I have a little boy who turned 2 quite recently. As he's getting older, I've started having more comments about him being rear- facing. And quite honestly, it's starting to annoy the fuck out of me. Now my son is quite tall for his age and has a sturdy frame, so well above the weight minimum, which is why I think people are struggling to understand why he's not forward facing yet.
The people are making comments are mostly relatives, some who have young children themselves and turned them FF as soon as they could.
I don't care what people do as they deem it appropriate as parents to do it. However, I don't for MY child. Thing is, he's absolutely fine RF. He doesn't whinge at all, and seems very comfortable like it, plus he loves nosing out the back window
Me and his dad both agree this is what we feel comfortable with currently. We've done a lot of research into extended rear facing, and have decided as parents to carry on with this as we feel it's safer in the event of an accident. If he became upset or uncomfortable to the point of distraction, then we'd re-evaluate.
I don't discuss this decision with anyone, or query when people turn their babies the second they turn 9 months or at the weight limit. It's up to them, I leave them to it. And yet, I'm having so many comments on it lately regarding my son, such as:
"He's heavy/tall enough to face the front now"
"Ahh poor little Jonny (not his name), he's stuck facing the back"
"Ahh poor little Johnny can't see anything"
"ahh poor little Jonny can't see mum/dad"
"he's probably bored out of his mind"
"You can't interact with him that way"
And so on. It's really starting to irritate me. However, I also feel at a loss of what to say because they people are mostly relatives and I don't want to say anything that would indicate I judge their choice to turn their kids, if that makes sense.
I have a friend whos child is still RF (a little younger than mine) and she also has the same at times.
It's making me feel like I'm being cruel to DS, but he's HAPPY as he is at the moment. He actually drags me to the car sometimes as he wants to go for a ride we will obviously turn him eventually but right now, are more comfortable this way.
AIBU or just over sensitive about this? Any suggestions of replies I can give next time someone comments?
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To keep my toddler rear-facing?
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Chocolateheaven123 · 07/03/2019 15:33
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