My ex and I separated middle of last year. We have the kids 50/50. He hasn't worked for years while I have a well paying job (2 pt jobs doing about 45 - 50 hours per week). Our kids are teens and there's no real reason for him not to have a job.
I have been assessed to pay $7800pa child support and I'm wondering if others can tell me if I am being fair. We opted for private collection so I don't actually pay him anything directly unless to reimburse him for things spent on the kids. Annually I pay for:
School related costs $2500
Sports related costs $1000
Allowances $1664
Phone plans $350
Most bday/xmas presents $1000
Outings/Movies etc $500
Clothing $1000
Without including other small incidental costs, I'm covering a little more than my assessment but over the course of the year, I'm probably covering another couple of thousand. I also buy pet supplies and pay for vets for the family pets.
I'm making sure I keep a record of all payments just in case the private arrangement comes back to bite me in the future.
In the way that I'm doing this, am I being fair? I suspect if I paid the money via the CSA, I'd have a hard time getting 50% of costs when they come up so this way makes sense to me and he seems happy though we haven't done our property settlement yet.
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OMGMyLifeIsCrazy · 31/01/2020 01:26
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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