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to be fumimg that hes been sacked yet again!!!

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PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 10:24

My partner has just been sacked!! I'm so angry with him. Sometimes no matter whos in the wrong you cant keep having a go at your boss!! He's so argumentative can never back down and always has to have the last word. Sometimes in life you just have to grit your teeth and do the job because you need the fucking money!!!

Sorry i just need to rant!! This is the 2nd time its happened in 6 months with the same company. I dont think they will take him back this time.

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EmeraldShamrock · 10/04/2019 10:29

Shit OP. I don't blame you, I would be livid with him.
He needs to learn to speak inside his head.

Tomtontom · 10/04/2019 10:33

Does he ever shout at you Poppy? Has he got anger management issues and is he getting help for them?

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/04/2019 10:33

Oh no. Bloody hell talk about not learning. If it was a case where by he was a slow worker or doing his best but underperforming. I'd be in the mind set of its not entirely his fault.
However to be sacked from a company get back in there and then do the same thing (which can be helped). What was he thinking of.
He was exceedly lucky that the company took him back.
I know there are times you've got to speak your mind, and that's a good thing.
However sometimes it is a case of "You can think what you like, but you can't say what you like."

NoKnit · 10/04/2019 10:35

I know this is annoying but please if you love him be there for your husband.

I have known cases where things like this have not ended well.

MortyVicar · 10/04/2019 10:42

I know this is annoying but please if you love him be there for your husband.

If he'd been sacked unfairly then I'd agree, but when it's his own fault then no. His actions affect the OP hugely.

OP I'm another one asking - if he always has to be right, and have the last word and not back down, does this apply in your relationship too? Because if it does, then think hard about whether you still want to be with him.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 10/04/2019 10:44

He must be a joy to live with ....

Shoxfordian · 10/04/2019 10:45

He's irresponsible
Is he angry like this with you as well?

Purplecatshopaholic · 10/04/2019 10:50

My Ex was like this. And every time, he got angrier and angrier, as it was always their fault not his for not keeping his mouth shut. One of the many reasons he is now my Ex...

speakout · 10/04/2019 10:52

He's so argumentative can never back down and always has to have the last word.

At home too?

JaneEyre07 · 10/04/2019 10:54

You poor thing.

That's also going to blow any reference from them.

He's clearly not learned anything from last time.

pinkyredrose · 10/04/2019 10:58

Why do you want to be with this angry tosser?

PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 10:59

Well its a weird situation the one before was his fault (imo) shouting, swearing and threatening manager in anger but they took him back because the manager admitted he started it and he was winding him up. But he could of easily bit his tongue and gone to the main boss first instead on retaliating back. Today im not sure really he said his main boss asked him to do something a bit dodgy.. he asked him to cut a key of the shop they're working in (in secret) and go in there when no one's there to get theyre equipment out (they're builders) which is totally wrong and when my partner told him he'd done it for him he said he didnt say that and my partner is a liar and sacked him. So not sure if im getting the full story or what. Sounds prettt weird to me.

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downcasteyes · 10/04/2019 11:00

Oh gosh. You poor thing.

I have a friend whose husband is also serially being fired. He is a lovely bloke but has a real problem with injustice - just cannot keep quiet when faced with it. It has its good points - he will speak truth to power - and its bad - he'll go off the deep end and treat a minor customer service problem like it's a human rights issue that requires the immediate intervention of Amnesty International. It actually turned out that he had an undiagnosed, non-neurotypical issue which was contributing to the behaviour. Of course, someone being serially fired doesn't have to have a pathological cause - but in this case it did. Just putting it out there in case it is helpful.

PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 11:00

And to the questions about our relationship.. thats a whole other thread!!

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HBStowe · 10/04/2019 11:02

This latest incident doesn’t sound like your DH’s fault (except that he should’ve refused to do something dodgy). It sounds like he was set up by his manager?

PoppyD93x · 10/04/2019 11:06

Yeah does sound set up or he's not telling me the full story

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Itssosunny · 10/04/2019 11:07

Your DH needs to find a new employer and stay away from the dodgy ones as they can destroy his future opportunities.
Don't be angry at him as the employer is dodgy. Ideally, your DH should have kept quiet and then left them for another job but you can't change it and it's a lesson for him for the future.

Candleglow7475 · 10/04/2019 11:07

Maybe that’s only half a story?
If it’s the full story I’d say he’s better off out of there if the boss is being dodgy like that.
It also sounds like he should learn to keep his mouth shut too, it’s just part of being an adult ... y’know not blurting out/ shouting the first thing that comes into your head?

bethy15 · 10/04/2019 11:07

Sounds like a dodgy company though.

Letting him back after such an argument, and his manager saying he was arguing like that too.Now this.

It sounds hella dodgy. Is it a 'legit' company.

Itssosunny · 10/04/2019 11:08

He is lucky not to have this job as he could have paid for his employer's dodgy dealings.

SnuggyBuggy · 10/04/2019 11:10

The whole situation sounds dodgy. Is he willing to seek help for the anger and find a less dodgy workplace?

StarTheGirl · 10/04/2019 11:11

Omg tbh, that most recent thing sounds like a set up! Was it the same boss who he swore at? If so, could this be pay back for that?

He’s a total idiot for letting himself get so wound up he swore AT anyone at work, let alone his boss in the first place. But this most recent thing actually doesn’t sound totally his fault... unless he lost it again and shouted and swore... Did he?

Also, would be worried if he does this at home too.

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WeeDangerousSpike · 10/04/2019 11:13

It does sound dodgy - did he say he'd done the key and equipment thing in front of someone else and drop boss in it?

I can imagine you're angry, I'd be livid.

Life's too long to spend with an angry shouty man, you have my sympathy, I have one too.

WattdeEll · 10/04/2019 11:15

My ex was like this too. He has had 26 jobs in ten years. He was never out of work for long, but he was a perpetual victim, nothing was ever his fault, it was always that the managers were rubbish, accounts wouldn’t know what they were talking about and whatever else excuse he has that put the blame elsewhere. Every job he started would be the best job ever, then he would wind people up the wrong way, argue with key staff. I put up with it for so long and after a while the impact and stress on me was too much.
Only you know if this latest thing is because the company genuinely isn’t being run well, or if this is a long line of jobs where he hasn’t lasted because he isn’t capable of learning from mistakes and of holding down employment. Listen to your gut instinct

TreadingThePrimrosePath · 10/04/2019 11:15

She was there for him last time, NoKnit, and he appears to have learnt nothing at all in the intervening 6 months. It’s more than merely annoying, it’s a very immature attitude from an adult in a relationship with bills to pay. It’s also currently not a good climate for job-hunting, and being sacked for being argumentative isn’t a good look on a cv either.

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