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AIBU?

Kicked my the rat bag DH out during corona

57 replies

Brainengaged1 · 10/04/2020 07:32

He cheated on me before the pandemic broke out by visiting a site for people looking for Marital affairs . We tried to work things out , but then corona broke out , and we couldn’t access mediation- so we’re stuck in same house taking about divorce / separation. He says he wanted me back then our house got vandalised, by whom we don’t know . I have just found out that he had just joined another dating site messaging during corona lock down so he can make his moves post corona . This was just three days ago.

I kicked him out yesterday on the ‘discovery day ‘ and the day he told our ds that were were going to go our Separate ways

He is in a vacant property that we have together so no risk to anyone except the unfortunate women who may inherit him

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madcatladyforever · 10/04/2020 07:34

Good for you. I hope you are OK and can now find some peace. What a bustard though!

ECBC · 10/04/2020 07:41

Oh god. Sounds like you are well rid of him.

Batmanandbobbin · 10/04/2020 07:45

Well done you!! Sounds like a waste of energy. Wish you and ds all the best!

Dieu · 10/04/2020 07:49

Very well-done! Onwards and upwards now 💪

Brainengaged1 · 10/04/2020 07:58

Day 1 best night sleep I’ve had in years

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Weenurse · 10/04/2020 07:59

Congratulations on being rid of a lying, cheating scumbag.💐

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 10/04/2020 08:04

Good for you OP!

NotStayingIn · 10/04/2020 08:08

Good for you for taking control. Hope you are ok though, I appreciate it must be though. But hang in there, you’ve made me first step and things will eventually get better.

Billben · 10/04/2020 08:08

Who on earth voted YABU 🙄

Ethelfleda · 10/04/2020 08:10

Good on you OP.

NewName2020 · 10/04/2020 08:15

Well done OP!

millymollymoomoo · 10/04/2020 08:15

I’m sure morally it’s the best thing legally if he is joint owner of the marital home he has as much right as you to stay

Sounds like you will better off without him!

midnightstar66 · 10/04/2020 08:15

Sounds like it's been a huge weight lifted from your shoulders OP. Well done

Brainengaged1 · 10/04/2020 08:16

Yes he still hasn’t texted our ds to say good night ! Probably on line though texting ow

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Brainengaged1 · 10/04/2020 08:18

Yes we are both on property deeds and I can move back in any time I want to , I haven’t forfeited my rights ( got advice before I kicked him out )

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R2519 · 10/04/2020 09:04

OP. Good for you. People who cheat are the scum of the earth. I would never and could never cheat on my wife and I'm always appalled at those who do. Think of yourself from now on and your child too. Gather evidence of infidelity and When this is all done and dusted divorce him on those grounds.

peachypetite · 10/04/2020 09:13

Well done!

Firsttimelottie · 10/04/2020 09:25

Well done OP!

billy1966 · 10/04/2020 09:28

Well rid OP

Balhammom · 10/04/2020 09:36

Not sure kicking him out during lockdown is really appropriate.

Making him move into the spare room, fine. Starting divorce process, also fine.

Would clearly be different if you were at risk of physical harm. However, you may have some explaining to do to DC if he comes to harm as a result of you kicking him out during the most unprecedented public health emergency in a century.

CircleofWillis · 10/04/2020 09:45

Balhammom he is living in an empty house they have. Any risks he takes as a result of moving out are down to him and nothing to do with the OP. He is a grown man and responsible for his own actions.

Brainengaged1 · 10/04/2020 09:49

@balhammom
He is in a safe environment. It’s an empty house . it’s HIM that is putting himself at risk to our FAMILY if he unable to control his wondering prit stick . Corona is within his gift at this stage to minimise

He is clearly moving towards less social distancing . This is not on me if he gets it or any other disease

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Iwantacookie · 10/04/2020 09:51

Well done op. Even though you feel empowered now make sure you have support in place in case you need it.

Brainengaged1 · 10/04/2020 09:56

@Iwantacookie

Thanks - ducks all lined up as much as can be during this lock down.

Mumnet has been a life line as has chump lady web site as cannot talk in person to my extended family at this time

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Noooblerooble · 10/04/2020 09:59

I totally support you in having kicked him out. He chose to cheat. He didn't slip and fall onto this website. It was a cruel selfish thing to do at a time of such heightened stress and fear and I'm not sure why you are the one who should be thinking about being kind

Well done for being so strong. Wishing you a much brighter future.

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