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The painful 2 week wait

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LooLoo777 Mon 29-Feb-16 17:04:56

Does anyone here find themselves going mad? Researching every single sympton they feel in the 2ww to validate your theory that you might have conceived? Or is it just me?!? Help?!?

I think I am doing it now by posting here - but feel like I need support!

Last year I had a MMC with twins; around 12 weeks. I had to have a D&C and I was devastated for a long time. At Christmas I found out I was pregnant again - but had a mc much sooner (around 6 weeks)

We're now activitively TTC. This month, following ovulation, I have had aches and twinges. A sore throat. A snotty nose. Mucus drip into my throat. More discharge than normal. I am SO tired... My period is due on Saturday. I have started the mad preg testing already - holding up the test to the light hoping to see something.

Can I ask... is they anyone out there who has managed to move on from the agony of the tww? You hear so many stories of ppl giving up and then finding out they are pregnant.. All this worry and research can't be good .. Can it?!? Any tips on how to "forget" or relax about the TWW would be so helpful!! Help!!!

mrsstickll Mon 29-Feb-16 20:26:08

So sorry for you losses flowers

I'm afraid I don't have any tips on getting over it but can offer sympathy and I'm in the same situation due on Friday, I just keep looking at my period tracker countdown trying to will the time away lol. Been trying for well over a year and I still get hopeful every month

LooLoo777 Mon 29-Feb-16 22:03:21

Thank you and thanks for replying. Nobody warns you that baby making will be so hard!

A year ago I never thought I would be looking on forums and meticulously googling every symptom (the forums are great though...!) I have heard so many stories of people giving up and then it happening naturally.

Fingers crossed for a BFP for you - have you tested yet or are you waiting? What app do you use? Have you had symptoms in any months more than others?

Fingers crossed for you xx

mrsstickll Mon 29-Feb-16 22:15:39

This month I've not tested so far because I have tested ever other month and never seen a line and it's getting a bit depressing. I don't know how people can give up, even when I know logically it's not happening I still have a small hope it might happen it's torture lol. Are you using cheapie tests? It's so hard to resist them when they don't cost a lot.
I think I must have every symptom going, I think my immune system must be weak after ovulation because I always seem to get ill then I hope it's a symptom, are you ttc no1#?

Fingers crossed for you too xx

LooLoo777 Tue 01-Mar-16 09:27:59

Have you been to the Drs? Have they helped / done any tests? Our Dr said we could come in after a year - which it's been but given we had another mc I think they (weirdly) count that as conceiving so we might have to wait another year..!

This is our first. I am so freaked out about it all - scared and not getting pregnant but also scared about being pregnant. It's weird..! So hard not to put your life on hold. We promised ourselves we would continue living - but it's so hard!

How are you feeling today?

mrsstickll Tue 01-Mar-16 13:05:28

Just started with tests, had day 21 bloods done, and will have day 1 done if I come on Friday. Waiting another year seems a bit harsh, maybe try and go back after 6 months.
This would be my first too, I'm feeling happy I've resisted testing but a bit down I seem to have zero symptoms, at least I can't obsessively symptom spot, how about you, have you tested today?

LooLoo777 Tue 01-Mar-16 13:31:51

At least you're in 'the system' now. Is it a horrible process? Fingers crossed you dont have to have the 2nd lot of bloods. How's your partner holding up?

I did test this morning, stupid really, but as one was there I couldn't resist. BFN. To be honest any symptoms I did think I had seem to have gone - I am starting to keep a diary of all of my symptoms and thoughts. I think it will help next month (hopefully!) to stop me from being so sure I am pregnant! Some stuff I have read says it's still early to test.

Everyone just tells you "it will happen" and "don't put your life on hold - have a drink" but it's so hard in the 2ww! My partner is really supportive, he's wonderful actually, but i don't think he knows the half of what goes on in my head and the amount I think about it.

Thanks for being so supportive.

mrsstickll Tue 01-Mar-16 17:48:31

I don't think it was a horrible process, they were nice to me and didn't make me feel stupid but it's just having to accept you're at the point is difficult.
I'm always so optimistic at the start of the month then by the end I'm a nightmare googling symptoms.
Dh is doing well considering he just thought it would happen straight away and I do feel a bit conned that no one ever tells you it might not be that easy. Only a few more days to go for us

LooLoo777 Tue 01-Mar-16 18:24:14

So true!! You spend your whole life trying not to get pregnant .. Nobody ever tells you how hard it actually is!!

I have started having a bit of mild cramping this PM so I think something nasty might be on its way - I usually start to get cramps a couple of days before.

Good luck - let me know how you get on this week

LooLoo777 Tue 01-Mar-16 18:24:51

Also, is AF shorthand for time of the month? If so, poss silly question, but what does it stand for?

mrsstickll Tue 01-Mar-16 18:31:21

Yes it is; Aunt flo! Hope she stays away and your cramps are something else

Stickyjellybean Tue 01-Mar-16 21:41:14

I've just found this thread and it's so like what I am feeling. I had a mmc at 10 weeks in December and had an erpc. We'd gotten pregnant the first month of trying so it was all a shock of finding out and then a few weeks later being told there was no heartbeat. We're now trying again and I already can't stand the 2ww. It's pretty much all I think about. I think I need to chill out about it as it might take a lot longer this time. I'm due AF on Saturday and I am trying not to test before then but really want to know!

Why does every symptom I google belong to either early pregnancy or period coming?! It's very confusing. But fingers crossed AF misses all of us out this month.

mrsstickll Tue 01-Mar-16 21:58:48

Hi stickyjellybean, sorry for your loss.
We're all in the same boat then af due this week.

I do think it's funny no matter what ridiculous symptom I Google it's an early pregnancy one then I get my hopes up.

Fingers crossed for you

mrsstickll Fri 04-Mar-16 08:47:22

Due on today, bfn this morning so guess I'm just waiting for af to arrive. Fingers crossed you guys have better luck

Stickyjellybean Fri 04-Mar-16 10:11:59

Oh that's disappointing with the BFN but it's not over until AF shows her face! Fingers crossed that in a couple of days you'll get a BFP!

MummyBex1985 Fri 04-Mar-16 11:19:21

I find that some of the 2WW are worse than others. Tbh, after TTC for 9 months I just learned to ignore symptoms and wait for AF. Until this month - I had a textbook implantation bleed and was CONVINCED this was my month. AF due today so I did a PT, which was, of course, another BFN. It's really got me down today. sad

Got AF cramps as well so I guess the bitch is on her way. Had almost convinced myself the AF twinges were just symptoms of my uterus changing, but sadly it doesn't look like that's to be.

Going to stuff my face with chocolate and wine.

Just wanted to say I feel your pain. The 2ww is evil.

mrsstickll Fri 04-Mar-16 11:27:15

Mummybex, sorry you think af is on her way.

This has also been a particularly hard one for me, the last couple of months have been stressful with pet dog nearly dying at xmas then a family member in hosp so I didn't really expect too much but when you've done everything right and there's no excuses it's harder to accept.

LooLoo777 Fri 04-Mar-16 19:17:57

Hi Ladies - isn't it awful. StickyJellyBean - so sorry for your loss. It's so painful. Everyone else - what are we going to do about this awful 2ww?!? We have to stop googling! I wish I could forget about it all together.

An update: I have a horrible situation now. So I tested just now (stupid, in the evening, I know...!) A VERY faint postitive BUT I feel like my period is about to start (it's due tomorrow). I know everyone says periods and pregnancy feel similar but this genuinely feels like my period is due. How awful! I think testing early is a real mistake - knowing so early makes the whole thing worse and I think sadly there's so many early m/c's which we wouldn't even know about otherwise!! Everyone around me wants to ban them because it's so tempting to test early
This might sound gross but is there any way of finding out whether your AF is on its way?

I don't feel positive and I am not going to get my hopes up.

Love to everyone xxx

mrsstickll Fri 04-Mar-16 19:48:49

Tentative congratulations looloo. Not sure about af, think it's just a waiting game x

LooLoo777 Fri 04-Mar-16 20:31:29

Thank you - you're right.
I had a bottle of prosecco in the fridge to (at least) try to take something positive out of the agonising 2ww and BFN!! Sounds silly but you have to be so 'well behaved' on the possibility there might be something exciting happening.

sigh - so nice to have support on here. Thank you

mrsstickll Fri 04-Mar-16 22:10:26

Hopefully in the morning you can have a more positive test. Af hasn't arrived for me, feel a bit in limbo hmm

Hopefulbabydust Fri 04-Mar-16 22:18:18

Hi guys I'm very new here so you might have to bare with me lol, I'm currently 7dpo and having snot like cm with a slight yellow twinge too it so sorry if tmi and been having constant niggles right above my bikini line & im constantly bloated, I'm really hopefully this is baby no 2 as oh has already said he doesn't want any more babies so this is my only hope really, I know I'm already extremely lucky as I already have my lo but have been craving another since I gave birth! I've already got some internet cheapies but really don't want to see a bfn so trying to stop myself from testing, I never get any pains until af is here and I've only ever had that sort of cm when I was pregnant before so am really hopeful, anyone else had any similar symptoms? I'm a terrible symptom spotter so i hope it's not a mind over matter thing, thanks again ladies!!

LooLoo777 Fri 04-Mar-16 23:19:19

Sounds hopeful if they are not symptoms you usually have!!

Until recently I have been really terrible at noticing anything my body does and wasn't very tuned into it (I am quickly learning!!) So I can't help on the symptoms front unfortunately. It's horrible but I think only time will tell. So hard!

Hopefulbabydust Fri 04-Mar-16 23:24:10

I know Im not sure if I'm just noticing them this cycle as there's a chance I'm pregnant I just feel different this month, I feel positive but like you said fingers crossed, what's your situation are you ttc?x

Hopefulbabydust Fri 04-Mar-16 23:32:32

Just read one of your earlier posts, are you testing again in the morning?, if so fx for you and really hope you get a bfp x

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