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I've posted before on this, if anyone recognised my other thread please don't post any identifying details on this one, thanks.
For a long time I was concerned about the safety of one of my child's friends. We are friends with his parents also. Or rather, I was good friends with her and we'd have dinner etc with them both.
Both parents are VERY heavy drinkers. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a judgy person, dh and I like a drink ourselves. But they regularly drink drive (and I mean plastered) and she's been passing out early in the afternoon. She's also passed out when having kids over for play dates. Not my child though. I've also recently been told drugs may be involved.
She's also been turning up to school drop off and pick up drunk.
I've been told by her that he's been physically abusive to her child when he's drunk. And her. Since they were 2 years old. I've also been told be other people that she is abusive to the husband. Which is true (or both) I don't know.
I'm not in the UK so services here are very different.
I did contact both our version of social services (and from what I'm aware of have done nothing, they're extremely overstretched and I'd already been told that as the child is fed and clothed this probably wouldn't make their threshold) and the school. I know the school have taken it very seriously and some kind of action has been taken but I'm not clear what.
Obviously reporting was something I had to do. But now she's completely withdrawn from the community. She won't talk to anyone. Obviously she doesn't know who reported them but will be suspecting everyone. Her child's behaviour has got much worse at school and he's saying some really sad and alarming things.
I don't know what I'm hoping for from this thread really, maybe just validation I did the right thing as it seems to have just made things worse for them.
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In feeling like reporting this family was the wrong thing to do?
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mumstable · 17/11/2019 14:57
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