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Too many takeaways/deliveries
It’s become clear to me over the past week that my neighbour has a big problem with the fact we get takeaways and deliveries. It was obvious to me when our delivery driver went to their house by mistake. Our doors are very close together so I heard her say ‘oh yeah it’s for them, they get them all the time’ in a nasty, sarcastic sounding tone. She’s clearly watching who and what comes to our house on a daily basis which is quite unnerving but I suppose there isn’t much else to do right now!
We have a 2 month old and a 4 year old. We’ve only just managed to get regular food delivery slots and we don’t have a car. DH commutes to work and works full time. We have takeaways once maybe twice a week when we’re exhausted or need a pick me up. I don’t get more than a couple hours sleep as newborn is very fussy. I cook us very fresh, healthy meals in general. Lots of proteins and veg. I’m a bodybuilder so am used to eating healthy and still do the odd workout when I get a bit of spare time.
We only get ‘healthier’ takeaways that serve fresh food like Nando’s and a local Greek place. We don’t get anything like Dominos or McDonald’s. We also use Ubereats and Deliveroo to get shopping from local shops such as baby milk and toilet roll. I tip at least £1 every time I order to give the delivery drivers extra cash during this pandemic. We have a double driveway so they’re not blocking anyone in or disrupting people. We don’t order them at antisocial hours either as we have small children.
We’ve just had a Nando’s as it fits my macros well for my diet. Our 4yo has a lot of veg with hers and no chips. Overheard the neighbour talking to her daughter when she was out front putting rubbish in her bin straight after (can see from my sofa) and she said what sounded like ‘they’re lazy and obviously can’t cook’. It’s really infuriating that she feels she has a right to comment on our eating habits. She’s also clearly doing it on purpose in earshot as she’s very loud as well. Wouldn’t surprise me if she went out to the bins on purpose to see what came to our house. I have no idea what they do or eat in their daily lives as I don’t have any time to be concerned, and I don’t care quite frankly!
Is a ‘healthy’ takeaway once or twice a week too much?
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I’ve had this from a family member, she’s really judgemental about me getting takeaways! It’s really weird but it was ok for her to have them 2 days in a row?! But judges others for getting them
Id just ignore it. If she’s got that much time on her hands to be observing and commenting on your Deliveries then I’d pity her. Clearly doesn’t have enough else going on in her own life
I think your overthinking it, leave them to it. You don't have to explain yourself
Your neighbour us obviously a sad busy body with no life.
Next time a delivery comes shout loudly "Yes it's for us, they obviously can't afford a treat"
I can tell that’s she’s miserable being stuck at home but it makes me feel so uncomfortable knowing that she probably watches everything we do! I know that we’re not being unreasonable and that having takeaway food is quite the norm these days. Especially when food shopping delivery slots were rare to get hold of. I think there might also be a factor of the fact that I’m in decent physical shape after 2 children yet seemingly ‘eat crap’ regularly. Behind closed doors it’s taken me years and a lot of hard work to have my physique but I suppose it seems different to her as an outsider
It is 100% none of their business. I notice that my neighbours get lots of deliveries because they often come to my house. I point them in the right direction and think nothing else of it.
I think there might also be a factor of the fact that I’m in decent physical shape after 2 children yet seemingly ‘eat crap’ regularly.
That is a bit of a leap in the mind-reading stakes, isn't it?
I can't imagine why you give a fuck 🤷♀️ assuming that she must be jealous of your appearance is lovely though 🙄
user1456324865563 I don’t think it’s that much of a leap. If you see someone that is physically fit eating takeaways often and rarely leaves the house you’re generally going to think ‘how are they not fat’. I did say could be, I don’t think it is the reason though. I just think she’s just got too much time on her hands now she’s at home all the time!
I also think you’re over thinking it, I don’t watch what my neighbours do but I hear deliveries.
Clearly I don’t make loud passive aggressive comments though and couldn’t give a shit.
Really just let it go and live your life.
That is a big leap tbh, is it going to turn out that they neighbour is really overweight so must be jealous
Wow..a lot of explanation and justification there. Do you really need to? Not anyone's business what you order, why and from where you order takeaway.
So what if you order mcdonalds and all the "unhealthy stuff" and what if your dc doesn't have veggies with their because they don't want to, as you seem to be inadvertently judging others who do things differently by your seemingly high moral ground justification of yours?
That's probably how she judges you because she doesn't do takeaways (healthy or unhealthy) and you do. 🤷🏽♀️
She just sounds bitter and jealous, especially if you’re in great shape and she isn’t!
You don’t need to justify it. You need to stop thinking about it and assuming that she is doing things just because of you. She probably isn’t
My neighbour has a takeaway every single night and if the driver comes to our door I know where to direct them. I do assume the people next door can’t cook though! Mostly because it’s an expensive way to run your household. It seems more trouble to order a takeaway than it does to rustle up a meal to me.
It’s unlikely that she’s thinking about your physical fitness in relation to your deliveries!
If the doors are that close together that you heard your neighbour's comment then she can hear all times your door is opened for the the deliveries so she is probably not watching who does and doesn't come to your house at all.
Do delivery people call to her door a lot instead of yours. Maybe that is what is annoying her.
Last couple weeks, my morning sickness and weakness and dizzy spells meant I cant cook. So my husband treated us to takeaways literally about 3 or 4 times a week. I know our neighbour , particularly the old one who has nothing to do, probably writes them down in a little notebook. She is the kind of person to do that.
It's out money we work hard for, we are feeding ourselves and our children,we have 4. Let them get lost !
You don't need to justify yourself to her, much less us.
I couldn't care less what your neighbour thinks op carry on as you were.
By doing what your doing your keeping people in they're jobs supporting the economy and also keeping your family safe by not trying to go round all the shops with them in tow.
There are some right old miserable curtain twitchers about these days who clearly need to give themselves a head wobble.
Don’t give her a single piece of your headspace. What she thinks is completely irrelevant to your life. Will give you the benefit of the doubt that your rather snobby comments about some takeaways/ food choices is to make yourself feel better about your choices (not that you need to), but hope that’s the case and it’s not that you are actually quite judgmental too.
If you see someone that is physically fit eating takeaways often and rarely leaves the house you’re generally going to think ‘how are they not fat’.
But you really don't need to give this even one more second of your thought.
Just ignore her
It's none of her business if you ordered pizza every night, even though you don't
@silvercrowntail YABU and need to get over yourself. It was probably a passing comment not meant for your ears. You sound neurotic.
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