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AIBU?

Crazy Woman at school

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BaudelaireGal · 20/10/2019 00:24

Hi all! NC for this. Got myself in a bit of a pickle. No fault of my own, though..

Right, so I moved to a different town not long ago. Completely new place, don't know anybody here. First day out and about, getting to know everything, lovely day, great mood and all that. I needed to find a particular place and stupidly forgot my phone at home. Saw a man standing and having a cigarette.

Come up, say hi, explain I'm new here, ask him where could I find such and such. He explains, shows me the direction, asks how do I like my new town. We were talking for 2 mins or so.

A woman storms out of a bakery nearby and angrily heads to the man I'm talking to. Grabs his arm and greets me with a frosty/annoyed expression. I smile, say hi, explain I'm new, etc.. Not saying a word she turns around and heads back to said bakery half-dragging her husband (presumably) with her. Um.. Not weird at all, I think and then continue with my day.

Fast forward a couple of weeks, I'm going to pick up my DD from school. And there they are, coming towards me, the Crazy Woman, her hubby and their kids. To be honest, I didn't want to speak to any of them and would have gladly avoided them all. Alas, wasn't meant to be. Hubby smiled and stopped to talk to me, the Crazy Woman stormed off with kids. Again, 1 min talk, 'hi', 'how are you settling', 'bye'. That's it.

Now some time passed after this and I noticed some other mums giving me a side eye. It was fine before, up to the point I met the Crazy Woman in the school yard. Ok, maybe I'm paranoid, I hope I am. But it doesn't feel like it..

I don't know her. I don't know her husband. I saw him those two times only and I don't feel any desire to see him again. I don't even know his name, FFS! I guess what I'm asking is...

What do I do now?

Talk to the Crazy Woman (nooooo..)
Make and wear an 'I don't sleep with Crazy Woman's husband' poster on a school run
Talk to the husband (maybe? Prefer not to, though)
Do nothing.

I don't usually care what other people say or think of me. It's this injustice that gets to me. I absolutely don't know that man, not at all, and now some other women think I'm having an affair with other woman's husband? If he would be single, and they'd think I'm shagging him - I wouldn't care, think what you like, whatever. But he has a family and it's just not on.

Also, what if the Crazy Woman is friends with my DD's teacher???

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GVROM · 20/10/2019 00:45

I'd go with 1 or 4.

I know 1 seems like a huge 'noooo' at the moment, but I've had similar incidents and it's worked out fine. I've usually just initiated general chit chat and it seems to be enough to break the ice.

She may not be suspicious of your intentions with her husband. It could just be that she's just asked him to do something or not make her late somewhere and she gets irritated every time he gets distracted by something else and has a stern face

SuchAToDo · 20/10/2019 00:55

I would give her a wide berth to be honest, if she passes you and you make eye contact, nod, smile and move on,

From the sounds of it I don't think the problem is even with you, I think her problem is her husband was talking to a female without her there as look at how she reacted both times, glaring at you, storming over angrily, pulling husband away.....maybe she is the jealous controlling type and doesn't like her husband to even glance at another woman...or maybe they have trust issues in their marriage...or maybe he has cheated on her in the past and it hits a trigger with her when he talks to another female incase he is tempted to cheat again....or she could just be a crazy bitch acting that way to start something with you....only she knows why she acted like that....but if I was you I'd give both her and her husband a wide berth , they sound like too much work😂

seaweedandmarchingbands · 20/10/2019 05:48

Maybe she has very good reason to be angry with her husband. Maybe it’s not your business?

Aroundnabout1 · 20/10/2019 05:56

She's a nut. Avoid both of them and keep any contact business like. You've done nothing wrong. Hold your head up and continue being your nice frindly self. Chances are if you think shes a crazy but other people will know she is too.

TheBrockmans · 20/10/2019 06:12

Find the school gossip, as them 'confidentially' what is going on with crazy woman and dh because you have met them twice and she seems very jittery. Let school gossip disseminate your innocence. I imagine he has a track record of flirting or worse and I would probably try to avoid him.

Pointlessquestions · 20/10/2019 06:53

Really? Maybe she has good reason? If you had seen a woman being dragged across the street by her angry husband people would be worried about abuse and contacting authorities. As it's a man he must deserve it?

Pointlessquestions · 20/10/2019 06:54

I would just avoid both of them completely. Hopefully any gossip will die down if you have nothing more to do with them

seaweedandmarchingbands · 20/10/2019 06:55

To be fair, it says “half-dragging”. I wasn’t envisaging her pulling him away by force from that description, which isn’t exactly lacking in hyperbole.

WellErrr · 20/10/2019 07:00

Find the school gossip, as them 'confidentially' what is going on with crazy woman and dh because you have met them twice and she seems very jittery. Let school gossip disseminate your innocence. I imagine he has a track record of flirting or worse and I would probably try to avoid him.

Absolutely this ^

Avoid him and her, and resist the temptation to label her as crazy. You don’t know the history.

Lovemenorca · 20/10/2019 07:10

Odd that she reacts like that supposedly
But next time her husband stops and stops to speak with you

So... either you are exaggerating OR her husband is used to this kind of behaviour from her and has learned just to ignore because it’s harmless OR he has no respect for her, in which case give them both a wide berth

In any event the language of your post is such high drama that I suspect you see shadows where there are none

SnuggyBuggy · 20/10/2019 07:11

I'd maybe try to talk to some of the other mums discreetly. She sounds a nasty piece of work, maybe they're scared of her.

doozer42 · 20/10/2019 07:21

Talk to DDs teacher. Let it be known this has confused you and upset you as you want your DD to settle in school (you may get some background info from her teacher- you may not due to confidentiality but worth a try). Like previous posts, get the word out that you want nothing to do with that family and they have made you feel very unwelcome. Then also talk to other mums and say the same. And ask if there are any WhatsApp or Facebook groups for the class and join in with other parents.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 20/10/2019 07:22

doozer42

In other words, bitch to as many people as you can.

TheVanguardSix · 20/10/2019 07:42

Option 4
Avoid both. You can't really do small talk with the dad if the mum's going to behave that way.
Wide berth.

TheFatberg · 20/10/2019 07:43

As if the class teacher would give a shit!

TherapistInATabard · 20/10/2019 07:44

Please don’t talk to the teacher . They have more than enough on their plates. If you have direct proof that this nonsense is affecting your child then fine, but otherwise leave the school out of it.

MrsEricBana · 20/10/2019 07:51

Just avoid them both. Others will already know what she's like. Not nice though.

Witchinaditch · 20/10/2019 08:00

Anyone else find it strange you introduced yourself to someone on the street and said you were new in town? I would have just asked for what I was looking for and left...maybe that’s just me. Just ignore them
OP

Instatwat · 20/10/2019 08:02

“Talk to the teacher” 🙄🙄🙄 You’re one of THOSE parents, aren’t you?

I think remaining polite to crazy lady in the face of her attitude and ignoring the side-eye is the way to go.

Spied · 20/10/2019 08:06

Avoid both. You don't want this drama to escalate.

BlueJava · 20/10/2019 08:10

I'd do 4 - it'll blow over when the next "exciting" thing happens and it'll only escalate otherwise.

Lovemenorca · 20/10/2019 08:22

Ignore @doozer42

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lisag1969 · 20/10/2019 08:24

She seems to me that she can't trust him. So it's their problem.
If he talks to you again. Tell him you have done nothing wrong and resent his wife being rude to you for no reason.
Otherwise get her on her own and her to grow up

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/10/2019 08:27

I’d just ignore her.
She adds or takes nothing from your life. She doesn’t seem like the sort of person you can reason with, in any case

Aridane · 20/10/2019 08:30

Find the school gossip, as them 'confidentially' what is going on with crazy woman and dh because you have met them twice and she seems very jittery. Let school gossip disseminate your innocence. I imagine he has a track record of flirting or worse and I would probably try to avoid him

Oh goodness no. Step above it and ignore

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