Hi all. Will try and condense this all down a bit.
I finally left my abusive ‘DH’ nearly 10 years ago after he became violentl towards my then 14 YO DS.
Unknown to me at the time, he was heavily abusing Cocaine and around 2 years after we separate he had a breakdown, and was put on anti psychotics and antidepressants which he’s still on. Since being on these he has almost become the complete opposite, almost zombie like instead of angry and violent.
When we split up he moved away to live near his family, which Is only around an hour away, which he has used to avoid having the DC’s for more than a couple of hours every other weekend st the most. He has no interest in things like their schooling, or every day lives. He has paid maintenance, but it’s been very sporadic as he is always in and out of work. He has always paid the bare minimum for them, pleading poverty when in fact he earns a good wage. He is self employed though and hides a lot of his earnings from the CSA and me. He has not ever offered me any support with the DC’s and sees the kids as my job, not his.
Anyway - last year I inherited some money. It’s a fair bit, but not a life changing about. I So far have used it to pay off my debts ( many that should have been his), buy a car, a holiday for the kids and the things they needed but I wasn’t able to provide before this (eg, computer, bike. I have also put some in ISA’s for them, and put some away to help my eldest DD (20) through uni.
DC’s.
Since i got this money, he has suddenly turned into Mr Perfect, seeing the
DC’s more and being nice and helpful.
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AIBU in telling ex H he’s not getting a penny out of me
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PrickWhittington · 13/12/2018 03:31
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