Do the words "my child goes to prep school" anger you?

[mrcerec]

I started another thread and mentoned that my son went to prep school. I was shocked as I thought MN was all-inclusive, or should I start an alternative site called "MaterNet"

Mrcerec

[MmeProf]

My DSs used to go to prep school. I loved that place and so did they. We will always cherish it in our memories.

I am very sorry if those feelings anger other people.

[fruitstick]

I think it depends on the context, was in relevant? If not then it's annoying.

[fruitstick]

sorry, 'it relevant'

[perdu]

oh get over worrying about it!

[Podrick]

Nothing wrong with saying this - but did you say it to show off or belittle the choices/non-choices of others?

[Pielight]

Yes. It feels me with an irrational, wild, lashing fury, a kind of heat-filled anger of resentment laced with an apocalyptic desire to set fire to everyone and everybody I've ever known or met.

[perdu]

I saw the other thread and didn't think it was massively relevant....why focus more on it?

[LIZS]

nope cos mine do ! However if it is used in a oneupmanship context then it is offensive.

[hocuspontas]

It would have been ok if you hadn't mentioned 'matron' in the next sentence. That was the killer

[LaurieFairyCake]

No, but if people constantly mention it when irrelevant it's a little like saying "My diamond shoes are too tight"

[mustrunmore]

I think if you use it luike some people would say 'oh I left it in the BMW' rather than 'oh I left it in the car', then, yes, it would get on my nerves because its just showing off. Or trying to.

I know what you intended on the other thread, but I'm not at all sure it was relevant tbh.

[Merrylegs]

So are you trying to tell us your child goes to PREP school?

Hey, you know what they say.

Pay and display.

[mrcerec]

I thought it was relevant as I wanted to know if the response would have been better in the state sector.

Nobody would find "my son goes to state school" offensive - on second thoughts I would if was used in the inverted snobbery sort of way

[mustrunmore]

But I think it came across a little 'this kind of thing shouldnt happen in prep school' iyswim. And it wouldnt really make sense the other way round; I think people woiuld be far les s likely to back up their concerns in state school with 'this wouldnt happen in a prep'.

I wouldnt worry about it tbh

[mrcerec]

Ahhh! iswym now!! That wasn't my intent, I just felt that there possibly would have been more H&S awareness/rules in the state sector and wanted to find out if this would happen in all schools or was mine being a bit blase (sorry no acute accent)

[random]

Doesn't annoy me...doesn't impress me either

[mustrunmore]

Plus you know your son will prob have this as a great war wound to impress his mates . If he publicises his tale the right way of course; its pretty cool getting a sports injury!

[mustrunmore]

Are you really posh then mrcerec?

[Podrick]

Think it would be more honest if after saying "my child goes to prep school" you also mention the fees per term, perhaps in brackets? then we would know whether it was a cheapo crappola pre school or not, which might be important

[mrcerec]

That's a great idea - why don't we start a "who pays the most in school fees" thread

[Sonnet]

Trip trap

It would depend on the tone of voice it was delivered in - but yes, it could anger me.

Not sure why it would fill pielight with "a heat filled anger of resentment" though ??

[Hulababy]

No, it doesn't.

However in the thread you are talking about the whole prep/state comment was rather odd and totally irrelevent to the incident that took place.

And I don't think anyone was actually bothered byt he fact it said prep school in the OP anyway, other than to nswer your own question (Q3 on OP) and generally to say that it was a daft question, irrelevant and made not a jot of difference!

[MarmadukeScarlet]

Prob should post on other thread, but too lazy to swap...

ime sports/minor injuries and minor illnesses are ignored at a prep school.

8 yr old DD was ignored with a dislocated (but gone back to place, only showed damage on xray) finger as she didn't make enough fuss - that was caused by the games mistress throwing a ball at her to improve her catching skills .

When I collected her it was swollen and blue - no one had even checked on it since immediately after the incident when she was told it was fine. She is left handed and was unable to write properly all that day and for weeks afterwards.

Stiff upper lip old boy.

No Matron at that school, just first aiders.

But yes, it seems ok to shop at Boden/Waitrose but not to admit to privately educating ones offspring.

[pingapengin]

Around here some prep schools are worse than state schools, im always shocked that parents actually pay to send their little darlings there.

I think Podrick has a good plan... we can then assess if prep school is worth boosting about