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AIBU?

AIBU to be pissed off over these replies?

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CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 20/10/2019 20:41

We are currently tying down numbers for the Christmas celebration.

Various emails were sent out to all and then, for those that didn’t reply we sent out a final communication to individuals just asking “Are you planning on attending?”

I sent half and so did DH. We have full view of each other’s in box for ease.

She sent a response “I’d like to attend the meal but as I’m off sick (she has surgery plannned with a rest period after) I didnt think I could attend”

DH replied “you will be off sick, doesn’t mean you can’t socialise”

Her response was “thank you x you can keep me company on the table”

It’s a partner dinner and dance so I found this quite a strange response but left it.

DH responded “great” she came back with “you are the best boss and person Ihave ever met xx”

He sent “don’t be daft” to which she responded “you love it”

I’m just sitting here thinking wtf! We have been married for years, grown teens, no issues etc is she flirting with him?

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GertrudeCB · 20/10/2019 20:42

Sounds like it.

FunOnTheBeach20 · 20/10/2019 20:44

She sounds a bit try hard.

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 20/10/2019 20:47

This doesn’t sound sexually flirty iyswim. It’s more ‘you love being told you are a great boss’. Considering she thought she was taking the piss attending and was encouraged to go she was being overly greatful/friendly.

thisneverendingsummer · 20/10/2019 20:52

@CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe

Hmmm, not sure about this. Could well be innocent, but keep an eye on it.

My heart tells me it's nothing (as they are not hiding anything,) but some men love attention from other women, (especially if it keeps wifey on her toes, and grateful he is with her,) and their head can easily be turned.

Hope it doesn't turn into anything.

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 20/10/2019 20:52

The xx piss me off but I’m a professional so maybe I’m seeing too much in to them

It’s so over the top though isn’t it, I agree she sounds needy/try too hard

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Drum2018 · 20/10/2019 20:52

She sounds like she's flirting and he's engaging, so he's as bad. When she said about keeping her company he shouldn't have replied at all, let alone say 'great'.

CAG12 · 20/10/2019 20:52

Theres so much thats weird about this.

A) the tone of your follow up email.
B) the forcing someone into socialising.
C) the womans responce to your DH.

Since you only asked about C - yes, I think she is, but its really cringe

Pinkarsedfly · 20/10/2019 20:54

Flirting.

Interestedwoman · 20/10/2019 20:55

@ThatssomebadhatHarry but she didn't just say 'you are the best boss' she said 'you are the best boss and person I have ever met.'

That goes beyond flirting- it's heavy!

At least it sounds like your DH isn't taking her up on it, OP.

RLOU30 · 20/10/2019 20:56

I don't think your husband needed to reply the second time.

GuessWhoColeen · 20/10/2019 20:59

She sounds like she may have had a vino or two?

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 20/10/2019 21:00

interested he isn’t but I don’t know how to approach it, do I tell her to back off, encourage him to do it?

His view is, him trying to engage our people, inclusion etc it’s all there to see

Who send the above to their boss knowing they are married with DC? I just don’t get it.

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MT2017 · 20/10/2019 21:05

Seat her next to you

Ohyesiam · 20/10/2019 21:05

She has a bit of a crush I’d say. He needs to tell her to can it.

managedmis · 20/10/2019 21:12

Crikey

GettingABitDesperateNow · 20/10/2019 21:12

Yes she is flirting. He sounded a bit more neutral but didnt shut her down. Plenty of people hit on married people.

RLOU30 · 20/10/2019 21:13

why would you tell her to back off ? DH should take charge of.the situation if it goes any further. What does he think of her replies? did he not tell you before he replied I mean it is a bit heavy. The "you love it" almost implies that she knows him well. Can't imagine being that cheeky.

diddl · 20/10/2019 21:21

Why did he respond with "great" in the first place?

MaybeitsMaybelline · 20/10/2019 21:22

Yes definitely sit her with you, that’s hilarious.

I would assume she has been on the wine

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 20/10/2019 21:25

I agree RLOU the “you love it” implied a history

I’m so confused right now, it’s sad

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CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 20/10/2019 21:26

Sent during working hours so I hope no wine invved.

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RLOU30 · 20/10/2019 21:37

Sorry OP - I assume you have looked at their previous email history?
Hopefully she is just a cheeky fucker

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mankyfourthtoe · 20/10/2019 21:39

I'd reply as you, sorry he'll be busy dancing with his wife xxx

Migrainefun · 20/10/2019 21:39

Have him shut it down now, she's shown herself up.

Poppinjay · 20/10/2019 21:43

Mkae sure you have control of the seating plans and see how he responds to that.

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