to not want a 15 year old girl I don't know at all to stay at my house for three weeks?

[emkana]

My aunt phoned me from Germany - she has a friend who has a daughter who would like to come to the UK to improve her English... so aunt thought of me... [sigh]

aibu to not want some teenager moping around my house for three weeks?

[moondog]

No
God no.

[emkana]

Aunt thinks it would be "nice" for me as girl could play with my children... can't see it myself

[MamaG]

don't do it

[moondog]

Just
Say
No

[edam]

Oh dear. I would be planning to move house and forget to give the aunt my forwarding address!

I'm imagining her as quite formidable. And formidable German ladies of a certain age are, um, intimidating. To me, at any rate, you are presumably MUCH better at fending them off

[Ponders]

Well she might be cheerful & charming & love children - not necessarily a moper - any way of finding out?

If she's wanting to come, not having it imposed on her, you could get a lot out of it.

[moondog]

Would they be planning to pay you?

[emkana]

My mum knows her (not very well though) and thinks she's more in the moper category

[emkana]

Yes they would pay me some money towards food

[moondog]

Just don't even consider it.
It's a big deal to have a stranger in your home for that time.
I couldn't even cope with one of my dear sisters for that long!

[Ponders]

Yes but she may be mopey at home because it's in the rules for teenagers.

You lot have a very negative opinion of teenagers - do you actually have anything to do with them currently? They can be delightful you know (esp when not with their parents!)

[emkana]

But I would feel like I would need to keep her entertained, drive her to places, make her stay worthwhile...

[moondog]

Stop even discussing it Emkana!
I hearby declare thread closed.She is not coming.

[emkana]

lol

[Spidermama]

I think you should bite the bullet and do it. You might like her and even if you don't it'll be a learning, growing experience.

Also if you turn this, um, opportunity down, you will retain a small amount of guilt about it forever. (I speak from experience.)

[Ponders]

Where did the 3 weeks thing come from? How about saying maybe she could come for 2 weeks, & that you won't be able to entertain her, but she can watch English TV () & help you with the children if she would enjoy that.

If she's not keen on that suggestion then you can say no?

[Spidermama]

AND you can get her to babysit for a couple of nights so you can go out. There are so many ways you can make it work for you.

[Ponders]

Also what if your children, when teenagers, want to spend some time in Germany, hmm...?

[Ponders]

& moondog, won't your children be world citizens who want to visit other countries without their parents?

[moondog]

Christ,I'd rather indulge in vigorous mutual masturbatino with Trevor macdonald than have some teenager I didn't know from Adam in my house for 3 weeks.

Three weeks !!

[emkana]

My children spend nearly every school holiday in Germany as it is...

[moondog]

My kids Ponders???
They will be.I have sisters in Korean and caribbean and parents in Saudi. Too youngnow thoguh.

Anyway, surely you will speak German to her Em, which defeats object?

[Molesworth]

I'm loving the word "masturbatino" moondog

Agree, the thought of unknown teenager hanging around the house for three weeks makes blood run cold. No way.

[moondog]

Sounds like something a teen would do with a waiter on holiday eh?
(Or was that just me??)

[Ponders]

Teenagers - especially someone else's - are generally really nice people (except possibly in gangs)

I'm genuinely shocked & saddened that you are being so negative about them.