Dh left 3 days ago. I'm heartbroken. Other than one lovely friend who I talked to today no one else knows and trying to put a 'face' on to 3dc, at work and to my family. Inside though I feel lost and alone and when I am on my own I just cry. DH has mental health issues which he refuses to deal with but the reason for him leaving is because he wants a 'life'. He is an alcoholic and has (or had) been sober for 8 years. Due to mental health issues he is hugely insecure and until recently didn't have any friends. Now he's got this new bunch of work mates who are all younger than him and loud and single and he's decided he wants to start drinking again and have a new life. His new life doesn't include me though unless I'm prepared to be the little wife who does his washing, cooking, look after his children and accept that he's gonna start drinking again and do what he wants. I can't do this. He needs advice from a GP or counsellor but he won't do it and said he's gonna do it anyway so what they say is irrelevant. He told me he's only stayed with me so long because of our kids (we've been together 12 years). He thinks his 'new life' will sort him out! I feel like everything I believed has been a lie because despite the awful stuff he's done over the years (which I should have realised were signs he wasn't in love with me anymore) I still love him. I'm heartbroken and just want this to go away
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Please tell me the pain gets easier- dh left
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LuckyAugust · 15/01/2019 19:32
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