I am a SAHM, i gave up work to spend more time 1 on 1 with dd2 as she has Autism and a language disorder (shes non verbal), i knew when i gave up work i would have to do more around the house but i wanted to dedicate more time to dd2.
Dh comes home from work (he works 3 days a week) each day and moans at the mess in the house , he comments on everything i have done, he says i havn't swept the floor to his standards, i havn't hung the washing correctly, i havn't washed up correctly etc..ect..
This morning before we got up we decided to do the house work between us, i got up first, dressed the kids, did breakfast, put the washing on and began to wash-up, dh comes down and tells me not to bother washing up he would prefer if i did 'other' jobs so i started to clean the sitting room. After 30 seconds of brushing the floor dh pokes he head in to tell me i am doing it wrong and not to bother doing anything else if i cant do it to his standards.
I sit down and play with the dd's and dh goes upstairs, after an hour i go upstairs for a bath and dh is doing the ironing and starts moaning about me not keeping up with the ironing (i couldn't do it yesterday as i was on a course in the morning and spent the afternoon with dd2).
Anyway after lunch we continued arguing and now he has drove of in the car, he just phoned me to see if i wanted him to come home. I said 'only if you stop getting at me about the house work' he said he couldn't because if he came home he would have to do more house work which will make him upset again. He hung up and hasn't phoned back.
AIBU in thinking most people dont do house work every day? Our house is not untidy, just lived in. Im scaired to do anything with the dd's that might make a mess as Dh will get upset. I feel like i can't do anything in my own house.
I think dh has OCD and possible Aspergers, and i know he likes things in there place etc.. but i can't live like this.
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AIBU?
in not wanting to do house work every day of the bloody week to keep dh happy?
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Marne · 14/02/2009 14:13
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