Father's day is next month.How are you feeling especially if this is your first without your lovely Dad.

[whatisforteamum]

I will be working on Father's day.Making lots.of other people Dad's and families happy.At the moment it is weeks away however I know it will be everywhere on tv ads etc very soon.How are you feeling and what will you do in memory of your Dad.

[lisaorris99]

My dad died on 30th March. Not sure what I’ll do for Father’s Day yet - something private where I can just think about him.

Not sure how I’ll feel yet either - at the moment it still feels a bit unreal that we don’t have him anymore.

Hope you can do something nice and mark the day in a positive way x

[MyGuideJools]

Hi whatis I was pondering this last week. I always made a fuss of dad on FD
I'm not working as it happens. I will probably buy a nice rose or something to put next to his ashes, he loved his roses.
We will probably have a lunch at home as my DC will want to spoil DH
This year will be tinged with sadness tho.
I actually wish I was working I think.

[whatisforteamum]

Luckily we knew Dad's last father's days were just that.So weird to see the displays in the shops now.I think the day itself will be hard.I didn't go away last week as it was a powdeRed took us for many years that he loved.I couldn't face it surrounded by a lifetime of memories .

[ineedaholidaynow]

I am dreading it. Saw my first Father's Day cards in the shops the other and I had to walk away quickly.

Will have to go through the motions for DH and DS, but really not sure how I will cope. DH's DF isn't well either (although hopefully not life threatening) so will see him on the day, which will highlight the fact that my DF is no longer around

[oldmum22]

Dad died at the end of March and I am not sure how I will be on Fathers Day. We will make a fuss of DH but I honestly don't know how my Mum will be, she is very hard to gauge . I would love to go out with Mum and our family to a nice restaurant ,have a fun time and a toast to Dad but I don't think she would go for it. Dad encouraged family get togethers so it will seem weird him not being around.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

This is actually my second fathers day without my dad as he passed the day before fathers day last year. However I was in to much of a daze to think about it.
To be honest though significant dAys are no different to any other days, really.

[Sunshinegirl82]

My dad died 5 weeks ago. I don't know how I'll be yet. I'm trying to focus on making it nice for my DH. We would normally have my parents and DH's parents over for a big get together but I don't think I can manage that this year.

Sorry to everyone else going through this, it's incredibly hard.

[alibaba1980]

I’m really not looking forward to it. My Dad died a week after Father’s Day last year, the cards were still up and I remember taking them down to put up mum’s sympathy cards. I don’t know what to do yet as DH never wants to do much for it usually.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Just realised my dad's first anniversary will be on Father's day

[flapjackfairy]

My dad died 24th jan. I felt that horrible lurching of the stomach when i saw an advert for fathers day outside a pub and thought ooh i must sort his card and present. Then the realisation that i will never ever do that again.
Then it hits me all over again. It is horrible.
Sorry for everyone elses pain xxx

[MyGuideJools]

my first father's day without my wonderful dad will be on my birthday

[flapjackfairy]

Oh Myguide that is especially tough. Very sorry for your loss xxx

[researchandbiscuitfan]

My children will be having their second Father’s Day without their dad, aged just 9 and 6. He was the best husband and dad imaginable. I’ve spent nearly 18 months trying to figure out how to live without him, but it just doesn’t work any more. We’re lost. We adored him and he adored us.

[HasAnyoneGotAProblemWithThat]

research

A dear friend of mine takes her children to the cemetery on her dhs birthday & Father’s Day. They take flowers & send up a daddy balloon. Not environmentally friendly I know but could you do something like that. Her dh died when her little one was a baby & her dd was 9 I think.

It’s our second Father’s Day without dfil. I still miss him, dh just tries not to think about it.

[SorenLorensonsInvisibleFriend]

Thank you for this. I grew up without a dad (he left our family when I was little), so Fathers Day has never meant anything to me.

Having children means that I've learned to focus on my husband and making it special for him, but it still feels odd from a grown up perspective so my husband has always arranged Fathers Day cards for his utterly lovely dad.

However. His dad passed away last winter. This will be DH's first one ever without his own dad, so thank you for the very timely preparation and prompt for thoughtfulness. Any tips gratefully received.

[PinkBuffalo]

Oh god, I hadn't realised it's going to be Father's Day.
I lost mine late March & not coping at all (it was untimely & he wasn't elderly)
I have no partner or kids to carry on for. My mums severely disabled.
I've just bought my first house but simply cannot imagine the rest of my life without him. So completely devastated. At least I only cry at home now. Not looking forward to moving without him, but needs must.
for anyone that is struggling. No idea what I'll do in memory. I spend every second of every day completely yearning for him

[Paperdove87]

My Dad died last year. He didn't get his last card-posting mishap, and I'm still feeling guilty about that. I miss him so much and I think it's going to be hard. esp as will be celebrating still with DFIL. have invited my mum and sister along as I know they'll be sad too and we're doing something nice for the day. Is that odd?

[redexpat]

My dad was bloody difficult to buy presents for, so every fathers day, birthday and Christmas I feel relieved! That doesnt stop me missing him terribly though.

[PinkBuffalo]

redexpat my dad was difficult to buy for too!

[BreakWindandFire]

It's my first year as well. I was literally going to post his Father's Day card the morning I got the call he'd died.

I'm feeling it badly today for some reason. I lost my mother a few months prior to my dad. Nearly a year on nothing has been done with the estate as my brother (my fellow executor) is refusing to do anything. I need 12 months to pass before legally I can act against him and have him removed. It's going to be a complete shit show. I'm also facing unemployment in 2 weeks and I've had 5 interviews, 4 rejections and I suspect I'll get a 'no' on the 5th.

I miss him so much.

[Timeoftheseason]

You know what, I typed out a long response about my FIL but deleted it because there's no way I'd want it ending up in the daily fucking mail, in an article about those missing fathers on fathers day.

[bexcee]

I keep seeing cards in the shops and it hurts. I lost my dad on 5th May. It's his funeral next week. I know live goes on but it's so hard. I'm getting emails saying treat your dad to a meal out etc and I wish I could

[whatisforteamum]

Sorry you all feel this way.I have had lots of emails about Fathers day.I felt weepy yesterday and it not me again I will never see him again.I'm thinking of getting a white clematis to put on the oblisk she have me of his.love to all going through this.

[PinkBuffalo]

That sounds lovely OP
Sorry about my post further up. It's just so hard

[whatisforteamum]

Don't apologise pink.please.tell me.about your Dad.you have a lot on especially.with your dear Mum x