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to think that our neighbours decision to replace the fence right now is well really rather cunty

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Woooozle100 Thu 06-Aug-09 19:11:40

dh has spent last 8 yrs cultivating lovely evergreens and climbing ivy, jasmine and all sorts of other loveliness up the fence

its summer, we're selling our house and garden is a big selling point

they've decided to get the whole fence replaced tomorrow. DH said last week when asked about this that we weren't keen, it would knacker our garden and offered to go and replace the single (!)rotten fence panel. We are quite friendly with these neighbours

Whilst they have every right to change the fence that they are resonsible for, the timing is shoddy and it doesn't show much consideration for us.

AIBU to think they are turdy arseholes as a result?

ZZZenAgain Thu 06-Aug-09 19:13:54

if you are quite friendly with them, why are they going ahead with it?

NorthernLurker Thu 06-Aug-09 19:14:00

Of course YABU. You've been growing stuff all over their fence for years and now want to dictate to them what they can do with it? I'm not surprised they don't feel like accomodating your every whim!

Tidey Thu 06-Aug-09 19:14:05

Sounds rather unfair. Why are they replacing the entire fence if it's only one panel that's the problem? What did they say to your DH's offer?

FiveGoMadInDorset Thu 06-Aug-09 19:15:12

Their fence, they can do what they like when they like.

FranSanDisco Thu 06-Aug-09 19:15:50

YABU. You are moving and they will end up with new neighbours that perhaps they don't like. You certainly won't consult with them over who you will sell to will you? Do you care about that?? Suck it up, they have every right to replace it when they want not when it's convenient to your house sale.

SoupDragon Thu 06-Aug-09 19:16:35

What a charming neighbour you are. They'll be well shot of you when you move.

diedandgonetodevon Thu 06-Aug-09 19:16:54

If it's their fence they have every right to replace it whenever they choose.

ZZZenAgain Thu 06-Aug-09 19:17:05

I don't this, so the friendly neighbours came round and said, hi there Mr Pixiemason we'd like to pull down the entire fence and replace it, how do you feel about it? Mr PM replied he wasn't keen, it would knacker the garden and the estate agent thinks the garden is the selling point for the house so can they wait a bit.

Then they decided to just do it anyway, tomorrow.

Are we missing something here?

OrmIrian Thu 06-Aug-09 19:17:18

Seems a shame. Maybe their side of the fence looks really shabby? Can you detach the climbers and put them back on the fence after replacement on some clematis netting?

LuluMaman Thu 06-Aug-09 19:17:56

c*nty and turdy arseholes

my goodness, would hate to see you if something really terrible happened

YABU and rude to boot

did you ask before you cultivated the plants or just start doing it?

TheProfiteroleThief Thu 06-Aug-09 19:18:04

Did you ask to use thier fence as support?

Woooozle100 Thu 06-Aug-09 19:18:54

said 'oh ok' to dh's offer
then said nowt of it. Till dh bumped into gardener who's coming back tomorrow to MURDER our byoodiful plants

we've kindly been giving them the beauty of our garden over their drab fence I reckon But hey, they'll be rid of us soon. Maybe another fooking dullard will buy our house and they can be happier then

Pannacotta Thu 06-Aug-09 19:19:49

I also think its a bit mean and sounds unnecessary.
Cant you ask them again to sgree to replace the one panel, esp if you are happy to cover it?
It is better to replace fences in winter really when most climbers/plants are not in leaf.

Woooozle100 Thu 06-Aug-09 19:21:12

oh its our fence as well - divides garden of terraced house

ZZZenAgain Thu 06-Aug-09 19:21:28

get dh up at the crack of dawn tomorrow replacing the one rotten fence panel?

Maybe they were waiting for him to do and he never got round to it, so they gave up and went ahead with the full replacement scheme?

Pannacotta Thu 06-Aug-09 19:21:43

WHy dont you dig up the climbers now, pot them and take them with yuo when you move?

Hope you are more polite to your neighbours than you are on MN!

GrapefruitMoon Thu 06-Aug-09 19:22:08

Is the current fence low enough to see over? Maybe they want a bit more privacy but didn't want to replace it with a taller one before in case you were offended but have decided to do it now so it's in place before the new owners move in?

ZZZenAgain Thu 06-Aug-09 19:23:01

bribe them

If it's really going to mean a hatchet job to the garden and you can't fix it easily so the garden still looks nice.

Just go round and say, look we want to bribe you into not replacing the fence tomorrow. Please don't do it till we've sold the house and you tell me how much beer/wine and I'll have it for you first thing tomorrow.

FiveGoMadInDorset Thu 06-Aug-09 19:23:18

In terrace houses you own one fence outright so you need to check whether it is your fence or not. YOu own one fence entirely but have no share in the other.

FranSanDisco Thu 06-Aug-09 19:24:32

I pity your new neighbours. Perhaps buy detached this time.

ZZZenAgain Thu 06-Aug-09 19:24:49

is it really going to be so disastrous with the new fence? Maybe it's true they've wanted to do it for years but haven't wanted to offend you/ruin your gardening work, so they're doing it now they know you're leaving

edam Thu 06-Aug-09 19:25:45

pixie - doesn't matter that your house is terraced, the fence will still belong to one property. If this fence is theirs, then the other side is probably yours.

Thing is, all your plants may look lovely, but they will have been knackering the fence. Sore point round here as we are having to shell out ££££££ to replace a fence that was destroyed by our own plants (ivy and climbers planted by previous owners - looked gorgeous but turns out v. expensive with it).

famishedass Thu 06-Aug-09 19:25:57


when would you have liked them to replace the fence?

DandyLioness Thu 06-Aug-09 19:26:42

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