Hi all,
This might be long winded so I apologise in advance but I want to give as much back story so I’m not drip feeding.
I have an amazing DH, DD(7) and DS(1). I went back to work about 4 months ago and a new guy, let’s call him Fred, was there. He’s ok, had a few troubles in his life etc but anyway we became friends.
He recently (a week ago) told me he has feelings for me. I told him I’m not available and I’m happy as I am etc. He then told me that if he becomes quiet then it means he’s struggling to understand that he can’t have what he wants. Which is me. So I told him I will give him some space.
He was in a relationship with a lovely woman (one of my closest friends knows her) and he told his GF that he doesn’t want to be with her anymore. She was devastated. (I didn’t know this had happened) after I told him I wasn’t available, they got back together.
Anyway, a few days ago, he was in one of his silent moods so I gave him his space. The next day he was telling the whole office I was a bitch and ignoring him when I wasn’t in the room (I’m middle management) I went off on my way to speak to a manager about a complaint and he stopped me when it was just me and him alone. He looked so angry saying “what are you fucking doing to me?? You DON’T ignore me. You respect how I feel” etc. I was so lost for words I told him that this is unprofessional and he needs to step away. His parting words were “this was the wrong thing to do to me” and walked off.
He then left for the day and took the next day off due to depression. I told my manager what has happened due to the fact it’s now affected work. He said I haven’t done anything wrong and has moved me to be next to him.
I have since found out that Fred has been trying to find out where I live. On our systems and asking other colleagues. Thankfully my address hasn’t been shared.
I told my best friend (who is also friends with Fred and his GF) that I am planning on logging this with HR as I’m scared. My friend then went ballistic saying that he is going through a hard time and I should respect that etc and now she isn’t talking to me.
What do I do??
My DH has been so lovely and so understanding. I feel so embarrassed by what he has done as a few members of my team have been asking what’s happened etc I haven’t said anything and played ignorance.
What would you do?
I have to see him Monday and worried about what will happen.
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Gettingtoomuch1 · 21/09/2019 20:08
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