background to tonights huge row - we've recently moved to germany (dh is german, i'm british) with our 3 dc. When we lived in the UK i worked 3 days but organised everything - school/nursery stuff, sport lessons, music lessons, holidays, appointments with dentists, doctors etc. just all the normal stuf but dh never had to do any of it - more cause i never asked him too because i was at home more so i could manage it (he worked really long hours).
fast forward to now - we've been here 5 months - i'm not working because my german isnt great - good enough to do the shopping, chat with neighbours, friends, sort out easy stuff at school and kindergarten but still not great. I'm not shy about trying to speak it but just worry about doing important things cause i dont understand that level of german. got lessons booked though - they start in 6 weeks!
so today ds1 (4.10) has a really strange lump on his gum - bigger than a pea but really squidgy. We were discussing me taking him to the dentist tom - i'd already asked dh to phone to make an urgent appointment but he didnt do it. So i said i'd phone in the morn but that maybe because it looked so serious then dh should take him. well he started having a go about how i'm the one thats at home all day and why did he have to be involved!!!!!!!!
- its also his son
- we're in a country where i dont speak the language so well
- it could be serious
i understand that our roles have changed hugely and he's not used to taking responsibility for sorting out kids stuff but is it unreasonable that he sorts it out until my language skills improve?
ps its not the first time he's said this - he's making me take all 3 dc alone for their assessments at the paediatrician (compulsory here!)