OK, this is not exactly problem of the century and I may be a tad sensitive at the moment as I am 3 months pregnant and have a 2 year old to look after. But here goes, I work part time (2.5 days a week) plus 3/4 evenings at home to keep on top of work. I have a responsible job but its not what I would call stressful. My DD goes to nursery for 2 days and DH looks after her for the half day I am at work. DH is the breadwinner and works full time. We have been together for 10 years and ever since we have met he has had what I think of as a big social life. He goes out on average 2 nights a week without me which I think is alot. Before we married/had kids (3 years ago) he used to go out 4/5 nights a week so things have improved. This week (and this is a good example of every week) he tells me he is out tonight for his usual football game followed by the pub. Then he tells me has HAS to also go out tomorrow night to celebrate the news of the next baby (scan this week so only just told people). I finished work for the week today which now means he effecively won't be here again until Saturday morning - out tonight home at midnight - work tomorrow and going straight out and home late. I get this every week and its really peeing me off. I feel like the hired help just left here on my own virtually every Thursday and Friday night to baby sit. Yes I know that sounds a bit mad but that's how I feel. Its really got to me this week because he has used MY pregnancy as an excuse to go out again. So basiclly he will be out celebrating MY pregnancy with a bunch of other people. GRRRR.
I have tried and tried to talk about it but nothing changes. He just says things like "your a mother" WTF! To which I reply "you are a father" or I get "when you work full time and earn the money you will be able to go out". Clearly a ridiculous argument. The problem is most of his friends are single without kids so trying to tell him that they have different lives to him is pointless. He basically wants the best of both worlds. But I am getting sick of being left holding the baby.
To be honest there is an element of envy on my part. Even if I had the funds and the childcare I couldnt have the same social life as I just don't have the volume of friends.
I will stop now. There is steam coming off the keyboard.
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micegg · 27/09/2007 20:34
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