Both my parents died when they were quite young (mother was 50, dad was 60). I was a teenager when my mum died. Particularly as result of mother's death I had a lot of psycological problems/ depression/ anxiety etc. Now I am older I feel that death of parents at our age e.g. 40 plus is to be expected. The parents are often 70 plus, most nearer 80.
I find funerals difficult, I am not very good at out pourings of emotion - my own or other people's. I have a very pragmatic view of death and I am also not very good at empathising with people who have lost loved ones who are old.
Now Dh's dad has just recently died quite suddenly. His mother is very upset as are his siblings. The funeral is iminent. I really do not want to go as I am concerned that my forthright opinions will cause upset and I will be hopelessly bad at dealing with everyone else being upset. The funeral is a long way away, our DD is quite young and we both think she shouldn't go but a very good friend has offered to have her for the two days it will take to get to and go to the funeral.
I would rather stay at home with DD but am worried that not going will upset DH & the rest of the family.
What should I do? Am I being selfish or would it be better for me to keep out of it to avoid the risk of making an insensitive comment.
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joanne77 · 12/08/2011 17:05
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