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Anniversary day today...

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quackers · 17/09/2003 10:06

Don't know if anyone is there, but I just wanted to right down this. It's the due date today of my first baby I m/carried. Just wanted to mark it somewhere. Going to go home early today and have a nice afternoon in the garden thinking about it. I was 15 weeks and had thought all was going to be ok but it wasn't. Thinking of everyone on here who has miscarried. One more due date to deal with in Mrach and that should be the first hurdle over with.
LOL to all xxxxxxx

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LEWEI · 17/09/2003 10:18

Hi quackers, i wish i could give you a big hug, i know how you are feeling, it would have been ds's first birthday on monday 15th and my other little one would have been arriving in two weeks.
Just indulge yourself this afternoon and don't be afraid to cry.
It doesn't matter if the loss was early on or later in the pregnancy it is still the loss of your child and you have every right to grieve.
Take care of yourself i will be thinking about you. LOLxxx

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Bozza · 17/09/2003 10:18

Oh Quackers it must be hard for you. Sounds like a good idea to have some time to yourself in the garden. Hope you get through it OK. How are you feeling - and DH?

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LEWEI · 17/09/2003 10:18

Hi quackers, i wish i could give you a big hug, i know how you are feeling, it would have been ds's first birthday on monday 15th and my other little one would have been arriving in two weeks.
Just indulge yourself this afternoon and don't be afraid to cry.
It doesn't matter if the loss was early on or later in the pregnancy it is still the loss of your child and you have every right to grieve.
Take care of yourself i will be thinking about you. LOLxxx

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LEWEI · 17/09/2003 10:20

OOPS i must have pressed it twice!!

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Bozza · 17/09/2003 10:21

Oh Quackers it must be hard for you. Sounds like a good idea to have some time to yourself in the garden. Hope you get through it OK. How are you feeling - and DH?

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Bozza · 17/09/2003 10:22

Me too.

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Claireandrich · 17/09/2003 10:23

Huge hugs and sympathies to you. Take care of yourself today.

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quackers · 17/09/2003 10:28

Ooh, techy prob here!! Thankyou, Bozza and Lewei, didn;t think anyone would be there!
Lewei, I knew your anniversary(s) were around that time and I thought of you,I don't get to speak alot to you as you;re on the March thread and awful as it sounds I just can't go there any more. I'm really really happy for all on the thread but for me it;s a little too much of a reminder every time I look so I don't now. I'm ok thanks at the mo Bozza as I'm at work, DH hasn't mentioned it yet but just gave a little smile this am. We're going to have some wine and a nice meal tonight. Very grateful for your kind thoughts. xxxx All the best with this pg Lewei!!!

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quackers · 17/09/2003 10:28

Oh we crossed thanks C and Rxx

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waterbaby · 17/09/2003 11:20

Will be thinking of you quackers - make sure your afternoon is 'you time' and indulge in whichever emotions you are feeling at that time. Its all very real, and it sounds like DH probably understands that. Enjoy your meal. Thinking of you.

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Bogwoppit · 17/09/2003 12:47

thinking of you today quackers.
I have been through this as you know & although the day is hard it is another hurdle you have made it over.
chill out in the garden hopefully soaking up some sun (it's lovely here in yrkshire)
I sent a balloon up for my due date & for 1st yr since it happened, but you do whatever feels right for you.
{{{{hugs{}}}}}

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colette · 17/09/2003 13:08

Hope you find some peace sitting in the garden today - thinking of you .

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dot1 · 17/09/2003 13:23

lots of love, Quackers
xxx

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M2T · 17/09/2003 13:25

Quackers - Can't possible begin to understand so I'm just popping into give you a cyber hug.. {{{}}}

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ThomCat · 17/09/2003 16:05

Hi quackers - I posted on your thread earlier but don't know what happened to it - anyway just wanted to say - lots of love - xx

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Janstar · 17/09/2003 16:40

So sorry you have this sad anniversary to deal with. I think you are very wise to take some time out to think about it IMO this is a very good way to help yourself cope with the sadness. Some things in life are going to stay with you always, but you can learn to live with them. Lots of love.

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Jemma7 · 17/09/2003 17:20

Oh Quacks, i feel so bad - i didn't even know it was today - i'm so sorry

I knwo you would've gone home by now so just wanted to say i hope you are sitting in garden, relaxing and hopefully not feeling too awful.

Take Care
x

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SoupDragon · 17/09/2003 17:24

Hugs.

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AliBaba · 17/09/2003 17:35

Quackers, just wanted to add lots of love and sympathy from me too.

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GRMUM · 17/09/2003 17:48

quakers and lewei - thinking of you both.

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sibble · 17/09/2003 18:57

Quackers, cybers hugs, get through today in the best way you can. Am thinking of you. And you too Lewei.

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bluestar · 17/09/2003 21:38

Quackers, thinking of you.

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Ghosty · 17/09/2003 21:57

Thinking of you too Quackers .... be kind to yourself won't you ....
Love Ghosty xxxxxxxxx

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quackers · 18/09/2003 08:54

Thankyou so much everyone for your kind thoughts and words - very much appreciated!!! I had a lovely afternoon. I had my hair done and then came home and watched a video with a glass of vino. Had a bath and a little cry and then DH and I cooked a meal together and had some wine. It was really lovely. When we went to bed we both said goodnight to the baby. It was really nice. Very different to what I expected.
Lewei, thinking of you too this week and wish you and your dp/h well xxxxxxxxxx

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