Five weeks ago I left an emotionally abusive marriage of ten years. X wants us to stay friends because it's better for everyone involved esp the children. I have agreed to leave divorce for 2 years so that it will be a no-blame divorce.
Last week I went to my 12yo DD parents evening. She has always struggled at school and noone has ever been able to pin down why. She has been tested for ADHD and dyslexia which were both negative. We were referred to Family Therapy and went for 18 months but it never helped (apart from making me realise that here lay the route of DDs problems at school so I suppose it did help). All the teachers were really excited because DD has made fantastic progress in the last two months (she knew we were leaving two months ago - a coincedence or not?). She has excelled her target grade in seven subjects, her confidence has grown, her efforts have doubled and she is handing in homework. I didn't mention my theory but just let her take the praise and the credit.
On Facebook, in the 'what are you doing now?' section, I typed -
"L is over the moon with DDs sudden fantastic progress at school and feels validated. Now she knows that leaving was the right thing to do."
This morning X stopped me on the way back from school and asked me to delete it. He put on a hurt expression and asked why I had to do something like that when we were supposed to be friendly. I know that this is one of his emotionally abusive tactics to try to control me and what I do, but was I wrong? AIBU?
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To say what I like on Facebook, even if it hurts X's feelings?
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dragonstitcher · 11/07/2008 11:12
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11/07/2008 12:23
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