOR USING TECH TO HELP ME WHEN I FEEL ILL(or even need five minutes)mum guilt goes with the territory(I was once told if you don't have it you aren't parenting right!)use whatever tactics buy you quiet time and hope you perk up and bounce back like DD didflowers

Onthebrink67 Wed 13-Nov-19 08:47:58

Thanks for all the support yesterday and hugs to all those with sick children. I always found the period between half term and Christmas the worst for juggling work and children with colds coughs etc. Deciding whether they’d be ok once they got going or whether to accept a day at home was always A fine line with mine. DH is now feeling down and depressed because I said I was finding life tough. It feels like a way of stopping me expressing any needs but I may be unfair. Today’s small list is clearing the dining table and cleaning and sorting the bookcase in the landing. Not much but it’s a start

KTCluck Wed 13-Nov-19 08:49:27

Aww thanks Zoo I have repeated it several times and have banished guilt grin. I’ll make it up to her at the weekend.

Sistercharlie Wed 13-Nov-19 09:52:43

Oh no Onthebrink that's not a supportive response at all angry. Is there anyone other than DH you can talk to? flowers

So sorry to hear about everyone who is ailing flowers. Wishing you all a speedy recovery!

Great work re: Mt Washmore Ghoulette

Absolutely LOVE the idea of your meditative potting shed Expletive! smile

Hope adolescent tantrums have quelled a bit Zoo. DD apologised to me last night and offered to come with me dog-walking so we called a truce smile.

Times10 Wed 13-Nov-19 10:13:50

Morning, after conquering CHAOS on Monday, I rested on my laurels, and now the house is upside down... I never seem to learn!

So wash is on,
Dishwasher on,
Hand washing done

To do
Put clothes away
Clear table,
Hoover,
Change beds
Do the paperwork!
Make dinner as we’re really busy after school today.

Bowerbird5 Wed 13-Nov-19 11:16:23

Wow! I need another mug of tea to catch up.

SC He can come and do my garden any time he likes. We made a small bed just like he was doing last night. I was rather chuffed to listen as that is what we did only we also put matting down to stop the weeds in the rockery.
Right off to boil the kettle.

Stilllivinginazoo Wed 13-Nov-19 11:25:34

times i turn my back and place degenerates in minutes,I swear!!
<I want a mediative pitting shed>

Two loads washing done
Bit local walk with D's(just 20 minutes as lil zoo comfortable to be left for that with her phone) as it's crisp and sunny here much better than yesterday and grabbed bananas I could get yesterday
There are a million and one things I could be doing but strong urge climb under my duvet and sleep...

LivingInLaputa Wed 13-Nov-19 11:41:37

Onthebrink that is a really shit response from DH. Really mega shit. I’m angry for you!

Ta da
Showered
Got to London on time

I’m now in bravissimo waiting for a fitting at 12. Have chosen a load of stuff to try. Swimming costume, regular bra, sports bra. I hate clothes shopping at the best of times!

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 12:00:38

Kt I always laugh about using technology to pacify the kids while I get something done or have a minute, me and the oh have nicknamed them the 'lazy parenting devices' or 'robotic babysitters' because they are a godsend when you just need a minute or have to get something done asap. Don't feel guilty, we all use them !

How are the meds going for lil zoo? Has the tummy eased any?

Kt don't feel guilty over using technology , we all do it (dd2 is currently watching iPad so I can eat lunch and have a cup of tea in peace)

Tada
Showered and ready
Dd1 & ds at school
Work
Stayed with mil for a coffee
Tidied bathroom

Having lunch then I'll be tackling the downstairs which seems to be a complete mess after such a busy day yesterday. Why no one else sees the mess is beyond me , I really do need to get other people involved in clearing away their own crap.

KTCluck Wed 13-Nov-19 12:04:08

Laputa bra shopping is the worst. Hope you get sorted.

For those of you using the headspace app, there are also a few free mindfulness courses on futurelearn. You only get limited access to compete the course, so it’s not helpful if that will stress you out, but it doesn’t matter if you don’t finish it, and most videos on the one I did were just a few minutes long. I listened to them in bed to help me sleep, and I definitely felt a bit calmer.

DM is taking DD for lunch so I can go back to bed for a bit grin. I survived getting us dressed, making the beds and a little bit of tidying. Feeling better, just got jelly legs.

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 12:08:35

Good luck with the forking laputa!!

Onthebrink have you got anyone else to talk to as well as dh? Maybe he won't be the best support because he's too close to you if that makes sense? I know my mood sometimes effects my oh in a negative way, because he just wants me to be happy. You should never feel that you can't talk to him though.

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 12:12:51

Times my home is the same - as soon as I stop, the mess accumulates!

Waving to bower, foxes, chic and anyone I've missed!

Right I'm having an hour of phone free time to get caught up on the chores - hopefully I'll be able to post a huge tada list about 130!

Stilllivinginazoo Wed 13-Nov-19 12:43:25

Tidywe jokingly used to call our TV nanny panasonicgrin
<I had 3 zoolets under 5 at the time and it protected the few shreds of sanity I possess>

foxessocks Wed 13-Nov-19 13:32:54

Hi everyone, sorry, I've missed quite a few posts so just jumping back in!
SC hope you're feeling less frazzled today, I'm annoyed on your behalf about all the mess your family is leaving for you to sort out! It's not on!

Ds is asleep shock daytime naps haven't happened here for about a year so I have some rare free time. I've done lots of tidying and sorting (although once again I've ignored all the jobs I hate like mopping and dusting hmm) . Now I'm hungry but I know if I make lunch now ds will wake up and then I'll have to make his too...ditto if I start doing some work he'll probably wake up just as I open my first email. So I'm in limbo!

Onthebrink67 Wed 13-Nov-19 13:39:45

ThanksLaputa SC and Tidy he has MH issues but it feels increasingly like he expects to duck out of anything he doesn’t want to hear or do by saying he finds it stressful. I’ll lookout the headspace app and long for a meditative potting shed of my own. Nothing wrong with using TV to get some peace when things are tough mine loved nature documentaries so I could pretend it was educational 😃

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 13:49:42

Enjoy the peace foxes !

Zoo congratulations for surviving 3 under 5 , mine have 4.5 year and 5 year gaps , although I wish I had them closer together , I can't imagine having them as close as you! Dd2 is 3.5 now and I'm trying to squash the broody feeling grin

Tada
In that full HOUR , I have only managed to TIDY the living area, dining room, kitchen and started to swap the toys over to the Ikea boxes we bought at the weekend blush although I do have dd2 'helping' so it did slow me down a little.

Coffee break then 30 mins actually cleaning, aiming to hoover through downstairs, clean toilets and the sliding doors which are full of lovely fingerprints. If I get all that done I'll spend the rest of the time in the playroom again.

Exp1etiveDeLighted Wed 13-Nov-19 14:55:48

Tidy - she's year 9, DS also chose his in year 9 (now in y11, different school, both have SENs, DD v.mild though). There is a school locally that choose them in year 8 but it seems a bit soon to me. Yes, we are busy in the evenings, we all do a lot of sports and activities outside the home, until last week I finished work at 2.30 so I had time to do a bit of shopping , start dinner etc before the evening rush starts, I finish at 5 now (on a break ATM) and it is going to take a while to readjust.

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 14:58:05

Ta da
Hoovered through all of downstairs
Cleaned toilets
A little more sorting in the playroom

Off on the school run then hopefully a bit more flying , I will have an organised home one day !

Tidyhomewannabe Wed 13-Nov-19 16:16:49

Expletive my dd1 is year 8 and she chooses this year, I agree it does seem too soon! I can see how finishing later impacts your usual routine, will it be permanent or just for this week ?

I seem to be taking over the thread today ...... must......put.....phone.....down..........

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Wed 13-Nov-19 17:06:53

Age gap wise i have had .... 2 under 2, then 3 under 6, then 4 under 9, now 5 under 12!

Ta da

School run and shit X2
Wash on X4
Dryer on X4
Dry washing sorted
Recycling out
Old printer out
Tidied dds craft heap
Tidied computer station
Cleaned kitchen window sill
Pots washed
Bottles washed and sterilised
Sink scrubbed
Two worktops decluttered and clean
Shopping picked up
Shop and scan vouchers ordered
Nursery forms picked up for dc4
One mucky wall wiped
Bag of baby bits dug out
Winter/christmas hats dug out
Calendars checked and updated
Amazon subscribe and save order amended
Tesco shop booked
Cot dusted and made up
Listened to dd read

Ghoulette1740 Wed 13-Nov-19 19:11:22

Baby-step 14th November:here
Launch pad link:here

Ghoulette1740 Wed 13-Nov-19 19:19:01

Onthebrink67 flowers I think we all need a summer house like Bower's.

I have one 10 year old so my hat goes off to the lot of you juggling more.

It is icy here today. I'm thinking of Christmas but then stop short and realise that I've bought nothing at all!

I have to get Christmas presents for the German family (pen friend of old) santa

My stress levels have fallen and I think caffeine reduction and meditation has helped. Thanks for the heads up about alternative MH websites.

<lights wood fire in the naughty corner, adds hot chocolate and warm blankets>

Keep warm fledglings and well done on all the ta das

Stilllivinginazoo Wed 13-Nov-19 19:38:26

Tonights dinner
Jacket potatoes with cheese cauli and carrots for little ones.and green grapes

Vegan offering-
Jacket potato
Cajun cheesy cavelo Nero crisps,roasted courgette and asparagus.mushroom "mince"
Coconut yogurt for pud

Sorted few more recipes today.feel like I need both up my chore game and my self care.felt on edge/anxious all day.
Maybe it's darker colder weather.could be hormones(or lack of them) could be no particular reason whatsoever
<Snuggles up in naughty corner>

Ghoulette1740 Wed 13-Nov-19 20:00:37

I live in a house without a fireplace so I play an open fire dvd on the telly on the wall. How sad is that.

It was so cold today the pork hadn't defrosted in the fridge. It was still rock solid so I've left it for dinner tomorrow.

ChicCroissant Wed 13-Nov-19 23:17:48

<puts extra blankets over fledglings in naughty corner>

Sorry to be AWOL today, did get a bit more of our decluttering out of the house but spent most of the morning having coffee and chatting with friends. Have ironed and about to wash up now. DD has everything ready that she needs for tomorrow and I've done a bit more admin today.

Really need to write everything down these days otherwise it slips my mind, the brain fog at the moment is terrible! Not helped by a lot of activities going paper-free so if I don't action the emails the second I receive them it gets missed - I've got a list to work off but it's getting to the stage where I need to carry it round all the time.

Spent so much time decluttering that we went into school-sock crisis this morning, so have done some of the basics today. We will be ready for tomorrow <determined>

CaptainCautious Wed 13-Nov-19 23:20:22

Can I join? I have 4 under 7 so really need to try and get my home organised

ChicCroissant Wed 13-Nov-19 23:35:00

Welcome CaptainCautious, good to have you with us!

Exp1etiveDeLighted Wed 13-Nov-19 23:42:54

Welcome Captain, there are quite a few new Fledglings this month, you have come to the right place.

Tidy - did you see the thread earlier today about 2 year vs 3 year GCSE courses, quite interesting. The change in my hours is for a year initially, I'm picking up work from another part-timer who has gone on mat. leave. It was my idea, its interesting work, totally different to what I normally do. However I am definitely going to have to up my game with menu planning if I don't want the DCs living on Pot Noodles.

So, today, not much Flying again. Did one load of washing, tidied a load of junk mail into the recycling, went to work, came home, straight back out to drop DD at swimming, straight home to meet DS and ascertain his plans for the evening, back out to a meeting followed by dance class (in the same building fortunately). Home to watch the Apprentice with DS. Chat with DH. A few emails. Managed to eat some toast in between all this.

Tomorrow I will get more done.

Bowerbird5 Wed 13-Nov-19 23:50:18

Yes. Welcome Captain Cautious. Mine are grown up and I still need to get it under control blush

Still haven't read everything will go to bed in a minute and do that.

Got up late as my back was sore and I had too late a night again.

TaDas
Fed cat. Wiped ear and put drops in.
Bed made.
S&S
Ted dropped in to iron a basket full of clothes, while watching Four in a Bed. He has done it all so I am sending him to SC via Zoo's house.

Mended a pair of jeans from ironing basket and another item checked over a jacket I bought and stitching has come undone on the arm so I will venture into the craft room of doom in the Crystal Maze and find the right colour thread in 27 minutes. Otherwise I will be locked in there and forced to tidy it.

Washed dishes from breakfast and put away. Put away anything out of place in the kitchen. Wipes worktops .
Made poached eggs on toast for lunch.
Tidies downstairs hall.
Cleaned out hen.Fed her treats. strawberries and crusty bread. She was in bed at 4.15pm shock meant I got to stroke her as she was dopey and sleepy.
Fed cat.
Went to friends for tea then went to Flower club demo by quite a famous demonstrator. He gets invited to Chelsea. He does lots of wedding flowers. I have seen his creations before absolutely gorgeous. Stunning. He did Christmas ones. They were raffled off the lady next to me won the first one. My friend and I didn't get one.sad

Right I am off to bed. Tomorrow I am planning to sort one box of books and sort out the crap in front of DH 's wardrobe. Some of it came out of the kitchen last year blush two are medicine boxes the trouble is I prefer the fridge without these boxes and don't know where else to put them so just dumped them there till i find somewhere.

Look out for Ned tomorrow zoo.

Stilllivinginazoo Thu 14-Nov-19 03:51:30

*captain" welcome
Chic dd2 informed me at 9 pm she's has last clean pair pants on after her shower.ooops.as she has around 20 pairs fair to say they've not been put in laundry basket and I refuse to go a hunting.i suspect a huge pile socks presented with them tomorrow so I shall just say after breakfast if wants them washing put in machine!!(need check D's supplies as he never tells me til there are none left)
I too struggle with brain fog.and not writing down email dates

Insomnia bad tonight,barely slept but very tired.rains lashing windows and winds howling.at least I'm cocooned in my duvet!!

CaptainCautious Thu 14-Nov-19 03:58:24

Thank you for the welcomes everyone. I meant 4 7 and under, not that that makes any difference, they’re messy either way!.

I have terrible insomnia lately. I don’t sleep until 5.30-6 most nights, and by that time it’s only half hour or so until the DC wake me up. I have a GP appointment next Wednesday to sort it. I hope they can help me because I’m knackered!.

HungryHazelEyes Thu 14-Nov-19 06:34:25

Welcome captain!

Had a busy night tonight, had dinner, leftovers so easy to do (cheesy meatball casserole with butternut squash zoodles). Had to go to the store to find dh some new shoes as his were hurting his feet. Dd needed an outfit for choir so got that too.

Got home, put together casserole for dh work potluck Friday, will have to get baked tomorrow (needs time to cool before going in the fridge). That is a chicken jalapeno popper casserole that the guys all love!

I wasn't feeling the greatest at all this evening-nauseous, so I really didn't want to be doing anything, oh well. We did get the kitchen all cleaned up though and I got my clothes ready for tomorrow.

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Thu 14-Nov-19 07:55:52

Omg i feel rough
My head is banging and my nose streaming
Blowing my nose is like being stabbed in the head sad

LivingInLaputa Thu 14-Nov-19 08:38:15

Welcome captain smile

Oh no ive sad

Got a not too terrible amount of sleep last night. Playgroup today, and gym for DD, DH has a meeting too and then we have our support worker too. Going to sneak in a quick visit to the steam room while DD has gym, I’m looking forward to mainly chatting with other mums but I finally have a swimming costume so I can get back in there for a bit, I’ve really missed it. Hopefully I’ll feel well enough to actually swim next week.

Yesterday was great, the play (man in the white suit, with Stephen Mangan) was really funny. And bra shopping was a success. Knackered now.

Onthebrink67 Thu 14-Nov-19 08:42:45

Welcome Captain and sympathy to Ive. Lots of paracetamol, ibuprofen and tv for the kids and hopefully you may feel a bit more human. Just had a text that a cherry tree I ordered for a fortnight’s time is coming today so will have to find a temporary home for it in the dark when I get in after work. Otherwise it’s ironing tonight if Ned were free could I borrow him please

IVEgotthesparklersBIATCH Thu 14-Nov-19 09:09:37

Ty for the sympathy!

Laputa are you still doing shop and scan? I got kicked off blush

Ta da

School run and shit

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