I know its not really an AIBU. But please someone help.. I just hate my job after being promoted.
I dont think i like being in 'authority' and having to have confrontation with colleagues. I hate everyone reporting to me, telling on eachother and constantly needing my help/support for every little thing.
I was promoted 1 year ago to manage a team. I'm only in my late twenties and was actually a manager for a short while after graduating. I couldn't hack the staffing issues/office politics. It wrecked havoc with my mental health having to constantly rein in staff and then being bitched about for doing my job. When i left i vowed to never go into managing staff again unless it was my own business.
Fast forward several years and i was encouraged by other senior members in my profession to go in for a promotion. Took a long time to be persuaded and when i got the job a year ago, i thought itd be different this time. I honestly thought that maybe it was because i was so young with little work experience that i couldn't handle it last time.
This time... Its also bad. I have women twice my age bitching about eachother and telling tales. People not doing their jobs right that i have to confront.
I only seem to have 2 options in this type of role.
Option 1 - pull someone up nicely on an error or problem and have them bitch about me for it to the rest of the staff team. no matter my approach/support people hate being pulled up.
Option 2 - ignore it and then be a walk over and let bad practice continue to happen.
If you take away the staffing issues, the job itself i love. But i spend hardly any time doing my job because im constantly having to babysit staff.
I think my issue is, im a friendly outgoing type character. I'm normally always friends with all my colleagues and never get into any type of disputes. Before being promoted there wasnt 1 person id ever had a cross word with. I can be aasertive with colleagues on equal footing to myself but have never really had to be.
In this role its almost inevitable though. Everyday theres something. Someone turns up late.. I have to say something. If i don't they'll start taking the piss with lateness. Someone else wants to book a certain week off. I have to say no due to staffing and then they have the hump with me.
I can't do right for doing wrong! I feel its either i do my job well and everyone bitches about me, or i say nothing and im a crap manager!!
I'm very fair to everyone and respectful but grown adults still can't hack being told no.
Ive spoken to other managers about this and they just don't care what their subordinates think of them. So long as the job gets done and they know theyve been fair.
I think im just not cut out for management. I'm gonna give it another year so i have 2 years under my belt and then move on if it doesnt improve. But in the meanwhile.. Is there any advice anyone can please give me?
I feel if i don't develop my management strategies soon then my mental health will take a tumble like last time.
Any advice/constructive criticisms would be much appreciated.
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Gamechanger12e3 · 21/03/2019 19:52
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