My DH is excellent with money and I trust him completely however I like having my own bank account because i like earning my own money and spending it on what i want to without someone else being able to look at my spending an comment.
a few years ago DH opened a 'joint' account, which he views as joint but i view as his. I do have access to it but never use it as it is his income. On rare occassions it gets used by me would be when DH tells me to pay a cheque for something for the house or DC from that account. In general DH pays for mortgage and bills and i pay for all food, clothing and sundries for family.
DH would like me to close down my personal bank account and put all my money in joint account. Part of me doesn't mind but a big part of me feels like i will be losing my last semblance of independance doing this. When we bought a car together DH put the insurance in his name so he could build up a no claims bonus but at the expense of me losing my 8 years no claim bonus. I have a better credit history than DH as i have been with my current bank for 15 years, and to close it would mean losing my account history.
AIBU? I probably am but i just don't want him commenting on how much money i spend on shoes or shopping or what have you. It feels a bit controlling to me.
Advice ladies and gentlemen please.
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AIBU?
To feel a little wary of joint bank account?
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Stigaloid · 07/08/2009 10:34
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